What's the ideal child?
Personally Responsible: They do things because they need to be done, take responsibility for wrongdoing, and do not even think of blaming others for anything that goes wrong without proof.Industrious: They work hard without being prompted to, and do more if they are able to.Honest: They do not tell lies. Ever.Independent: They are capable of taking care of themselves to an extent, they can be trusted to walk five miles alone to the playground without anything bad happening, and they can be trusted to do what needs to be done without being hovered over or constantly monitored.Assertive: They are not pushovers when they are bullied, they know how to speak up for themselves when treated unfairly, they are active bystanders when they see bullying or criminal activity, and they are capable of defending themselves physically and verbally.Courageous: They have a backbone, and they don’t run to their parents at the first sign of discomfort.Courteous: They always speak and act in a polite and well-mannered form, and never act rude, insulting, aggressively, or provocatively.Rational: They use logical arguments to justify their opinions, and they use reason to justify their religious beliefs, rather than being reliant on emotional appeals or the loudness of their voice to win arguments.
What would the ideal childhood look like?
Gifts all the time ! Ice cream and cake when ever they want it ! Fun all the time ! Summer vacation all their life ! No homework no school ! If they do not have to do it , wear it , eat it or study it or go to school then they will not do it ! Thanks
How did you look in your childhood?
A2ALike this -The right one is me.The one in pink polythene is me! :PThe one on the left is me…
What was your childhood like?
parents divorced life path completely changed. my doll said it all, poor pitiful pearl, from rags to riches to rags.
How does your childhood binder look like?
“How does your childhood binder look like?”I’m not sure if I’m understanding the question correctly, but I’m picturing something like a photo album or scrapbook?And I don’t think I have one. When my mother downsized from her house to a condo, there was 40 years worth of ‘stuff’ that needed to be sorted through. My siblings were great about carefully going through it all, but I had no interest in having any of it for myself. I also have no interest in wandering down memory lane. I take after my maternal grandmother, who often said, “Who’d want that old, dusty crap?”Thanks for asking me this question, Hideko Higashida.
Have you ever had any dream in childhood? What are they? Did you still have them now? Why or why not?
As a child I kept dreaming of being chased by a grizzly bear. One day I was so weary of running, I stopped to confront it. The bear turned out to be friendly, like a giant pet. I stopped having the dream, because it played the role my subconscious mind intended for it; to let me know that there are aspects of myself that I fear, which are actually either not harmful, or even beneficial.
Are most mental health issues rooted in childhood?
Hi Matt. Rooted is an interesting idea. For something to take root, the conditions have to be there. In childhood, a person’s nervous system takes shape. A person’s genes express. There are experiences that have enough significance to cause a reaction. The reaction sets up a meaning. The meaning can have a strong influence on how future experiences are interpreted. So, yes, in a way, a person’s childhood has the potential to have a strong influence on later mental health.On the other hand (I always do this…) some people learn from their childhood environment and experiences what NOT to do, what the WILL NOT have in their future life, how they REFUSE to be with others, or in their work. For some people, adversity generates wisdom. But in my way of thinking about things, this is also a way that mental health is rooted in childhood. (But in a good way.)We also see that people who have an ideal childhood can turn out to have serious mental health challenges. We are biochemical beings, and our childhood isn’t the only source of trauma and challenges. So I also can’t say that most of mental health comes from childhood. Some of it does. But we have an ‘inner child,’ a part of us that requires care and respect, throughout life.No matter when, it is very healing to focus on something in current life that can represent freedom, talent, and security. Something that represents the best of us. I use my car key fob and hold it between my hands while paying attention to my talents, to the blessing of people in my life, to the freedoms and even the interesting challenges I get to face. Gratitude puts us fully in the present and is the strongest antidote I know to adversity.