Do cheating husbands really love their wives?
I believe what he is telling you is honest. married guys have this problem, yes it is between their legs. But they do get bored and their minds wander. Sometimes if a situation comes up and they think they can get away with it, they will stray. But I'd bet most regret it the minute they are done. Very few people - male or female - can say they never get the urge to look elsewhere. the stronger ones beat the urge and the weaker don't. Does that mean they love their partner any less? No. And in some ways it can make your marriage stronger. Please see AhManDuh's answer - it is awesome and is the perfect answer for this question.
Is creating an online dating profile, while married, considered cheating?
My husband who's serving overseas made an online dating profile to meet Russian women. I found out and I'm extremely angry and hurt. Sometimes I feel like it's not a big deal, but other times I feel I could divorce him for his betrayal. He even sent an email to some Russian woman asking to talk to her and telling her how gorgeous she is...meanwhile, I'm here constantly trying to make life easier for him. I stay up at all hours chatting with him (even though I'm a career woman myself), I send him a package twice a month (sometimes more), I send him messages/emails/offline IM's keeping him up to speed on what I'm doing, I write him a letter every night...yet his excuse for making this online profile and emailing this woman is because he felt "disconnected" from me. How would you feel? What would you do?
Found condoms in husband's car, he denies he has cheated.?
Sweetie it also happened to me 4 months ago,but mine was a bit diff. issue,but our sex life stunk for over a year,then I was getting something in his car when I found the condom by the driver seat edge. He said it wasn't his, maybe from our teenager's daughter, maybe from the man that fix the car, all lies. Finally I caught his affairs with another woman who's also married 3 months ago. Your's is a bit diff. your instinct is telling you something,don't ignore it, maybe his telling the truth,maybe not but if he says that he thought about it before, why in a world that he even thinking of doing it if the two of you are happy?/ Please be careful and be aware of his action and mood, a man thats having an affair do act more happy, always dressep up when he goes to work, and watch his cell phone................goodluck!1
Why do many women blame their husbands when they cheat?
Firstly, not just women do this, men do the same thing when they are caught cheating.To be a cheater, the person usually has a character flaw, or a personality disorder of some sort.It is much easier for the cheater to blame shift to their spouse than to look at themselves. No one likes to admit that they have issues that cause the bad behavior of being a cheater.Cheaters must be able to lie convincingly. This means that their moral compass is not functioning. Honesty, integrity, and respect are gone from the cheaters moral compass.It is extremely hard, if not impossible for the cheater to admit these faults and to fix them. It usually takes individual counselling with a therapist who has extensive experience dealing with infidelity to help the cheater face and repair their personal flaws.Blaming the spouse is so much easier.
Why does my husband's ex-girlfriend hate me?
does it matter? the issue is hers, not yours, you just keep being the bigger person and continue not to cause drama and eventually...she will get over it, probably when she finds another man- she didn't want him but doesn't want him to be happy either,your best revenge is just to be happy with your man and not let her rob you of any of those moments!!
Did my husband cheat because I have small breasts?
So my husband cheated on my on various occasions. Even through extensive counseling I did not find out why. The only reason he named for cheating is that he was "bored". He used to rave about our sex life and never told me that he misses anything. He tells me that he loves my small breasts. At the same time, he pretty much ignores them when we are having sex. When I was breastfeeding and my breasts were a good C cup he couldn't stop taking pictures of them. He says however that he would never want me to have a boob job (I was considering this). My first boyfriend cheated on me too, but this is 15 years ago. I did not hear about cheating of the following partners except for my husband. Would you say that there is a link between having small breasts and getting cheated on? Especially with our boob-obsessed media portraying that anything else but big breasts is not acceptable?
If my husband cheats and he is truly sorry, should I get a free pass to cheat once also or should I just leave?
I can see from your answer how you base your self esteem on his misdeed - it's either a revenge or you break off everything, head held high, because how else could you stay and if he had loved you, he'd never have strayed. But - news flash - it might not even be about you!The reason he strayed most likely lies with him. But probably at the same time he loves you deeply. How is it possible, you ask?One or two years ago, I would have done the same thing like you contemplate, exactly same thing. But my friend, I have a wonderful book specially just for you. I'm still healing and it has helped me lots.So I want you to listen very carefully right now. You both have waded into transitional marriage phase - you'll come out of it wisened up either way, but on your choice depends if happier or more sad, because grass is never greener on the other side.I'm talking about :This book is schoking, controversial, you won't want to agree with it at first, but soon you'll get captivated and I'm pretty sure at least in one of the accounts you'll meet your own image. Or your partner's.So what you should BOTH do TODAY is1. go to bookstore/Kindle, invest and buy this book (believe me, it's worth it to save a marriage you've built together), a copy to each of you.2. Separate for a bit to calm down - sleep in separate rooms/at friend's, if you can't stand his presence. He also must wind down.3. BOTH read the book, A to Z.4. After the week is up, meet outside, in a private corner of a café, and talk.Like you have in first days of your romance. Talk about the reasons, about the real motives, openly, honestly, but most importantly - what you both learned about it, about one another, and what it gave you in terms of strengthening, developing, maturing your relationship.You'll be amazed by the results, if both sincerely do it (use a bit of blame-guilting to get him to read it, if need be). And you might get unexpected insight on why it has happened. There's never only one side to these things and never only one is to blame. And, most contrary to common sense, you can actually salvage some good things out of it to improve your marriage.There's nothing you can't do or change, if both want it sincerely enough.May your path be joyous and fulfilling!
How do you learn to ignore your partners physical flaws?
Thanks for the A2A.Q: How do you learn to ignore your partners physical flaws?I have to confess that I do not really understand this question. I have never had a partner who is physically ‘perfect’ — no human being on this planet is without some kind of physical ‘flaw’. If you truly love the person, you love them warts and all — and, indeed, those warts tend to become part of what you love about them.If, say, they’ve gained weight since you’ve been together, or have let their teeth decay, and you’re worried about the effect this is having on their health, then by all means talk to them about your concerns (in a sympathetic, non-judgemental way); but if it’s just a case of ‘I don’t fancy you because you’re fat/your teeth aren’t pearly white,’ then you need to consider whether you really do love the person or just want a ‘trophy’ to tout about town with you. If it’s the latter, maybe you should do them a favour and end the relationship so they can find someone who’ll love them for how they are and not for how someone else thinks they should be.
If your GF cheated on you, would you break up by discussing elaborately or just ignore her and walk out silently?
Thanks Samanth for the A2AUsually an incidence has 3 angles1 . Your perception….means what you saw , heard and understood2 . Opposite persons perception……means what were her reasons , intentions and actions3 . Situational …….means these incidence occur in what situationHaving a break up is a big decision so before that if you elaborate what has hurt you , what you felt about her and how it affected youAlso listen her story and visualise the situation and then sit and think and make sure that it was an intentional cheating .Then break up or else if you straight away walk out , In future you may have chances to think that should I have given her chance of explanation??But once you talk out clearly , then what she is telling try to find whether it is true by asking other people and then break up.So you are sure you took the right decision.Goodluck.