Do You Like My Daughter

From this man’s perspective, a daughter is the perfect female.A female you had always dreamed of meeting in real life and never met - because perfection does not exist (apart from your daughter).A female that loves you unconditionally. A female that would never stop loving you, that would never choose another father, that would never say: honey, I want to divorce you, it does not work between us, see?A female that always tries to understand you, that is always interested in you, for whom you are unique and not just one of very many men existing in the world.A female that you can love unconditionally without being suspected of any creepiness. A female that you can hug without any sexual allusions. A female that you can give all the best that there is in your heart.A female that you can help as she grows. A female you can always be useful to. A female that asks you to help her, very sincerely and very openly. A female that discovers a whole freaking world under your eyes.Finally, a female that you can understand. When she is being crafty, you can still see it all through - because she is a child or because you remember her as a child.A son for his mother can play a similar role. To some extent, I did and I still do, for my mother.

Oh just this morning!!I have a active six year who does not really say “Good Morning” or open his eyes till he is carried down all the way from master bedroom to the living room! Thats his mumma time/hug time/ or whatsoever we want to call it.. and before you all start thinking why I am still doing it..Thats just so because I know this human being who is already reaching my shoulder(a small mumma he has!) will one day not need these hugs any more and oh I will miss them!So even though I cant carry him much.. I have to literally ask him to hold on to me like a monkey!! “Cross your hands,wrap ur legs!” All the way .. but I will still continue to do it all the way.. till I can ..till I can.. each day at a time.. each moment captured prefectly in my mind!Missing it already !!!

When I had my son (many decades ago), he was such a great baby, slept through the first night he was home, was a sunny and good-natured little guy, cried very seldom and when a toddler, played with his toys all afternoon happy as a lark. Because of his demeanour, I wanted another boy. My second child was a girl, who kept me up for a few nights but then slept well after. They were both large babies (10 and 11 lbs.) so I think they were better developed and therefore didn’t fuss much. Each child has a different character, have their own uniqueness and personality, They are now both well-adjusted and caring people with their own children. It really does not matter which gender they are as long as they are happy and healthy.

In all relationships… including with a “daughter-in-law…”Just be You! :-)But, in order to BE *You*…You must dis-cover *You*! :-)Most people have not yet truly figured out (or rather, re-membered) who They are. Thus, before one can determine how two things (or in this situation, two people) relate to each other… they each must be well on their individual ways to dis-covering who They are. (If I show you two closed boxes and tell you that the contents of each box relate to each other somehow and then ask you “HOW do they relate?” Unless you had a basic idea of what each contained, it would be impossible to determine what their relationship is. For instance, water and ice, man and woman, hot and cold….) Relationships of individual people are the same. Before a relationship is possible, the accurate contents of each must be known.So, as in all relationships:*Love Your Self (“the Lord thy God”) with all thy 1) heart and with all thy 2) might and with all thy 3) mind and with all thy 4) strength.Translated: Vigilantly and continuously oversee your: 1) feelings. Do you feel self respect, honor and appreciation… for YOU? 2) energy. Do you invest your will power into furthering the long-lasting good in your life? 3) thinking. Are your thoughts about yourself in alignment with feeling good about yourself? 4) action. Do you live true to these feelings, energy and thinking, making wise choices in your day-to-day life that further your self-respect?As you become more integrous and self-respecting, you will then, naturally, respect HER and everyone else to that same degree. There will be no judgment… or expectations to be a certain way… just discernment. You will respect HER (correctly and for long-term) with all your feelings, energy, thoughts and actions.You CANNOT “get your daughter-in-law to like you.” But, you can let your own LIGHT shine and increase the likelihood of interacting appropriately with her… and everyone. You may wish to share these eternal truths with your daughter-in-law as well. When she is ready… she will gravitate towards you and the relationship will be harmonious and mutually satisfying. Until then, always be in control of your emotions, your environment, and love yourself. If the relationship takes a while to develop, allow that. Love her from afar. But always… let your light shine!I hope this helps…