Is it wrong to be embarrassed when I see black women that speak loud, fight, and twerk. Does this constitute self-hate?
eNo it’s not wrong.This ‘loud, fighting, twerking behaviour’ doesn’t really feed the negative stereotype that the media portrays, it’s actually the other way around.The media simply selects and publicises this type of carry on because it fits in with one of the established media character/stereotypes that is ‘black and female’.And you can test out whether this is true or not by counting the times you see people like yourself, your friends or your family portrayed anywhere. Whether that be in print, on TV, online wherever. If you do a quick survey over the next week, apart from when there’s been a crime you probably won’t be visible in any mainstream media. Your average African, Chinese, Asian, whatever else American is practically invisible.The default portrayal is either, Miss Loud and Black or Miss Single Ghetto Mother and Black, Miss Downtrodden and Black, Miss Drug Addict and Black, Miss Aggressive and Black and so on. The opposite portrayal on occasion is the perfect looking, be-weaved, uber successful, rich woman, Miss Absolutely, Perfect and Unattainable Black. However Miss Unattainable does not represent the majority coverage of ‘black’ women in the media.My point is, if the majority of what is presented to you wherever you look is a negative and a narrow portrayal of ‘black’ womanhood then you would be forgiven for thinking that is what African American women are like. Instead, the media mission, if mission is the right word is to mindlessly follow the same worn stereotypes because it makes sense to people, they are used to it.What if they just showed normal African American women for a year and by that I mean everyone, people like yourself and the people you know. Sometimes that would include loud people but not all the time.So, if you feel uncomfortable with very loud, aggressive people dancing in highly sexualised ways in public, then no, that’s not embarrassing or self hate. That’s not how you behave as an African American woman and why should you.What it is though, is a one sided, consistently negative portrayal of ‘black’ beauty and womanhood, that’s really what we should be calling out.
Do girls like it when boys twerk?
Well you're bi, and you find it attractive when boys twerk because you probably don't favor gender roles. But to a girl, male twerking is EXTREMELY unmasculine and therefore unattractive. Girls don't want a man who can booty dance better then they can, It's just awful. Not to mention the fact that its twerking and most people find it obscene and unattractive in the first place, even on women - Most will laugh at twerking before they're ever actually attracted to it.
Why do white girls want to learn to twerk?
Its seems twerkin has gone viral every since Miley Cyrus started doing it. Black women and latina women have been doing this for years so this is nothing new to us black folks. Twerkin or any type of dance that involves rapidly moving of the hips or buttocks came from African dancing. However in modern society twerkin has always been seen as obtrusive because it is a sexually provocative dance (if thats what you call it). Women are always talking about hyper sexualization of themselves on television especially black women but it seems to me that this stigma of the same sort of hyper-sexualized behavior has changed when a white girl chooses to do it. Let's be real here... Miley Cyrus started doing it and now many other white girls follow suit and they don't see anything wrong with it. What I want to know is why do white girls want to learn to twerk? What can be gained from learning something this obtrusive besides spices up a relationship in the bedroom? Why is this a new phoneomenon for white women and young white girls? Why is this not equally obtrusive when a white girl twerks than when a black girl does it?
Does this make me a lesbian!? please help me?
im 15 almost 16 and im pretty sure im straight, ive only had crushes on guys, but these are limited since i go to an all girls school and dont know any guys. like 2 years ago my friends cousin who is a guy made my vag tingle one night it was so weird. anyway, ever since i questioned 'am i a lesbian?' every time i see boobs, or like a model who has really skinny legs and you can see her vagina shape i freak out and feel like intrigued? not exactly.. but this never happened before i started questioning, so i doubt its a coincidence. i mean, it looks nice, simple, but its not like i want to go have sex with it! so is this just a phase because im worrying about it? now if i think about girls i get this weird feeling at the back of my mind. its like comfort. yeah i think girls are comforting and great as friends, i love friends. but then im worried that its something more, that its me knowing deep down i am. before this i had a massive celeb crush on justin bieber, and imagined sex with him and got turned on. i do things to test myself, so when i think about kissing guys i have like a mental blank, since i dont know any its really hard imagining being with one but it seems good at the same time. like my body seems like its good, but my mind is like 'mental blank/no.' with girls, i imagine it and its like oh ok a girl not exactly scary but then i feel sick in my stomach sometimes but its not like in my mind im saying 'no.' like in my mind its like ok whatever and i get the weird feeling/sensation/. so its like my mind wants girls because i ALWAYS am around girls, i know that they are nice and caring. but its like my body wants guys, but my mind is afraid of them since i know nothing about them. i think about guys and then im like what would that be like and then i think about my brother and im like ew, since hes the only boy i know. im not close to my dad or brother, but very close to my sister and mum. and muscles on guys seem scary. i look at girls and guys differently, so i dont think im bi. i think im one or the other. i am a clingy friend at times, but i think thats just my nature, not because im a lesbian. im socially awkward, so im awkward around both guys and girls. but around guys i try to be really really cool.. some girls i try to be cool around, but guys i think way more. and i feel confident around guys sometimes, when im on a high or something ah i dont know. help?
Do males like big butts on a small Asian girl?
Yes. It’s a well known fact that small Asian girls with big butts are the only type of woman that any man will ever find attractive. The down side to this is that only small Asian girls with big butts ever get married, have children and have to be polygamous with at least 2,000 husbands to prevent all the men in the world going to war over getting a likable wife …….I hope you caught my tone of insincerity! Look everybody is an individual. We all have different tastes. We all like different things. And isn’t that a good thing? It means that we can all be attractive to someone out there. Please don’t stereotype us all by thinking that all men find the same thing attractive. We do not!If you are a small Asian girl who thinks her butt is to big then stop it. Your butt is what it is. If you have a nice smile, a sense of humour and some self confidence then you will very quickly find out that there will be several males out there who like you for yourself and that goes with whatever sized butt you happen to have.
Why do women almost always cover their mouths when they are scared, or frightened?
when we cover our mouths, we are sort of saying that we are speechless through our actions, since we can not express our thoughts in words at the moment. it becomes habit sometimes subconsciously, we will think, "that person should not have said that," and as a result cover our mouths because we cant imagine saying that ourselves. this is actually a really good question. thanks for bringing my attention to it. and no, its not silly. :) i forgot another reason is that i think some men are turned on by seeing an open mouth *wink* and so i like to prevent any old perverts from getting turned on. i know that sounds sick, but tis true for me.
How can a white girl with a small butt learn to 'twerk'?
My boyfriend wants me to send a video of me 'twerking' my butt. But I'm white and I can't dance. I looked at some YouTube videos but I noticed my butt is much smaller then those girls. Will it look dumb If a girl with a small bottom does it? Can you give me some step by step instructions? Please help!
Do you think I have a nice butt compared to other Asian girls?
It really doesn’t matter what I think of your butt. As trite as it sounds, it matters only what you think of your butt.Here’s a secret about most men: they’d rather be with an average-butted woman who thinks her butt’s the best, as opposed to a great-butted woman who’s always critical of her butt.Besides, there’s literally billions of men on the planet. Some like big butts, some like smaller butts. Some like a little “meat on the bone,” some like them tiny so they can juggle them in the air like bowling pins. If men can’t even universally agree on what’s the best condiment to put on a hot dog, there’s never going to be a universal consensus on the “buns that matter.”You do you!(The correct answer to the hotdog question is mustard, relish, and a bit of kraut. Putting ketchup on a hot dog is a cardinal sin.)