Why do people feel fear while trying out new things?
It's the "comfortable shoe" syndrome. Few people are willing to step away from what they know because they have a instinctive fear of the unknown. Although I'm no professional psychologist, I would say that the fear of the unknown that most of us feel are residual instincts from our early ancestors, from a time where the unknown could be, and often was, deadly.We like to think of ourselves as "civilized", but we really aren't. From our personal fears to our group viciousness in war, we prove everyday that underneath the fancy technology and the societies we live in, there is a howling savage that is barely held in check.
Why is society more reluctant to tell a woman who has difficulty finding a sex partner that she needs to lose weight than we are to a man?
cause noone wants to hear that they need to lose weight
Why are some people so unwilling to question antiquated beliefs which have been disproven by science?
Why are some people so unwilling to question antiquated beliefs which have been disproven by science?Look at the periodic table from the perspective of a complete beginner. Look at physics as a complete beginner. Look at planetary mechanics and orbital mechanics as a complete beginner.Lots to know, lots to understand, lots to take on board, lots to figure out. Math, reading, studying, mountainous piles of data to take on board. Figure out how you can know the variables of a launch and make predictions with accuracy about where the craft will settle into orbit, or if it will even reach orbit.It’s tough. Science is a learning curve. It requires effort. It requires thinking.Most religion/antiquated belief is easy. I tell you a story, and all you have to do is say “I believe this story” and it gives you the easiest out imaginable for every discussion. You don’t have to know anything you don’t personally want to figure out because you can always fall back on the “will” of a deity figure or on some dogma that hasn’t been updated in centuries.I do caution you about the term “disproven” in relation to science. Science isn’t in the business of proving or disproving concepts, it merely studies things that exist. Such phrasing invites die-hard theists to demand that science “disprove” their chosen deity. Science doesn’t concern itself with proving theories, it’s about studying what exists. Experiments in various branches of science can prove concepts (a physicist can place a golf ball on a tee, observe it, then whack it with a driver to prove Newtonian Laws are correct) but science is not in the business of proving or disproving. It presents facts and results, and if those facts and results are contrary to an existing opinion, that’s as close to “proving” as science gets.People are unwilling to shed their old outdated opinions and dogma because it’s a helluva lot easier to say “This I believe to be true” than to hit the books and figure out the real answers. Some people are born to ask big questions and seek big answers, but not everyone has that kind of work ethic. “Because I believe” is a sufficient answer for those who don’t require actual answers that bear up to scrutiny.
In India, most of the times why do shop keepers are reluctant to give change for a hundred rupee note or a five hundred rupee note or thousand rupee note and more over they ask to buy us something from their shop to get a change?
Shopkeepers in India have an array of costumers visiting them. There is everyone from the rickshaw pullers to wealthy children etc. Now there are many reasons they ask you to buy something, the moment you show them a note of a bigger notation. Some of them are:-1) More Sales :- The shopkeeper will be happy if he is able to move out some of the obsolete inventory out and make some money. And there a tendency among wealthy people, who will buy anything small which will compliment the big product they are purchasing, but they won’t be willing to purchase it. The shopkeeper knows very well how to sell you that extra little thing and make some extra money.2) Counterfeit chances:- The shopkeepers are afraid that a duplicate note might have crept in their cash drawer. The will be up against a wall and lose their money.3) They need change to give away to the small and economically weak costumers, who might stop purchasing from that shop at all rather than purchasing something more.
I'm reluctant to ask questions or answers questions I think I know the answer to during class. How can I lose this fear?
“The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life” - ConfuciusLet me tell you a short story about a short story.Back when I was a kid studying in class 4, I used to be shy and reserved. This ofcourse reflected in my behaviour in class wherein I would not get my doubts cleared fearing if the teacher would tag me as a dumb kid or if it might not be the appropriate moment for asking this question.One morning, my dad was asking me something about the concept of evaporation (I remember it like it happened yesterday) and somehow it came to the fore that there was a doubt that had not been cleared in class. Dad wasn't furious, he wasn't even curious to know why I wasn't asking my doubts in class. All he told me was a short story, which was engraved in my mind forever.“We do not know anything except how to breathe and how to cry when we are born. We learn everything by asking or by people telling us about things. Now let us suppose there was a guy who does not know which colour is called Blue. He has reached as far as class 4 ignoring this doubt that he had since kindergarten.But, he thankfully asks this ‘dumb’ question in class 4. Of course the entire class including the sweeper outside laughed on hearing his doubt.But another guy asked this doubt in class 12. Not only did the entire class laugh at him, it went on social media and the entire country laughed at him. His name went into the record books. He gave interviews on Aaj Tak. And to top it off, the teacher refused to answer his question thinking it was a joke.So, it’s always better to ask a dumb question NOW; because if you don’t, fearing embarrassment, you'll be embarrassed all the more when you ask it LATER.tl;dr- And that was how I started asking all my doubts. Fearing the much larger embarrassment that I'll face if I ask my doubt any later.So go on! Ask that doubt in today’s class itself!
Why Don't People Say Anything About My Weight Loss?
It sounds incredibly vain, but I've worked hard for six months to lose weight. I am 5'2 and went from 169lbs to 122lbs But I recently went to a holiday party where I ran into old co-workers who haven't seen me in months. No one actually said "have you lost weight?" There were plenty who said "you look good!" I was a little peeved when one girl said "you look good, what have you been doing?" and I said, "well, I lost some weight" and she said "really?" as if she didn't believe me. Just wondering, what is the ettiquette is on this. Do you actually say somehting about weight loss or worry it will be offensive? Do you say something like "you look good" instead? I am thinking that is what they mean, but I can't help feel a little frustrated that I dropped a good amount of weight and no one has said anything. I do feel good and know that I look better, but its natural that I would want others to notice all the hard work i went into losing a little weight. Or is losing 40+ lbs just not noticeable yet?
Why do so many people (myself included) find getting into good physical shape so hard? What separates people who can get into shape from those who can’t?
Unlike the other answers, I explain some other factors that are more important than mindset, discipline, patience, will power and the likes.The right workoutEveryone is different. Everyone's body is different. Therefore there is no one fitness regime that works for everyone. Some can lose weight with aerobics. Cardio doesn't work for me at all. I slept when I tried yoga. Dancing was just not enough. Lifting weights is what helped me. But most people don't know this and give up when they don't see results.The right dietMost people are not willing to diet. Many have told me that I am living in hell because I eat healthy. Even those who do don't consult a dietitian. My mom still thinks that eating less will make you thin. She still believes that even though I have explained to her that it's counterproductive. And guess what, she has given up trying to lose weight.Even if they are willing, they will not take the time to find out what is right for them, because they don't understand that every body is different. So they give up way too early.HealthSome people simply cannot lose weight because of their health conditions like PCOD, thyroid.ReluctanceSome people need to visit a doctor or a dietitian but their reluctance is what stops them. I know people who think that going to hospital is only for emergency sickness. So they think this is irrelevant.Lifestyle/professionJust working out and diet are not enough. Proper sleep is equally important. I know people who want to lose weight but they work in night shifts which stops then from getting adequate sleep. Now you know why doctors in India are mostly fat.TimeUnlike most people claim, everyone doesn't have 24 hours in a day. A working mother with no help from spouse, for example, may not be able to squeeze in time to maintain proper diet and exercise.It's easy to judge that a fat person is not disciplined or doesn't have any motivation or will power. But you may never know the battles they are fighting everyday!
I'm gay, what can I do to become straight, I don't want to be like this?
First, by being diagnosed with clinical depression you should be seeing a health care provider regularly and you should be consistent on staying on whichever medications that have been prescribed for you. Second, just as you acknowledged that you did not choose to be gay you also cannot choose to be straight. Sometimes people think their lives would be better in some way if they were different, but instead of wanting your life to be better by being something that you are not you should learn to love yourself and accept yourself. You are who you are. When I was your age I felt that I was gay, and I continued to fight the feelings throughout college. When I finally accepted myself for who I was it made me happier than I had ever been before. Not all religions view homosexuality as wrong; and yes, you may lose some friends, and if you do they were not your friends to begin with. Thirty years from now there is no guarantee that these people would still be your friends, but thirty years from now you will still have to live with yourself and the easiest way to do that without any regrets is to be honest with yourself, and one of those things that you should be honest with yourself about is who you are attracted to.
How can I lose interest in material things ?
The more we have of material things the more we want and the greedier we become . I don't want any part of that . Being humble is always considering others before yourself . This requires faith in God to provide for you, letting go of everything that I possess, so that by being free of material things I can own all things . As long as I’m tied to the things of this world I’ll never know true humility because these material things will keep me busy tending to them . How can I get over buying new belongings ? Do I make a rule that says "Don't buy any new material things ?" . How can I get to where II don't depend on material things for happiness ? What do I do with myself after I give up collecting material things ? How can I get spiritually ready to get rid of my belongings ?