How often do you visit your parents, if you live very near?
“How often do you visit your parents, if you live very near?”My father has been dead for years. His ashes are in an urn at my mother's house. She lives some 900 miles away. I don't visit her at all and haven't seen her since my daughter graduated high school four years ago. I haven't spoken to her in at least two years.I have no plans to visit or speak with her. Ever.I'm good with it.
How often do you see your parents in law, that live in the same city as you?
I am the in-laws, so you can quickly disregard my answer. My grown children come around when they want to and I wouldn’t have any other way. How often is that? Maybe once a month maybe longer. They call with some frequency and they clearly care about us - as we care about them.My life and my husbands’ is not, nor has it ever been predicated on having our children be a part of our “social” life. Socializing at our age is quite different from our that of our children.We usually spend a week together each year through the use of the timeshares that we own. Some years it includes grandchildren, or not. Our together week is full of free time for every individual, including our grandchildren when they are present. For example, different family members may go see tourist attractions, others may hike or bicycle, etc. We take our family out to dinner a time or two during the week, but we also take individual family turns preparing a meal for the ‘whole’ family.Other than children spats, our week is a joy to us - and I’m pretty sure our kids and their spouses enjoy them, too - as they have the freedom to do as they choose and we can take it easy when we tire out.We also have a ranch that belongs to my husbands family. It’s a bit of drive, but we enjoy going up for the day, picnicking, riding four-wheelers, eating, telling stories and conversation while avoiding politics. I’ve asked my sons-in-law if they enjoy our time together. I have gotten the expected “Sure do”! - to an honest “packing up both ways is a pain, but I guess it’s worth it”.What will happen when we grow older? Remains to be seen, but I feel certain that while our kids will be turned off by something like dementia, etc., they will not abandon us. We have carefully planned our retirement but know that plans often go astray. Naturally, our plan is to stay in the retirement home that we have built for most any foreseeable problem.Finally, we’ve always expected our children to understand that they make their own choices and that they alone must pay whatever price is required. So, they have never asked us to bail them out of their problems, and it is our hope that we never have to ask for their financial help - we do hope they will care enough for us to come around bringing good cheer, good jokes and lots of hugs and love and sometimes a home cooked meal! What more could any parent ask for???
If my family lives near a base during active duty, how often would I see them?
If my family lives near a base during active duty, how often would I see them?If you're married before you enlist (or if you're talking about parents), the recruiter will tell you to leave your family at home, because you won't get a "liberty pass" to go off-base until you have completed basic training, and you won't be able to invite your family onto the base until your "graduation" ceremony.Life will be pretty similar when you go on to advanced training school or technical training, except that you'll be given your "liberty pass" to go off-base after duty hours.When you finally get a permanent assignment, you'll be given a pass to leave the base when you're not required to be at work. The service will pay for you to bring your spouse and children to the base. The military service will probably give you a housing allowance, according to your rank, or possibly (still unlikely) give you family housing on base.
How often do your kids grandparents call?
never. my mom calls my sister every day to check on her, my sister lives 5-10 min away from her. i live 1000 miles away and if I'm not the one calling, we don't talk. she doesn't talk to the kids on the phone unless they ask to talk to her. my MIL lives in Ecuador. We bought her a magic jack so she can call us any time like a local call. On occasion when she does call, she never speaks to the kids.
How often do you see your family? (ARMY)?
It depends on the person really. there is 30 days leave a year that a Soldier earns. Realistically its not too often. We've been at Ft. Campbell a year & we've gone home for 2 weeks & are getting ready to go back for another two weeks next month. Its not as much as I'd like to see them but I understand that he can only go when block leave is given or if he's able to get a pass for a 4 day weekend. That usually only works if you live a decent time away from where stationed.
How often do you visit your parents, if you live far away?
My wife and I have just recently relocated midway across the country with our two year old son, which is a significant change from having been only an hour and half away from my parents when we lived in Pittsburgh and six hours away from my wife's family in Syracuse.When we still lived in Pennsylvania, we made plans to try to get together with my in-laws at most major holidays, since travel back and forth to New York can be difficult, both with a two year old and as poor seminary students. Her parents would usually make the journey down to Pennsylvania for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter, then we would plan to travel up to Syracuse for New Year's and at least once during the summer. Since my parents were closer and had frequent need to travel to Pittsburgh (they are pastors and chaplains who often make hospital visits there), we saw them more frequently due to the different circumstances. To balance the situation out, we attempted to Skype with my wife's parents at least every other week or so, provided our schedules worked out and we could consistently remember to do so.Now that we are at least 14 hours from either of our families, we are finding a need to be much more intentional about keeping connected with them. Since both my parents and I are pastors, it's very difficult to schedule family vacations and visits in the places that most families usually see each other: Pastors don't really get breaks during Christmas and Easter, and being a brand new pastor in my church, taking my first week of vacation within the first three months of my starting this new ministry would be inappropriate, even if it is Thanksgiving.So we're going to be Skype-ing or Face-Timing with both of our families much more frequently and attempt to schedule most of our vacation times either during the summer months or just after major Church seasons, like Christmas or Easter. Since I get four weeks of vacation a year in the covenant I have with my church, our plan right now is to try to spend a week and a half with each side of our family, then have a week for ourselves to spend as family, as well.
Do Japanese people often live near their close family? How often do they see their families?
Yes, 10 days of annual leave, plus a ton of public holidays. By my count, 17, which ain't bad, except everyone tends to go to the same spots and airlines gouge you on tickets. But your concern is parents and grandparents — twice a year for most, New Year’s and Obon, people go back to their parents’ home. That's the tradition, but some may have their parents meet them at a vacation spot. This assumes that they want to see their parents. I know many who don't and several daughter-in-laws who'd rather not visit their husband’s family because they end up doing all the work, which is kind of a traditional duty.
Do you see your family often?
No unfortunately.I have a side family who I haven't seen since I was little. I don't remember their faces and I can barely remember two. They were my cousin and my dad.I'm an American and my side family is american. The rest (in fact most) of my family are brazilian. I am 1/2 brazilian.They're probably somewhere way under than the state I live in.The reason why it's that is because a long tine ago, probably the Olympic games before Brazil, my mom wanted to buy a house for my dad, but he wanted to by her house, which I live in. He then started physically abusing her and he wnet to jail.My side family got mad at my mom for sending him to jail, so I never seen them again.Right now, my dad is doing alright.He bought his own house, he was nicer to my mom. He's trying to start a new life better than before.I'll have a family reunion someday. When I turn 20.If this answer ends up going viral, I may hav to delete this.
How often do you meet with your family?
Depends on where you are drawing the lines around “family.”I am fortunate to have a large family network (cousins, 2nd cousins, aunts, great uncles, in-laws, etc.) that all get along with one another and prioritizes seeing one another. So, we spend the money and devote vacation days to see one another.I am married with a husband and child, so we see each other all the time. I see my parents, who live approximately 1,000 miles away (literally), about 3x per year. We see my husband’s family, who live about 10,000 miles away (again, literally, as they live on the other side of the world), 1 to 2 times per year. I have a cousin who lives in the same city I do, and we see each other every couple months. I have many other family members I see very few years, but we are still actively in touch, even if we don’t meet up.