Who is in the right? Me or my parents? They say I am only upset and broke because I drink and smoke, I say I am driven by them to being?
Upset, broke, drinking and smoking because I am taking out loans to pay for THEIR mortgage because they won’t take a real job because they want to work from home and can’t that pay the bills? I live on my own and have never had financial assistance from them. I am a full time student, and give my parents $300-$700 per month, and spend $20-70 per month on alcohol and cigarettes. They say they don’t want me telling them off for having me pay their bills with money I don’t have, and that I am only upset because of the alcohol ans cigarettes. I am not allowed to even get the slightest bit annoyed before they say it’s not them, it’s the alcohol/cigs. If I tell them to pay their own Bills, they go ape **** on me and tell me to stop smoking and drinking first.
I hate my parents right now!?
Wow. All this drama over a sleepover. Hon, you are thirteen. You have to listen to your parents. You don't hate them. You are frustrated with them. Big difference. I guarantee that in a month you won't care about this. In a year you won't even remember.
How do you say no to your parents?
My wife is a very conservative Chinese girl , she knew me the first time 6 years ago when she was just 18 years old and at the time I was 22 . She fell in love with me and wanted to be my girl friend . I found her a beautiful and wonderful lady, we decided to start courting but her mother was strongly against our realationship . I tried to persuade her that I will be a good husband but all my attempts ended in complete failure, she once told me that you have no apartment, no car , therefore I can't guarantee a safe future for my daughter, with a lot of sadness and sorrow I talked to my girlfriend that we have to stop here because I don't want to make her full of miseries because her mother doesn't like it that way . My girlfriend didn't give up , she kept insisting on her mother , threatening her to committe suicide if she didn't agree about our realationship , I will never forget the hard times she went through and the difficulties and troubles she ran into . Her mother even confiscated her passport for fear of fleeing the country, it took her almost three years to persuade her mother about our relationship, I will never ever forget …..We are now happily married ……
Do kids have a right to argue with their parents?
You don’t own your kids, you are their guardian. But enough legal stuff,If your child argues with you, then teach it to due it right. When the kid say “I’m hungry” then you have multiple styles, which you can use to persuade or argue back with.Threat or warn: "Stop crying or I'll give you something to REALLY cry about"Distract: Kids in Africa never gets anything to eat, think about that.Criticize: We just had dinner, why didn’t you finish your plate back then?Moralize: In this house we only eat when it’s dinner time.Command: Stop complaining.Ameliorate: Hunger is just a materialistic concern, love is all you need.Interrogate: Do you always get hungry, how long have you been hungry?Advise: Just think of something else, then your hunger will go awayIronize: The fat kid is hungry, I thought eating was the only thing you were good at.Psychologise: You are just saying you’re hungry because you have a evolve module, which is programmed to want food when it see an opportunityBribe: If you can wait until breakfast, then I’ll give you a stickerOr Sometime you should just let your child cry over the things it can’t change. Give your child a hug and let have the tears of futility.
Legally, what do my parents have a say in?
regardless, you're a minor, and short of emancipation or legal proceedings, there is nothing you can do.about anything they say. amd i.don't mean to sound harsh, but until you reach age of.majority, you don't own anything either, regardless of whether or.not you bought it.with your money. it's legally your parents' until you're an adult. in short - your parents own you till you are legally an adult, whether through age or emancipation
How do I say no to parents about marriage proposals?
A2AYou have a boyfriend or you simply don't want to marry right now?In either of the cases, simply tell them that you will marry when you will be willing to marry. You don't want to marry now. That's it. End of the story. Say that in clear words and in a serious tone. Tell them that don't waste your time finding guys, I will say 'no' to everyone you find, just because I don't want to marry right now. If you will force me to see guys, I will not hesitate to insult them or even you in front of them. If you don't want to see things turning worse, please don't force me to take a step that you can't handle. If parents can be stubborn - you are their daughter! :) Always remember that, your will is everything. Marriage is something that you should "never" do because you are of age, you should "never" do because society says so, you should "Never" do it, because you think it's time to - but always get married when you find someone worthy of sharing a life with. When you fall in love with someone. When you have that special-someone for whom you won't even think twice to die! That is the kind of commitment needed to start a marriage. If you have that for someone - marry him. If not - there is no need to marry for any reason! Prevention is better than cure - you don't want to regret for your entire life because of your one stupid decision, or because you did not fight at the right time. So don't face that kind of regret, rather take the decision wisely!Good luck :)
What should I say if my parents search my room, saying, "We bought the house."?
To make one thing clear: as long as you live with your parents this battle will always be asymmetric. They have more power maybe you can even say they are in power. Meanwhile I assume most parents to have your wellbeing as their goal so your job is to carefully pick your battles and make them understand your point.You can play it openly by discussion(probably the best):Tell them in any variation: “Please respect me (including my private space) now and I might not stop contact when I get adult”Ask, why they distrust you.“Do you really believe I am so stupid to let you find anything of the interesting stuff?” This can also be written in a carefully hidden diary.War of exhaustion(show them it is a waste of time):Gather thousands of chests and boxes, play lego and let the stuff lie around in chaos so that searching your room takes decades. Problem here is that they can just sell or throw away your stuff if they feel like it.A variant of this would be to encourage them to often search your empty room, probably by hiding your empty hands behind your back then storm off or something.Limited war for boundaries:Argue emotionally making it a point to protect your boundaries whenever the situation is clearly about you and your personal space but obey whenever it is about anything else.. like chores, homework, whatever. This shows how important this one point is to you and it gives your position support because you demonstrate a will to cooperate in other areas.Soft manipulative tactics:Get something large that can be locked with a key. Put your underwear in it. When they force you to open it explain that there is stuff you don’t want them to look through. When they insist they find your underwear but nothing else. Maybe they get the point.Make it a point that whatever they find in your room has been carefully placed for them to be found. Put a piece of paper under your bed that says “hey mom”. Hide a photo of yourself with a message for your parents in your closet… you get the point.