Why do so many people not like me?
i dont know why, but most people just look at me, and automatically decide that they dont like me. and i dont think they dont like me. i KNOW they dont like me. i've been observing their behavior around me, and around other friends. i've noticed things they do around me that leads me to assume that they dont like me. and really, i dont know why they dont like me. im always minding my own business, im always quiet, i never talk behind somebody back, i never bother anyone. and i really think it's the way i look. i was looking in the mirror, and it's not that im ugly (i dont think im ugly), i noticed that i look like drug addict and also i look like the type of person who's not a real friend. thats wrong, im a loyal friend, i would never want to hurt any of my friends. i can tell that most people think im weak. just because im not as big as them they would assume im weak. im 14 years old about 5'9" weighing at about 120 lbs. bigger doesnt mean stronger. look at bruce lee for example. he was like around my height more or less and he weighed about 135, and is considered one of the best fighters on this planet. here's what i think. they dont like me, and they're scared to tell me. but those that think of me as weak, wouldnt be so scared to tell me. and really, it's not that they dont like me, i would say more like, hate me and wanna fight me or something. they're confusing weak with kindness. please, if somebody can help me, i've been wondering about this for years.
Why do people seem to not like me?
I REALLY don't mean this to sound mean. When "Everyone" does something or feels something towards you, the only common decimator in the equation is you. Something about your tone, cadence, and the way you make other people "Feel" turns others off so it is up to you to go to therapy and work on correcting whatever trauma in your past led you to make others feel the way they do when you interact with them. I have borderline personality disorder due to severe abuse as a child. BPD results in anger issues and I often have a "Tone" in my voice, which I don't mean to have, that just sounds angry. When others react to that, it is MY PROBLEM, not theirs and it is my responsibility to get help to get that anger out of my voice so that others don't respond to it. The world is not against you... The world only responds to that which you put out in to it.
Why do people not like me because I'm quiet?
Usually I don't let what people say bother me...but...my friends always call me quiet and joke about me being a serial killer. Even my teachers from high school and middle school always made jokes about that(even though I was a straight A student). The popular crowd in high school were usually afraid to talk to me because I was a quiet girl too. I'm in college now and I'm rooming with my best friend. We have the same circle of friends and they always text her to see how she's doing and then ask her how I'm doing. They all have my phone number so why don't they text me instead? I text them but I only receive one word answer...do they not...like me....at all? Two days ago I called my friend and we were in a three-way call with another friend. Now, these friends are chatter boxes so when I would try to speak somebody else would say something and change topics really quickly. After a few minutes, one of them said that they were scared of me because I'm so quiet and then my other friend agreed and went on to say that I could be a serial killer and whatnot. I cried because of what my friends have said. My question is...why do people hate quiet people? I admit it. I'm quiet but I'm not shy. Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean I'm shy. I'm open minded about everything and I like to go on spontaneous adventures. I love to try new things and I'm a pretty confident girl. If I wasn't a confident girl, I wouldn't had even tried to ask the guy I liked out(who is currently my boyfriend).
Why do people not like me for who I am?
respectfully and with kindness I must say … ,I believe that if you authentically answer the following question, you will know your answer….“Why do I believe (or why do I choose to feel) that certain other people do not like me for who I am?”Challenge this “truth” you feel. Dont worry, It wont go anywhere as long as you cant see it for what it is.trust me, the same unconscious mechanism that causes you to seemingly assume that perspective as factual experience (and conclude that all the evidence is there that makes that a fact, etc.) , is the same mechanism that causes them to assume theirs.If you are doing what they are doing, to understand them, you must first better understand yourself. Then empathize. They may not understand what you understand. If you can be unconscious of doing this, and they are also capable of being unconscious of this. That means even though it hurts to feel rejection, it is understandable how blind EVERYONE is. Therefore, change your heart and mechanism-of-choice by becoming aware of it and acting in a higher fashion that you decide on, and you will experience these feelings differently as well. You will know your answer and it will set you free from this concern. Until you forget again, as we all do for most of our lives.But… This way, YOU are ACTING from a PLACE OF PERSONAL POWER. Instead of waiting for the world to change so that you dont have to “feel hurt” anymore. If we can master ourselves, we can master anything. Master the Principle, not the derivative permutation of that. When we live in the mud, the entire world appears muddy and no one can see themselves for all the mud in their eyes. Only a few realize one day that they can live in the sunshine and not ONLY the mud.My best to you
Why do people not like me until they know me?
it happens pretty often...but i get people that seem to not like me who once i spend enough time around them or somehow get a chance to hang out over time they realize i'm funny or quirky and then tell me i'm pretty cool once they get to know me. What do I do wrong in the beginning?
I know that people tend to not like me...?
ive been told the same thing my entire life too, and im 23. if you have that self-defeating attitude that no one likes you, you wont have any confidence. and no one wants to be friends with someone who doesnt even like themself. just calm down, be genuine and relax. youre probably just shy, and shyness is off-putting to people. dont be afraid of rejection. everyone wont like you anyway, but if youre being just yourself, people will respect that and gravitate toward you. smile more. when you seem approachable, people respond positively. give people eye contact and smile when you talk...im sure youll know when its inappropriate to smile, or if your smiling too long. just be genuine. thats the best advice i can give anyone. people love you when you are comfortable with you.
Why don't people like me?
I always try to cheer people up and do nice things but still no one likes me. I have severe depression but in my opinion I do a very good job of hiding it, I am always smiling and engage in conversations. I am only 15 so I live with my family, and I always try to clean and find fun ways to decorate the house (my mom enjoys decorating, so I try to take part in that.) I also bake things for family and friends, and I always try to be nice to everyone. I am not overly cheery to the point where I'm annoying and I try to give people space, but no matter how hard I try to form relationships with anyone people don't seem to like me. My parents are always annoyed by me, I have no real friendships, and boys are completely uninterested in me. I've tried everything I can to connect with people yet they still push me away. I don't act desperate and I don't talk out of place, I try so hard to make friends but it never works out. I seldom talk about myself, and I always try to talk about things other people are interested in. Why don't people like me? What am I doing wrong?
Why don't people like me?
When people don’t like you, it’s often because you’re triggering their insecurity.I had a fan of my podcast, ‘Average Adam’, write in about how he was having a hard time with social gatekeepers. In particular, he’d noticed that bouncers don’t like him.He said “I walk up to the bar normally, stand in line with ID and cash in hand, yet I still get a hard time. I think I’m very average looking – a 170 pound, 6 foot white guy – I get mistaken for other people all the time.”He wanted to know if he was carrying himself in a way that raises red flags for bouncers.From experience, a bouncer will keep you out of the bar if you appear to be a danger, but since he described himself as a tall, skinny white dude, it’s unlikely he poses much of a threat.Most likely what is happening here, is that ‘Average Adam’ is doing something to trigger the bouncer’s insecurity.When you trigger someone’s insecurity, they will do whatever is in their power. The only real power a bouncer has, is to keep you from coming into the bar or to give you a hard time.Some things that may trigger the bouncers: if you’re always hanging around attractive girls and flirting loudly, if you’re bantering with people in line and being charismatic, if you’re making too strong of eye contact, or look like you may be trying to intimidate the bouncers (even if you’re not!).I gave ‘Average Adam’ some tips: Smile more, don’t talk too much in line, don’t make strong eye contact and don’t try to banter with the bouncer. Consider their perspective – they are at work, often in the cold and rain, and it would be annoying to listen to loud flirting and laughing. They don’t care if you’re having fun!To the asker of this Quora question – you may be unknowingly triggering people’s insecurities. Sometimes it is an accident and sometimes you can’t consciously avoid it. But if you’re doing something that pushes someone’s buttons and you want to avoid this, you’ll need to pay attention and be aware of your actions.Think about how you carry yourself and perhaps try different approaches.
Do people don't like me because they think i'm all that or do i iteminate them?
Maybe they're intimidated by your superior grammar and diction. Your rhetoric is so enthralling. It is like reading Hawthorne. Just kidding but you seriously need to work on your English. I barely understood the question. You're awesome for hanging out with nerds. The nerd group is where it's at! I think the other girls don't like you because they probably don't understand why a pretty girl would spend her time with nerds. They just don't understand you and you don't need to bother with them. No one ever said you can't be a goodlooking nerd with social skills.
Why do I feel like most people don't like me?
I do not know exactly what your face looks like so I have nothing to say about that but I do know that t hose who try too hard at getting people to like them more often repell people rather than attract. When you try too hard, you appear desparate, needy and this makes most everone feel uncomfortable. Even if you were likeable or had nice face, when you make people feel uncomfortable, the more you try, the more uncomfortable they get.If you persist it is like an aggressive solicitor, car salesman or realtor, you may want what they are selling but you just do not want to buy it through them, you would much rather just get away and if they feel they can not, they actually get angry. What they dislike is not necessarily you but how you make them feel.You can not take this feeling away, once the feeling has set in, simply your appearance or suggestion of your appearance reminds them and like being seasick, they will actually feel nauseous. You need to back off completely for a while or make an attempt or find a different selection of possible friendships that do not know you or anyone who does and do not use the same aproach. This may or may not be the case with you, but it is one possibilty without having more information.