Women who don't want children, what are your reasons?
Hmm... OK, thanks people. I've always wondered about not being ready -- that seems to be a common thread also. Do we worry too much nowadays? But isn't the pain and discomfort worth it, at least when you get old you have your grown kids and grandkids around -- hopefully -- I think it would be a more rewarding life. Maybe having children just is not easy or possible for many people in today's society...
Is having children more important to women than men?
People are individuals, not gender categories. The answer is not yes or no; rather the question cannot be answered collectively.
Do women generally or statistically want children more than men?
They're more likely to express such a desire, because it’s more socially acceptable to do so, making it difficult to get a genuine analysis of the situation.However, it’s pretty unlikely. Women have spent hundreds of years fighting for any control over the childbirth process, from basic family planning to ordinary (today) birth control, while men have been raised to believe that descendants (and identification of such) are critical to our lives. And it’s telling that, just as birth control finally became a public discussion, men introduced the idea of “the biological clock,” implying that women were magically driven to have babies; see the Guardian’s The foul reign of the biological clock for a good overview on that.Consider that there’s another significant myth about women and reproduction, that they’re somehow far less interested in sex than men. Usually, the same people will tell you both, which either suggests that women only like the difficult and painful parts of child-rearing and none of the fun parts, or that it’s the fathers who want kids and blaming the mothers willing to pass up an orgasm. Given that it’s only the last hundred years or so that we haven’t punished women who speak out on issues, I’m thinking the latter is the more compelling explanation…
Do women like money more than they like men?
This is not meant to offend anyone, so if you're offended than that's too bad and i won't apologize since it wasn't meant to offend you. Here's why i think women like money more than they like men (feel free to disagree): 1. A rich woman will never marry or even date a poor man. A one night stand maybe? Sure but never a relationship. She only has eyes for other rich people like herself and if he's richer than she is than even better. 2. Unlike women, a rich man doesn't care if the woman is rich or poor, just as long as she's beautiful/hot/good looking and she loves/likes him and not his money. But that doesn't happen often cause rich man often find women that are after their money. 3. For a lot of women...their hobby is shopping. If your hobby is shopping that means you love money and you are materialistic. 4. If rapper Lil Wayne was poor or broke like women like to call it...than he would be ugly to every hot women on earth but he's a millionaire so women are attracted to him. Somehow money makes a man more "attractive" to women. 5. Prostitution exists because women offer their body for cash and man pay for sex. And don't forget women who want a "Sugar Daddy". This doesn't mean that women are worse than men because we men are not better but i like to know what you think about all of this.
Why do men always seem hesitant to have children?
I think most men are hesitant because having a child is a life long commiment( theres that word most are scared of) ya sure your married and its already there but you could always seperate but his child will always be his child. I think they worry about money, how are they going to manage financially taking care of the child and if they will be a good father. But once they have that child, they are no longer hesitant, that child is the guys' world, he will do anything for that child.It's funny but if you ask your husband if he would take a bullet for you he will probably be hesitant about it, ask him if he would for his child, without a doubt. I believe with a child it is the first time a man knows what unconditional love is and that fills him more then he could ever imagine. And to Asif..WOW..as a woman you are definately messed up. My pregnancy was the worst but its true you forget everything that was painful the moment you look at the beautiful child, I find it odd you say a pure soul as the purpose of baptism is to cleanse the soul of the baby. As a woman you are missing out on the greatest gift of life, do you hate your parents for having you as you claim your ripping an innocent soul from heaven. Why can you not enjoy all those things you said about travel with your child, life doesn't end because you have a child, it begins!
Do men want to have babies as much as women do? Why?
Men are all unique creatures. Some of the answers here focus on not playing with dolls and a man's higher sex drive as indicators of not wanting children. I am a man, was never interested in dolls and have a strong sex drive, but I always wanted to be a father. Even as a child that was part of my dreams.It all depends on what your values are and where you expect to find happiness and contentment. Men I know who had unhealthy families and grew up with a warped sense of family, do not seem able to committ to a woman, which is the foundation of building a healthy family. You must find an emotionally healthy woman and committ to her, and vice-versa for her. Men who use this criteria of preferring women who will be good mothers over an easy lay or arm candy, show that their priority is family over just sex. Not that the two are mutually exclusive, but different men will prioritize differently, and it actually has nothing to do with sex drive, but rather the value he places on family.I have met just as many women whose criteria in selecting a mate is skewed toward attributes that do not indicate a good father, or even someone who is interested in being a father at present. These women may think they want to be mothers, but they do not deep down, or at least do not know how to build a healthy family. If they did they would be attracted to good fathers. You can always see a person's world-view and priorities based on his or her choices and actions.People who prioritize the contentment of a strong family unit will want a good parent as a spouse, and will deeply want children, man or woman.People who do not prioritize a happy family life, or who are afraid it's unrealistic and that they'll end up with an unhappy family regardless, will be afraid of a partner who wants children, and will avoid the situation altogether. In this case, the women may be more inclined to still dream of being mothers than the men, or to dream about it more passionately anyway.Of course many will go on to become mothers, often with uninvolved or missing fathers. In the end, when raised in a healthy household, men and women seem to want children equally. When not raised in a healthy environment, women have a greater drive than men to become parents, and many end up being single mothers. Of course, many people break from these molds, but they do establish trends in behavior based on someone's background, even if these aren't hard-and-fast rules.