Would you put child support on your baby's father?
Even though I make more money, he has an obligation to her as well and I'm not letting my child be forgotten and tossed aside by someone who created her. When he left, I told a friend I wasn't going after child support because I'd rather forget he even existed. He wanted the baby when he poked the holes in the condoms, didn't want her when he met a new woman. I wasn't inviting that instability into my child's life. My friend's advice was a savings account for college. Turns out babies are more expensive than I remembered, plus I ended up working less with a baby to get home to. Not holding him responsible isn't just his loss. It's kinda mine too. And it's definitely hers. She has the right to whatever she can get from him. Which apparently isn't an interest in her well being, but it is her needs being met.
Child support-If I take father off can I put him back on if need be?
You and he should immediately contact the child support agency of the change in circumstances. If you received public assistance, he still may be obligated to pay to retire that debt. The court, in recognizing the change in circumstances, should entertain your joint motion and proposed agreed order to reduce or eliminate the child support payment to you. If the situation changes again, you should immediately inform the child support agency and file for child support. If you believe that the future is with your child's father, you might want to consider marriage. There are many legal and financial benefits. If it does not work out, you may be eligible (depending on state law) for alimony in addition to child support.
Should I have my kids' father pay child support?
I have two kids by this man. I make significantly more than him, and whatever the judge could possibly order really won't make a difference in the household. I would rather him spend his money on getting a place to live in a decent neighborhood and spending time with his kids. Some people say that I should make him pay child support because he is suppose to; however, I just don't see the point. I'm struggling. The kids are well taken care of, and I could imagine how difficult it would be if I had to send 25% of my income to someone else. I couldn't imagine it being good for him.
Should a young father put himself on child support and determine paternity since the mom keeps the kid away?
I am 20yr old male with a 5months son I think. The mother of the child use to live in the same area before she got pregnant but after being about a month pregnant move to a city inside the same state but far away.I have asked her for a paternity she won't do it.I asked could we set up something where he visits my family she says no.The reason I ask for a paternity test is because before and after she was pregnant I had trust issue cause she 17yrs old immature and not for a serious relationship. I said she cheated with two other males cause they where just a liil too close of course she denied it then she was about a month at the time.Then a month after he was born I received a message via myspace frm a fake account its a pic of her with a towel almost naked.I called her she denied it again so I assumed it was one of the dude I accused her of messing with a while back.Now,we barely talk maybe a week ago she confessed yeah it was that dude who sent the pics,yeah she did do something,and she is in a relationship with the dude. I have received bad text messages,and voicemail of him wanting to fight. I also like the first month spend like 400 on bed and stroller.Last month I also sent 200 to a child I never see and not sure she is mines. She pretty much keeping me way and doing her on thing. My aunt says I should just put myself on child support and be done with it. I'm a little worried about that cause she can lie and say I didn't be anything. She can deny she didn't do anything and the courts may lean her way with everything maybe if his is mines. She even has visited town didn't tell me or bring him by then calls after she leaves and tells me she was in town but not anymore just childish immature. I know the courts or hard on fathers and if he is mines who know how child much support payments will be. I just think she has it easy and just gonna get by with the stuff she did.What do y'all think??
Should I thank my child's father for paying child support?
Interesting question. On one hand, you’re thanking him for doing what he should do even without being ordered to by a court. They’re his kids too - he enjoyed making them.On the other hand, with so many non custodial parents skipping out on their obligations, it’s a good thing to have one that steps up to the plate and pays what they are supposed to. Saying thanks for not being one of “those” and helping out might be a nice thing to do. Depends a lot on your relationship with him.My children’s dad swore he’d never, ever pay child support. I took him back to court, where his high powered lawyer kept me on the stand grilling me for 3 hours as to why I thought I needed child support. They’re HIS kids too!! But you drive a brand new car. Yeah, I do. But it wasn’t a Cadillac, it was a Honda. I was a single mom with two kids, one of whom was special needs. I lived and worked in a huge city where I had no family. I also knew zip about fixing a car. I needed reliable transportation, not someone else’s castoff problem beater. “You’re wearing a suit” Yeah, I have a professional job, and he’s a GM Engineer - your point is? Anyway, there was 3 hours of that back and forth.In the end, I got a judgment for a small amount of child support, with no award of arrearage. Once I got the judgment, he paid faithfully. However, he had no further contact with his children. They are now adults, and he hasn’t seen one of them in years or talked to them. He’s always too busy to spend time with the other one, and all calls are initiated by the child.Have I thanked him? Nope. He doesn’t deserve it. Too many non custodial parents think of child support as extra income for the custodial parent. News flash - it’s not “mad money”. It helps with school books, child care costs, school clothes, lunch money, after school activities, etc, etc. That stuff adds up and is difficult to do on one income when you’re a single parent.
What will happen if I take my child's father off of child support and can I put him back on if I want?
If he really wants to be with you for YOU, then he won't make forgiving the arrearage and canceling his child support an issue. If he does, then there's your answer.Now, what you can do is get him off child support on a go-forward basis, provided he intends for the 3 of you to live together, and for his income to go towards supporting the entire household.But don't forgive the arrearage. That's money you've already spent supporting your child, and he needs to pay his share of the past. ( You can't waive money owed to the State anyway.) If he's ready to be a stand up father and husband, that's great. Tell him to put his money where his mouth is. If he means it, then he will.