How do people feel about surrogates?
Good question. I think the "law" should quickly decide this. If it wasn't for the surrogate, there would be no baby, so this is really tough. But if it wasn't for the biological parents, there would be no baby either. A friend had asked me if I consider being her surrogate in the future. I told her that I would have to go through tons of counseling (with and without her) and that I bond with my babies immediately (I have two kids) and that she would be stuck with me in her life for the rest of her life because I would have a bond with her baby even if it wasn't my DNA but because I carried it. I really would want a professional to help me determine that I would be capable of handing over the baby that was in my tummy over to the biological parents once it was born.
Can an autistic/diabetic person adopt a child or hire a surrogate?
Possibly and probably - though I am not sure that either Autism or Diabetes are absolute game changers unless there is some aspect you are not sharing.My husband has Aspergers and we adopted 3 times.. AND more importantly, he is a wonderful and loving father! Diabetes as long as it is well controlled should not be a bar to adoption. Your best bet would be to contact your local Child Services department and speak to a resource social worker about your health situation and see what he/she recommends. If you are a loving and kind person with a clean legal history and are in otherwise good health.. then they will tell you what you need to do to become an adoptive parent.
Does Islam allow surrogacy?
Medically, there are two types of surrogate mother’s:1. Traditional surrogate: she is a woman who is artificially inseminated with the father’s sperm. She then carries the baby and delivers it for the parents to raise. A traditional surrogate is the baby’s biological mother because it was her egg that was fertilized by the father’s sperm. So she has all the responsibilities of a mother and the law of inheritance also applies between them.Who would be the biological father of the child? Ofcourse, the owner of the sperm.Also, would the husband of the surrogate mother be mahram to the child?If the surrogate mother marries after the insemination, then the child will be mahram to her husband because she becomes his Rabiba (the mother’s daughter from her previous marriage). In any case, the child will be Mahram to her children because they are born from the same mother.2. Gestational surrogate mother which is done by IVF: In this technique, they harvest eggs from the mother, fertilize with sperm from the father and place the embryo into the uterus of a gestational surrogate to carry the baby until birth. This kind of surrogate mother has no genetic ties to the child because it wasn’t her egg although the child will be mahram to her and her children for the same reason mentioned above.The laws of inheritance do not apply to surrogate mothers according to majority of our Maraje’.3. There is still another kind of IVF, and that is if the egg of a woman is fertilized with the sperm of her husband and the embryo is placed in her own uterus, then the child is obviously theirs in all respects.With the exception of Ayatollah Sistani who does not allow the above practice, the rest of the Maraj’e allow it, although they say forbidden acts such as looking at the private parts must be avoided as much as possible.Source :Parenting | Ask the Sheikh
Why do people go for surrogacy when they can adopt?
Beginning a family is a standout amongst the most loved snapshots of life. It brings a couple heap of delights who develop from adorable children into developed grown-ups. Be that as it may, there are a huge number of couples who will never experience the joy of growing their brood naturally. Surrogacy is the most favored multiplication technique to help coupled extend their family in a straightforward and hassle-free way.Here are 5 reasons why individuals settle on surrogacy:1. Single parenthood :It is presently feasible for a solitary parent to have their very own natural child. How is it conceivable? All things considered, surrogacy is the appropriate response. Many single guardians like to settle on surrogacy when they don't wish to go into marriage or a social relationship only for proliferation. Surrogacy is successful for both male and female single guardians.2. Gay couples and LGBT:Numerous gay and LGBT couples needing to experience parenthood like to go for surrogacy. In nations where both gay relational unions and LGBT are lawful, surrogacy is a gift. Not exclusively would they be able to have their very own organic child, they can likewise arrange their family later on with 100% typical code of morals that is common in most "ordinary" groups of the general public.3. Old age pregnancy :Now and again, because of the disastrous demise of a kid, numerous old couples decide on surrogacy to guarantee their family bloodline proceeds. In such cases, the male parent gives the sperm to be misleadingly inseminated into a surrogate mother.4. Widowhood:Losing an accomplice is a deplorable occasion. For a childless survivor who does not have any desire to get hitched can settle on surrogacy.5. Tumor survival:Growth survivors may not be set up to take a bounce into investigating parenthood after a testing fight with an existence undermining sickness.In any case, surrogacy makes it conceivable to hold the organic association with the child.On account of cutting edge advances in regenerative science, numerous IVF facilities and surrogacy focuses can now help each human experience the delight of parenthood.
Surrogacy question.......?
nope. the person whose junk the kids come from is listed as "mother" for the purposes of vital statistics. surrogacy is a legal agreement. she'd have to petition to adopt the child (and the surrogate terminate her rights). but i'm curious, why is she using a surrogate? ETA: aloha..the "she" is nicole kidman. since nicole did not give birth, she can not be placed on an original birth certificate, despite the owner of the genetic material. ETA: surrogacy contracts are so nebulous and not widely enforeable, that they really can't be considered case law...although *some* countries and states are attempting to do some sort of "surrogacy contracts" ; and others have flat out-right made it illegal. my understanding is that the case law is just too new and too highly ethically charged.
Should it be legal that a surrogate mother can be forced to abort the baby SHE is carrying against her will?
Of course not! No one should be forced to murder another person regardless of the reasons except to protect oneself or others. A child must have a legal and a moral right to life. Someone who wants to have a baby with a surrogate and then wants the mother to abort the baby because it will be born with a disability should be barred by law from ever repeating their efforts for using a surrogate mother. They should also be barred from adoption as even having the thought or intent to abort their own child is a form of child abuse by intent. Every child, whether healthy or not blesses a family beyond all comprehension. I have seen this time and time again. In this situation I think the child should be born and placed in a loving home through adoption. The Surrogate if she proves that she wants to rear the child should be allowed to do so and the law should allow the dissolution of paternal rights except for the financial support of the child. This incident is a sad example of the danger of the law forcing immorality on society in a most egregious way. May all those who agree join us in prayer for the soul of this helpless and innocent child. May we also pray for the surrogate mother as well as the sperm and egg donors that started this moral travesty that they come to complete repentance for the evil they have caused. God bless! In Christ Fr. Joseph
Do you think that surrogate Mothers is a solution?
what about the child? they only know what you tell them a surrogate can hold someone elses egg, so if you have eggs, they can be extracted from you and implanted in her... there are many ways to do surrogacy.. pending your beliefs, etc it can be a solution, pends on how you feel about that I am actually on a donor list to donate my eggs to someone who needs them.. i think programs for this are great and helpful to some, however not for everyone. make sure the company you choose is reputable!!!
Are people judged for using a surrogate to have a child?
People are usually unfairly judged when they do something that someone else would never dream of doing or has never needed to do.Regarding surrogacy…if you have never longed for a baby so intensely that you would do anything to have one, you would have no idea of the lengths you would go to in order to make that happen.Some people draw a very neat line around their own perfect lives and anything anyone else does outside of that line just doesn’t make sense to them. They can’t imagine doing or needing what others do, because they themselves have never done or needed it. In their closed minds…if they don’t need to do it, nobody else does either.
How does the surrogate mother thing work? Does the surrogate use a donor egg from the mother?
There are two types of surrogacy--gs and ts. A ts (Traditional Surrogacy) is a woman who uses her egg and the couple’s sperm. A gs (Gestational Surrogacy) -- The eggs used in this form of surrogacy belong to the Intended Mother. They both are put on birth control for 3 weeks so that your cycles (her ovaries & surrogates uterus) are controlled and matched. The wife is given meds to mature several eggs so that they are ready when surrogate’s uterus is ready to accept them. Surrogate is given estrogen and lupron (to stop her fsh and lh so that she doesn't make any eggs that month). When wife’s eggs are ready to retrieve, they are removed, fertilized and then placed into surrogate’s tube about 3 days later. Any fertilized egg is protected by the enzymes it makes--by tricking the women's T-cells otherwise any baby including one from her own egg would be seen as foreign. Sperm also have a special way of not being attacked by a women's body. There are agencies (which are costly but the cover everything--legal fees, insurance for surrogate, life insurance for her, meds, lab work, sonograms and the finances. They also give psychological test on surrogates to make sure she's stable to be a surrogate and does a background check to make sure she's not a criminal and has a stable job). Some find surrogates online but you have to do everything--deal with the lawyers (hers and yours), insurance, etc. Good luck in your studies.
Do you think I should become a surrogate mother?
I am a gestational surrogate mother for a wonderful couple and it has been the most rewarding experience of my life, and I plan to do it at least 1 more time. The best advice I can give you is that if you have doubts is to wait. Maybe now is not the right time for you. I had the same feelings at 1st and it took me nearly 2 yrs of sole searching and research it to feel completely comfortable and go through with it. I am very glad I waited and it made my experience that much more enjoyable. It is a very emotional and somewhat stressful process but is rewarding if you do it for the right reasons. Though it can be helpful, by no means should the financial compensation be a big factor in making this decision. There is a lot of things to consider and you definitely need the support of family and friends before doing this. Private health insurance in place and a stable source of income is also a must to qualify with any reputable agency. YOU have to decide if this is right for you, not a bunch of inexperienced judgmental people on a message board. I suggest you just give it LOTS of thought and ask yourself.. "Can I do this?" "Why do I really want to do this?" "How will this affect my children" "Do I have a proper support system in place?" " Am I fully prepared to commit to this process, from the months of shots and medications, to the pregnancy and then delivering a baby with an understanding I may or may not ever see that child after birth?" I wish you the best in what ever you decide. Michelle