How come guys hit on me online, but not in real life?
i've only ever been asked out by a small handful of guys in my entire life, and i've never really had guys hit on me or flirt with me. because of this, i put up a profile on a dating site. i have only one picture that was taken with my webcam and shows what i look like on a normal day (no makeup, regular clothes, nothing suggestive). my personality description was honest. i've only had the profile up for a week, but i've gotten a lot of messages, many more than i expected. also, many of the guys who messaged me are very attractive. i honestly believe they are all way out of my league, on the looks scale. why did all these men approach me online when guys never approach me in real life?
Why is my online personality completely different from my real life personality?
Your online personality is your inner self finding an exposure for it while you're sitting behind a screen.It's you acting the way you want not the way people are expecting you to act.Your online personality is you given the time and space.You might be a socially awkward person, but online, you're not talking to anyone face to face, it makes you less nervous. Also, you can answer whenever you want, nothing has to be immediate like real life communication. So you take your time to think and respond in the way you want to, not what you managed to let out on the spot.You behind screens, no need to fake being nice or whatsoever.You can edit, delete or even deactivate whenever you want, thats not an option in real life.Some use the internet to let out their feelings and thoughts that they can't speak out in real life. Maybe they don't have the ability to speak their thoughts as much as they can write them down, maybe they don't know anyone interested in their thoughts about certain topics.I believe that your online personality says a lot about you. It says more about your thoughts, morals and attitude.Still, the internet is full of attention seekers and identity thieves who are just trying to grab the attention of others to gain popularity and fame, but these are easily exposed by time.
How can you tell if a person online is real?
There is no way to know short of actually meeting somone in person and if you meet them in person and they are NOT who you think they are it is DANGEROUS. I was an online and phone friend with a guy for 4.5 years before I met him in person. And this was after pic's and presents back and forth... Even then I met him in a public place... Just in case. NEVER MEET ANYONE UNLESS IT IS IN A VERY PUBLIC PLACE! NEVER MEET ANYONE UNLESS YOU HAVE A 'SAFE CALL'! (A safe call is a friend expecting a phone call at a predesignated time. If you don't call, they are to try and contact you and if they can't get ahold of you then they call the cops with your discription and the discription of your 'friend' and where you were suposed to be.) Never trust ANYONE you meet online. It sounds paranoid, and I have never had anything happen, but it is just good common sense...
Can you love a person online whom you have never met (that person isn't a fake and you guys are plannig to meet and move in together in future)?
My answer would've been different an hour ago.Now what happened in that last hour. I logged into a news site and the first and last news I hit was that of the blackmailing of a woman by a man she met online on facebook. He knew her for two years. They exchanged their numbers and used to interact often. The woman was married and once when her husband was not at home her online friend came to her home. ( yes, he manipulated her to reveal her address and came all the way from 1000s of kilometres). Now, that animal has committed the ghastly crime after adding sedative to her beverage.The woman started ignoring him and hide this horrific incident from everyone. But, he started blackmailing her. He told her that he would make her video viral and would defame her and in lieu of the same was asking for unreasonable favours from the woman. When, the woman couldn't take this anymore, she told her husband and they filed FIR and put that offender and blackmailer behind bar.I literally closed my eyes realizing that we are not safe while making friends online.Please note that:1. I am guilty of spoiling your mood but I felt that I must create awareness about the cyber crime and make you aware about all this.2. I made a rakhi sister online. I haven't meet her but I wanted to meet her someday. Now, I don't want to ask her to meet me as I don't want her to trust anyone online. I am now at my best pessimistic form. Being a better brother matters most to me. She is an awesome person.3. Please please please don't trust anyone online. You never know who are the wolves among the lambs.4. I am ashamed being a guy at this moment. But, I am only telling what I would tell my sister. 5. I am a guy and I feel hurt when people don't trust me. I feel I'm trustworthy. But, after seeing the terrible misuse of social media, I'm deeply hurt and disturbed.6. Stay safe and stay alert. Get Real. Don't fall in love online as the risk is pretty high. No one teaches about online safely and so I would voice against every injustice I would come across.7. Beware of strangers. I'm hurt writing this. It is contrary to my own thinking.I am sorry for spoiling your mood. But, I can be at peace with myself by cautioning you about the hazards. Only a handful of idiots are making life miserable for everyone out there.Extremely sorry for the guy for whom this question was asked. I'm sorry, dude!
Do you believe it's possible to fall in love online?
Ofcourse, it is possible.Sometime in early 2010, a stranger chatted me up on BBM. Every morning, his chat would be the first thing I read and he was really persistent about meeting up. It was weird, I didn’t know this man and he refused to tell me how he got my Blackberry pin. When he eventually did, it was someone I didn’t know that gave him my BB pin. It seemed like the person was a faceless cyber-matchmaker.After a while, I got tired of his constant messages asking to meet up and decided to be “friends” on BBM without meeting face to face. We got talking a lot on chat though I refused to give him my phone number because I was scared he might turn out to be a stalker. After about a month, I started enjoying our discussions and really started liking him, though we were just friends with common interests but still had not met. One day (about 3 months since he first chatted me up), he told me he was totally in love with me even though he had never seen me before except on my profile picture. I thought it was a joke but we continued chatting on BBM daily and I realised I was getting really fond of him, the highlight of my day would be our chats. 2 weeks after professing his love, we decided to meet up for the first time and we agreed to have lunch at my favourite restaurant.I got to the restaurant quite early, I did not want to appear too desperate by showing up first so I waited in my car. You see, I wanted him to be seated, patiently waiting while I make my “grand entrance”. I decided to quickly fix my make-up, brush my weave so it’ll look really bouncy and adjust my cleavage……… so it’ll look picture perfect. It was when I was done adjusting and “perfecting” my boobs that I looked up and saw him leaning on another car watching me intently while I put my “boobs ritual” on full display. I almost passed out from embarrassment, I felt like crawling under a rock . With embarrassment written all over my face, somehow, I got out of my car. He smiled and introduced himself formally, I mumbled back while averting my gaze in embarrassment. It was at that point I knew I had deep feelings for him because I was scared that I had turned him off.Well, that was 7 years ago and 26th of August this year will be our 6th wedding anniversary. We are still so in love and yes he still makes my heart beat faster.See how smitten he was with me?See how tight I hugged him? I was smitten too!This was 3 months before our weddingTHANK YOU BBM FOR CONNECTING ME TO MY SOUL-MATE.
Can falling in love with someone online who u have never met before be true love?
I feel like i'm in love with my girl friend but she lives in Nevada and i live in Massachusetts we always talk to eachother EVERYTIME and i can not go 2 seconds without thinking about her,I brag about her toall my friends saying shes the best girl in the world and so on for some odd reason she just cant leave my mind no matter what i do I mean I'd ditch my friends and stay inside just to talk to her and hear her voice again we say we love eachother and she says she thinks about me ALOT and I know she isnt lieing,I mean I know we both say we loves eachother and everything we do alot of things when we talk together we'll talk about what happening in eachothers days not even leaving out the smallest details and we NEVER hide secrets from eachother.........can this still be true love or am I just living some really stupid and pointless dream?
Why do I feel more comfortable chatting online than talking real-life?
Because when you are chatting there is slightly less pressure. Also, in text it is far easier to correct mistakes before they are known. You don’t get the chance to review what you are saying before you say it, but you do when it is in text. You can halfway type out a reply and realize that it is stupid and you can just take it back.In person communication is based on more than just words. It’s also based on body language and facial expressions. Some estimates go so far as to say the words you speak are only 10% of what you are communicating. Personally, I believe that is a serious overestimation of non-verbal communication, but the point remains that the words you use are only part of communicating.In text it’s almost entirely about words. I’d say 90% of online communication is what words you use. I know people do add in actions or emotions, but those are purposefully added and are not unconscious like they are in face to face interactions.I’d be willing to bet that part of it is a social anxiety of sorts. I have problems with it myself and have frequent problems with talking with people in real life. When I used to spend most of my time in chat rooms I rarely had any problems with communicating, but now it’s almost anytime there’s a large gathering.I’m not saying online interaction is bad, I think it definitely has a place in modern day society, but it is not the same as real actual interaction with other humans. Online is easier and more convenient, but real world is more satisfying. Take it from someone who has been on both sides of that coin.