WHy do so many women choose to become single mothers?
I have a lot of female relatives and I notice that a lot of them are single mothers. The story seems to be the same every time: 1. Spreads her legs for some thug, no protection, she gets pregnant 2. Thug promptly dumps her after finding out, or ends up in jail for some crime 3. She has baby and goes on welfare It's not that they don't know any better, most of them had been thru high school. Besides my cousins I also notice a lot of single mothers in general, why do these women choose to become single mothers? Don't they realize they are dooming themselves to a life of poverty? Let's not forget that their children will grow up dysfunctional from lack of a father figure. Also, it is pretty much impossible to land a husband in the future as a single mother; men don't want women w/ "baggage". And these women have so many options when it comes to stopping/preventing pregnancy, and yet they choose to have the baby regardless. Why a woman would throw it all away to become a single mother makes little sense.
For women, would you rather be a single mother than not get the chance to be a mother at all? I am 33 years old and have started considering this.
Would you rather be a single mother than not get the chance to be a mother at all?I am fifty-one with 3 adult children; my daughter (the oldest) has 2 children ages 5 and 3.I love my grandchildren of course (as well as my children) and spend a fair amount of time with them.Based on my life experiences, I would rather not have children at all than be a single parent.Let me explain this recent event: My daughter and the children’s father recently and finally had a wedding. (Which was very beautiful.) She and her husband left the following week for their honeymoon, while I kept the children full-time for 5 days while they were gone.Now even though I raised 3 kids (with a husband with whom I’m not divorced), and spend a fair amount of time with the grandkids, I was still surprised at how tiring and stressful it was taking care of them by myself that week.As an example, I start work at 7:30 am, and the 5-year-old attends public school. Which means she has to be at the school within a narrow window of time. Just getting up, ready, out the door, and to the places we needed to be on time in the mornings was stressful. Fortunately, their grandpa (my ex) and my son came over and helped out those mornings. But what would I have done without any help? Paid someone? Not start work on time? And this was just for 5 days.Raising children is also very expensive. I’m not even going to elaborate.Another thing to consider about having children later in life is this… I’m speaking from experience when I say it takes more time, work and resources to take care of oneself as a woman when we get older. With that said, I can’t imagine trying to take care of a child and myself at this stage of my life.Therefore, if I was making a choice, I would choose to be single and childless than to be a single parent.
Would you date a single mother?
I have had relations with a beautiful girl a year older than me. We just spoke today for the first time in about a year. We were doing well and at the time she had one kid. She is a wonderful mother and her kid is a sweetheart. She is everything that I wanted. We cooked some kick ass dinner and played with her kid until he went to sleep. Once he would go to sleep we would watch movies and go to sleep. With as much as I work, I couldn't picture a better Saturday night.Things kept going well until the father of her child wanted a second chance. She came over one afternoon and cried her eyes out telling me that she was sorry but it's the best for her kid. I was upset but I fully understood and encouraged her to do what is best for her child. We stopped talking until she called me about 2 months after she got back with the father of her child. She called to tell me she was pregnant. Normally I am all for sex. I'm a man, that's all we care about right? I told her that I wouldn't have sex with her until I knew we were exclusive and her child wasn't around. Because of this we never had sex so I knew the child wasn't mine. She was pregnant with the boyfriend she has just got back with. Now she has 2 kids and wants to pick up where we left off.I'm not sure the exact reasoning behind it, but I do not have desire to continue pursuing anything with her. Nothing past friendship level. I honestly don't know if it is because she has two kids now or if it is because I'm worried she will just cut me off again.I would date a female with 1 child that wasn't planned. Any more than that would be iffy, but I am a 20 year old trying to figure life out. I need to worry about my own life before I worry about a woman with 2 kids.
Should i marry a single mother?
I moved in with a 42 y/o single mother about 4 months ago. She has a 12 y/o son and a good job. At the time i moved in i was not aware of hypergamy and the red pill. She would like for us to get married and buy a house, but she doesn't want any more kids. Now i'm asking myself "what about my own house, what about having my own kids, why am i commuting 45 miles to be with her and kid who half pretends to like me?" I feel like i got a marathon medal without running a marathon.
Why do single mothers look for men such as myself when I don't want to have anything to do with them?
Dear G Man, Reason is this, those women are looking for a sugar daddy to pay for their unwed children. Sounds cruel of me but sometimes the truth hurts to hear. You will find it very very hard to discover a hard working single woman in her 30's. I was until I married at age 40. (I never had kids, my choice, I was single that was my choice so why would I have a child, see what I mean?). But when I dated men I found so many of them had kids which was one thing I didn't want to get into, being a step parent, but I found almost ALL the men in their 40's and 50's had kids and ex wives so I felt I would never find a great guy without baggage. So being an interviewer in HR I set up an ad on LOVE@AOL and specified certain things I was looking for: ie: no one more than 50 miles away from me (long distance relationships don't work out), no kids, age needed be a certain age like from 30 to 50 no twenty yr olds. See so by doing this I had only a certain type of man who answered my ads. I would get home at night from my job and check my emails and answer only ones I was interested in. This helped me filter out the ones I didn't care to waste time with. Then I would talk on the phone and do emails no personal private info was given out. Then I would meet that person for lunch because lunch is enough time for me to see and meet and get a feeling if I wanted this to go further and same for him too. I know it sounds pickey and rather clinical in the way of interviewing for a boyfriend. But...it worked. I found a person who matched me and we "clicked" I was 40. You can do this too. Try it. I went through alot of lunches and meetings but eventually he appeared and I dropped my ad and we married. Try this method and I hope it helps you. I think there is nothing wrong with how you feel. You know what you want some men don't know what they want in life....you do. Good luck :)
Why more than 89% of serial killers come from single mothers' homes?
Warren Farrell elaborated on this The father lays down acceptable expressions of masculinity.Boys model their fathers behaviour(as girls model their mothers behaviour).