Do women derive pleasure from rejecting men?
Most women don't derive pleasure from rejecting men. Instead, most of the times, they feel sincerely sorry and/or fear the reaction of the man they happen to reject. That's why they sometimes use indirect methods of rejection, or standards phrases to sugar-coat the rejection. Rejecting a man is a problem for them.For some girls or immature women, a contemptuous rejection can be a means to heal their wounded ego, after a boy or a man that they judge to be below their status approached them with romantic intentions. Because of their insecurities, they ask themselves:“Why did this boy/man, who is so below me, approach me? Does he think he has any chances with me? Why does he think so? Am I so ugly? Do I appear to be worthless? Do my peers see me as worthless, too? What's my value?”So a harsh rejection appeases their insecurities and restores their perceived worth in their own and their peers' eyes.Rejection is an act of power: when a man expresses their interest for a woman, she is temporarily put in a privileged position, from where she can judge the man, and deny or grant her attention, her love, and intimacy.Being physically weaker, women still feel too often they are in passive/prey/victim roles in their life. More than men, certainly. Discrimination and sexism emphasize these feelings of powerlessness.A rejection, on the contrary, is a moment in which they feel empowered, dominant, in control.This exciting sensation is at the core of the active role in the so-called “rejection fetish”. People with this “fetish” are sexually aroused by the act of rejecting someone, or being rejected by someone. The person in passive role may enjoy this fetish, too: they are aroused by transferring power to the person in the active role, and by the humiliation of being rejected.This works also if we invert the sexes of the people involved: a men, who in past experienced difficulties in finding a partner who reciprocated his interest, can find pleasure in a role reversal during a play with his partner, or simply when his partner asks for intimacy, sex, or a confirmation of her worth. Rejecting his partner helps him to heal from the bruises and wounds that he accumulated in his past experiences with the other sex.
Do some women get a kick out of rejecting men?
Yes, that's a sexual game some women play--it's called "Rapo" (see below for more info). http://www.heretical.com/berne/rapo.html
Do guys really feel they have it harder than girls? (guys only)?
Personally, i think life is more difficult for girls, but I am a girl so tell me your opinions and explain yourself too. When you answer, put your age to it should be interesting to see opinions from different ages. Keep in mind what girls go through: Periods: hurt like he'** cramps pms(everyone seals with that one though) Bras Giving birth Having a baby inside of you for 9 months Stress of appearance from society Fear or not being asked out (sometimes) Fear of boobs not being big enough Fear or rape and or abuse Sexism and getting paid less Being cheated on (both I guess) Im just listing my ideas you can tell me what guys go through. And for the " guys work more " thing, honestly many women work too. I guess I just don't grasp the guys point of view enough so share It! Remember to pit your age if you can!
Why do guys ignore you when you reject them?
Here's why. He was a "nice guy." Nice guys have no bottle, backbone, fear rejection big time. So what they do, instead of approaching you and telling you, they become your friends in HOPE, they can one day get into your pants. What the nice guy don't realise is, she will never date such a wuss, a beta, a feminine type of guy who hasn't got much masculine and who is now so easy, so not challenging and so available. So when he tries it on, you reject him, it's like the end of his world and sulks, and blocks, and avoids, and all the rest. Nice guys....this is why you don't be friends with girls to get into their pants. Man up, approach and tell her.. "Hey, I just had to come over or i'll kick myself, and tell you, you're cute." And converse with tease, to lead to phone number etc, to date.
I rejected and ignored him. Now he has deleted my number and doesn't try to contact me anymore. What should I do?
What you did is something you see in MOVIES, TV SHOWS, and BOOKS not real life. Welcome to the world, love, no man is going to go out of their way around you rejecting and ignoring him. That is called being creepy or perhaps annoying and you doing this likely hurt him on a WHOLE OTHER LEVELLet me tell you what you did: Have you ever tried to make a joke and then have someone brush you off? Feels terrible, yeah? Now, have you ever tried to talk to someone and then them make fun of you in an absolutly hurtful way, and then proceed to make you feel like an absolute idiot for even attempting to talk to them, perhaps even making you want to cry on the spot?Well, my friend, take that feeling of being rejected in a conversation and imagine, then that the person you attempted to talk to was a person you felt you were friends with, close enough that you felt confident to soon ask her out…then…what? Wha- hang on…you're blocked…? But I- I thought…"I thought we were friends…"That is what you did to him. No matter your intentions, you likely caused him unlimited pain and regret. After this whole situation he likely let his worries out through tears in privacy.I would have.What can you do? Stay away from him. You've done enough.You intervening will only make him feel worse.Also, you should feel like a monster. What you did is a terrible thing, and I wish I was there to aid him in accepting what you did.
Why do guys hurt girls feelings !?!?
Because WE are smarter and know better.