Why do I like being abused?
You're probably going to get some pretty judgemental answers on this, and maybe some helpful ones... This question interested me, so I read thru some of your prior questions to get a better idea of where you're really coming from with this... Here are my thoughts... You do seem to have some self-esteem issues, but my impression is that you also likely have some submissive tendencies as well. Some would argue that the two go hand in hand...I personally disagree, but I won't even go into that here. I think you have two different elements of your personality and needs that you need to learn more about and explore. I would encourage you to take the initiative to be smart about it. You have a self-awareness that is encouraging...don't disregard it. You recognize needs and patterns in your life and behavior, which is one step ahead of many who careen wildly thru life on a self-destructive path that never ends or brings them any peace. Get some counseling from a reputable therapist - even if paying for it isn't in your budget, there are usually low or no-cost options available if you check into the mental health department in your local area. A therapist can help you sort thru your behavior patterns and self-esteem issues, and can help you develop ways to manage them. I would also encourage you to look for one who recognizes and understands BDSM and can offer you guidance in safe exploration of the lifestyle since it seems to appeal to you. You would probably benefit from making some friends in your local BDSM community, but I would strongly encourage you to get to know some submissives, and talk with them before blindly jumping into it. Your self-esteem issues could easily make you a target and a victim, but if you take the initiative to manage the process and gain some understanding of the lifestyle, you may find out things about yourself that suddenly make perfect sense when viewed from a different perspective. Best of luck to you in your search.
What does the phrase mean "close one door before you open another"?
it mostly means to end a relationship completly before starting a new one or it could mean many other things. Thats what it means in a relationship good luck.
Why do I enjoy being abused?
First of all, there is nothing wrong with anything two consenting adults decide to do for sexual kicks in the privacy of their own homes. LOTS of people (women and men) enjoy being abused or debased in sex - be it being called names, spanked, dominated, tied up or whatever. If this is what turns you and the other person on, this is fine! Don't feel guilty or 'weird' as that just leads to unnecessary self-hate and loneliness (see the film 'Secretary'). However, if these trends continue outside the bedroom - that is, your partner is rude, aggressive or violent towards you in non-sexual contexts... then you have a problem. You and your partner should always treat each other with respect, and there is never any excuse for anything else. It is probably true that all this results from "issues" with your dad - he doesn't have to have been abusive; actually, it's likely he was the complete opposite. A bit detached, not particularly dominant or powerful, left a lot to your mother etc... this makes you crave a dominant, powerful male figure in your life, as you didn't have one in your father. So you go for men who will "keep you in line", "discipline" you and so on, in the way your dad didn't. Some therapy would be good to work these issues out - they are extremely common - so you can learn a powerful man doesn't have to mean a mean or abusive one. However, you may find that your sexual preferences persist. Sexuality is very complex and although there are theories about what turns people on and why, ultimately no-one really understands it. As I said, what two consenting adults do in private is entirely up to them. So enjoy whatever turns you on, but don't submit to abusive or inappropriate relationships outside the bedroom.
My friend is being abused by her parents, what can I do?
Thank you for the question.I'm going to answer within my scope of knowledge which would be US laws and procedures.I commend you for your concern for your friend. Sometimes, one person can totally change someone's life; you may be this person for your friend.Please let them know that no one deserves to be hurt. Encourage them to reach out (Crisis Text Line: text Hello to 741–741 or 211 for information.) There is help available. People DO care.I'd urge you to talk to a trusted adult (parent, teacher, guidance counselor) about how you are feeling. The guidance counselor will be able to help a great deal and they may decide you have enough information to file a report. (Generally, they must be given by a person with first hand knowledge, but you may know enough to prompt an investigation. Reports can be anonymous.)No matter support your friend. Let them know that you are there for them. Encourage them to reach out. Life can get better.
How do I deal with someone close to me blocking me on WhatsApp and Facebook?
Blocking people on social media is a very rude treatment which can not be tolerated. It is VERY HOSTILE. Without internet and social media, this could be referred to as the boycott or total rejection. I feel very sorry for you and your friend is definitely very rude. It's like showing a middle finger to the person offline and rejecting him further. Also, blocking people can be a big emotional abuse, therefore it can lead the one being blocked to depression or other mental diseases.But what I can tell you is: NEVER listen to people who tell you to "move on with your life" etc, if you are trying to reconcile. IGNORE all the people who think that you deserved to be blocked. Block him (and them?) as well, and try to defend yourself as much as you can. Talk to other people (including friends) about what happened, but never discuss it right after you met, since they might be perceiving you as like you're complaining. If he will suddenly unblock you, write to him about what happened, and explain him how you feeled, and block again. Once he will complain to others about being blocked, unblock him. Moving on with your life, if it comes to relationship solving, is impractical and can only divert than relieve you. And people don't have any justifications for their reasons, since they came up with them themselves.Next time, let the people be nice to each another, and not block anyone!!!
I think my sister is being abused?
She's been acting weird lately. She's always with him more than me & we used to be close. She's so distant & every time he text her or call she jumps so quickly to see him. She's usually happy but now she's depressed all the time. She don't even smile no more. I think he's controlling her because, she changed her appearance so much. She has a nose ring now & her hair is blonde with highlights. She looks more edgy and she wears red lipstick with revealing clothes. I don't mean to talk about my sister but, she looks like a slut. This is far from what she used to look like. She was so innocent looking before she changed. The other day I walked passed her & she flinched. I saw on her face that it look like a red hand print. I asked her about it and she said i'm fine. I said are you sure because, the side of your face is red. Then she blows up at me telling me to leave her alone, mind your own business, & quit worrying about me. I just want my sister back and she's only 16. She shouldn't be going through this. Should I let our parents know? I don't want to upset my sister.
How to tell if you were sexually abused as a child?
Whenever people wonder if they were molested when they were younger, it makes me think they were. I'm not a professional though and this is just my opinion. What happens in your rape fantasies? Do you enjoy it and then feel guilty or ashamed because of it? There's nothing wrong with it. Lots of women have rape fantasies. They want to enjoy losing control. Many of your other behaviors are that of a normal teenager. Not wanting to be touched by others and wanting to keep clothing on could be signs of earlier molestation or abuse. I would highly recommend you spend some time with a therapist and discuss your thoughts and observations.