What do you think about prenuptial agreements?
I think it is cold myself. It is saying right off the bat I don't trust you so I want to protect myself. That should be a big wake up call for her. I would not pay for any of the wedding if she signs it.
Prenuptial agreement?
Is it wrong to ask for a Prenuptial agreement? Would you women be offended by it? I saw what happen to my brother when he got a divorce and it wasn't pretty (he lost a lot), but that's another story. Anywhoo some of the women I go out with are very serious about relationships (not dating around) and I was wondering if it ever progressed to marriage because that's what she wanted would it be unfair to ask for a pre-nup? I just want to protect myself from being used or anything? If she made money like Oprah and ask me to sign one I wouldn't be offended by it. I would think its very responsible of her. I mean if she loved me for me and not my money or assets then I wouldn't see why any girl would be offended by it. So are women in general offended by it AND most importantly why? So guys tell me your experience with it and girls tell me what you think about it. Thanks in advance.
How do you respectfully request a prenup agreement when getting married? I'm not there yet, but when I am I imagine this to be a firecracker of a question if not worded right.
It’d be the same as if your mate showed up with her pool-boy & yard-boy. You can Hedge Your Bets & She can hedge hers.If it’s about your & your mates money, and you want both people 100% committed to the marriage, then planning your divorce will definitely be a huge de-committment on your part.NOTE: Now, if you are planning on inheriting a family ranch/company, then you should talk to your family about creating a trust for those family assets. Family inheritance, especially if there are other family members inheriting, is definitely outside the range of marital partnership.That being said:Most people that “aren’t there yet” don’t get there at all. EVERYBODY thinks they will, but you got to start your planning and financial learning early. Most “smart” people think they can figure it all out on their own—big mistake.If you do get there, talk to a lawyer BEFORE you even have the pre-nup talk. Maybe there’s ways to shelter or tie-up your assets, so you won’t even have to have that ugly talk. It might be WHEN you get there (financially):your mate might be so well-off you don’t need to worry about it.You might be so grateful to have this particular mate, OR a mate at all, you won’t care, and might hope your assets might help LURE them in.You might have so much money, and it’s so well tied up & sheltered, you might not need a pre-nup. It could all be in a trust, and it pays you an allowance. I wouldn't lie about being rich though, lying is poison.You might have so much money, you DON’T CARE if they get a bit of it in a divorce.OR, You might never get any money, and will know your mate wants you for YOU, or maybe you do a dang good BBQ.
What do you think about a prenuptial agreement?
I think they can be a good and right thing.As an example from my own past:We had a long and troubled first marriage. Divorced.Remarried after a few years.My former and to-be wife had a little bit of inherited money. We used that money as a down payment on a new house. Of course, before the purchase, that inherited money was strictly her separate property. After we bought a house using it, and started making payments (primarily from my salary), doing upkeep, repairs, improvements, etc. all from community property funds, her original contribution was pretty completely co-mingled. It was quite arguably converted into a community asset. It would take a lawyer to give a good ruling, perhaps two lawyers and a judge.Given our marital history, smart bettors would not have gambled on the success of that second marriage. And they would have been right. It failed.In our case, it would have been reasonable to have a pre-nup clarifying the status of this money, and how it might relate to a purchase such as a house, perhaps that she would retain 50% interest in the equity of any such house, PLUS her original down payment. Or some such understanding.Without that, she would have been in danger of losing her very important nest-egg in a (quite possible) divorce. Not that we were expecting one, but the odds were not good, and we were not blind. I would not have protested, and would have quite gladly signed anything reasonable.As it turned out, it was not necessary. We did fail, but I had no intention of fighting for whatever I might be able to get. The equity in the home was only a few thousand above her original down payment, so I just let it slide, signed a quit-claim deed, and it was hers.But in a situation like ours, A pre-nuptual agreement clarifying what is private and what is communal property came make a great deal of sense, and can be quite helpful. If your eye is really on your partners welfare (as it should be), it may be a bit painful, but it is not objectionable.
Why does asking for a prenuptial agreement make a man/woman less desirable? We have insurance for everything in life, why not this?
Anything that we do which has a commercial elements or has monetary value i.e. typically called as a deal requires the terms to be included in a contract form.There are some things that cannot be termed as deals especially with regard to relationships, there can be no contract with God for selecting ones parents, siblings, children etc.. Marriage also is a wonderful relationship which is based on trust than on some kind of contract.Property or wealth cannot give a person love and affection that a mother can give or a wife can give or a child can give.When a person earns much more than his requirements and is worried about someone snatching it from him, starts thinking about ways to protect it. The concept of prenuptial agreement is in itself a suggestion that marriage too is a deal with commercial elements. Husband and wife will be together as long as it's beneficial to both, the day one appears as not beneficial or another third person appears more beneficial this relationship ends.The institution of marriage should never be treated as a business deal. It should be considered as a sacred relation, not capable of being broken easily.There should be some minimum norms prescribed by society which can help an individual get divorce in the event of serious setback in the relationship rather than promoting prenuptial agreements.
Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
If you were going to get married to a someone who was been working very hard all their life, and wants to protect their assets by asking you to sign a prenuptual agreement, would you sign it? Would you be offended? Personally I don't think it's fair that a person should hand over half of their life savings to their spouse if the marriage ends in divorce. I know it implies that the person doesn't trust you, but it's a fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce, and yet somehow every couple walks around thinking they're the exception. What do you think?
Has anyone signed a prenup at the request of the inlaws and got screwed over,?
Don't sign it. Easy. Point out that it's stacked in their favor, and that if he does die, you're basically homeless and broke (unless you have any of your own assets). For someone who has never been married and has no family from a previous marriage, it would appear that he is already rewriting the vows to cross out the part, "With all my worldly goods I thee endow. . . " I would hire my OWN lawyer to review it -- at their cost, since this is their idea -- and suggest differing provisions, for example, in the event of divorce due to adultery (yours, you get nothing, his, you get everything) or his death (what settlement will he make on you, or how much of a life insurance policy do they promise to maintain for your benefit?) Provisions should also be included for support of any children born of the marriage, etc. The business and the townhome may actually BE in their name, if they paid for it, so it's not unreasonable that they would not want those assets seized. But there's no reason for you to be left out in the cold, either. They think you're a sweet idiot. Prove them wrong. Be sweet, but BE SMART.
When is the best time to ask for a prenuptial agreement?
There is no single correct answer to your question. It depends on the backgrounds and personalities of the respective parties and the circumstances of their relationship. In any event, the question might be better framed this way: When is the best time to bring up the subject of a prenuptial agreement? The distinction between asking for a prenuptial agreement and discussing the possibililty of one can be psychologically important. Asking for one can result in putting the other person on the spot, leading him or her to think that they have no choice but to either accept or reject your request and, by extension, the entire relationship. By contrast, starting a discussion (by saying, for example, that you think a prenup might be appropriate for the two of you and asking what he or she thinks about it), would seem to be a less threatening approach and one more likely to lead to the result you want.
Why is my boyfriend asking me to sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married?
Well, I think the answer is in your question itself. There are various instances like the one in your family where either of the spouses have to unnecessarily go through hardships when the marriage goes sour and has to lose out on something that he/she is actually entitled to. Along with it, the trauma of having to deal with allegations and losses that they do not deserve to face. A prenup sets things straight for both. You can mutually decide on various aspects such as division of property, spousal support, guardianship rights, also containing specific provisions that the husband and wife want to mutually include like setting up of upper limit for alimony, properties that are excluded from division, infidelity clause etc.Advantages of Prenups:Prenuptial Agreement would save a lot of court’s time by cutting short legal battles during the course of divorce. It would also ensure support to both husband and wife and share in the assets that they are entitled to, without having to go through expensive and complicated legal battles. There are a lot of other benefits like:It allows couples to set their own terms as divorce laws are quite indefinite and in absence of such an agreement, a tremendous amount of discretion is given to a judge in cases of divorce.Prenup could help one to override laws and keep ones finances separate and decide on what properties will be divided among the two.Therefore, if you are true to him, you need not hesitate to go ahead with the prenup. It would only help increase the trust factor between the two.