Where/How to have sex when you don't live alone and have no privacy at all?
Okay so basically me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months and we were both virgins(21 years old both of us). First time we did it in her apartment, when her brother was out of town(she is living with her brother). However the first time was really bad(and yeah well couldn't expect much from 2 virgins), and we want to do it again but no place for it. I live in a house with my family and have my own room. However the rooms have 0 sound isolation and I can clearly hear anyone whispering from any room in the house. Also my girlfriend is too shy to come and stay whole night at my home because of my parents(she would do it if I was alone). Her being alone in her apartment in the next 2-3 months is probably not happening either. If I would use my car for it, we would have to travel at least 2 hours to the nearest forest, and my car is small. Also another problem is that I think we will need a shower afterwards, since the first time was a mess and we stopped because she felt too much pain, I am guessing second time the same thing might happen and we would need to get cleaned up after. Renting a room is also not an option, since we are too poor to afford it(or the rooms are too expensive). Doing it at a friends house cant happen either, since all my friends live with roommates and its impossible to coordinate it when everyone will be out. My family never goes on vacations for say a day or two. Also there is always at least 1 person home from my family. I have 0 privacy.
I live in paradise, right next to the beach, but our accommodation is small and I'm finding myself wishing I had more. How can I just be grateful for what I have?
Let me tell you. My 100 year old house, is only 1300 square feet. It is in a historic neighborhood. It is paradise to me. I do see the big old grand homes in my neighborhood but my house is enough. I have a very large front yard that has my outdoor office. My house has character. It is called Spazhouse. it was once a carriage house. A barn below with living quarters above. It was a barn! The best part? It’s paid off.Here is the deal about beach living. Look online about the property prices. Your small beach accommodation is worth more on the real estate market than larger homes more inland. You may not realize how much your place is worth.What people do not know about upgrading, is the overall price to own such a larger place. Your property tax is higher. The utilities maybe higher. And you may need to step up your game in keeping up with the neighborhood. This will cost you. A bigger home means filling your home up with more stuff. Do you want to do that?Make the most of your accommodations. Minimalism is in. Watch some great videos on tiny home living on YouTube. There are certainly great inexpensive ways to add comfort and value to your place.You may not realize that your friends, who have bigger homes wish there were you. They may look around and see that you have everything you need. They may not be able to abandon themselves of their stuff. Stuff weighs people down.Every day you can walk out on to the beach and watch the sunrise or sunset, depending on where you live. I have to drive over 40 minutes to get to the ocean. Trust me you are one of the luckiest.
What is it like to live in Newport Beach, CA?
I've been here for 10 years now. I live in an apartment with a view of the ocean, but it's very expensive. That said, there's no way I could afford to buy a place with a view like this.The weather really is that good. I mean it's sunny most of the time, and it's never more than about 85 in the summer with no humidity and not much cooler than the mid 60's in the winter with (unfortunately for our drought) not much rain.You can actually rent a decent apartment near a lot of shops and things to do for not crazy money (Newport Bluffs comes to mind, used to live there) and enjoy everything this area and the surrounding beach communities has to offer (Huntington Beach with is more of a party area, or Laguna Beach which is very nice but a little packed in).As far as money goes, you do see a lot of Ferraris and such, but it's not as in your face as Beverly Hills. No one cares what you drive unless you show up to some singles hangout and valet park.I really do think this part of the country (world?) has the best combination of weather, safety, things to do, places to drive to in less than a day, and enjoyable lifestyle. San Diego would be my close second choice. Newport Beach is number one just because there are more places you can drive to easier (Santa Barbara, Big Bear, Palm Springs, San Diego, Sequoia National Park, even San Francisco, all less than a day away.
Mansion living alone?
Penthouse or condo. And be prepared to pay WAY more than the property is actually worth. The markup on beachfront properties is ridiculous. Also take into account that all of your neighbors will be dirty stoners and there are lots of homeless people at the beach. Also remember that "super rich" people live paycheck to paycheck just like the rest of us...just on a grander scale.
Do people who live by the beach ever get bored of it?
I’ve lived two blocks off the beach for the past 10 months, and I can’t imagine becoming bored of it any time soon!Whether or not someone becomes bored of their current surroundings depends greatly on how long they have been living there, and also the kind of desires they have for their life.For me, living by the beach has been a dream for many years. But for others who are not from landlocked parts of the world like I was, and who are used to living within a day trip to the beach, they may easily get bored of it.
How do I convince my parents to let me live alone?
Just tell them Martha's Vineyard is the safest place on Earth. Seriously.I lived there for three months this year (September to November) and though I was always watching my back the first week (as an european coming to "that country were arming yourself is legal and encouraged by the constitution", I was always expecting a psycho to shoot me in the back, plus I'm a coward), Martha's Vineyard safeness was mind-blowing.To give you some examples, most people were leaving the keys in their car when shopping (I heard of one car getting stolen on my second week there and the car was found the next day in perfect state...just a joyride), most houses don't even lock (a friend of mine who had to sell his house and give the keys to the new owner had to buy locks for his house because he NEVER had a key for the house in the first place),...Islands are pretty safe in the first place. Stuff happens, sure, but all I've seen was people being arrested for DUI or partying too loudly (okay, I almost got arrested for that second one). Since the island can only be left by the ferry (one every...less than two hours), people won't try robberies or car stealing. I never felt safer in any place (and coming back to France is getting pretty hard).If you want to know more about the safety of Martha's Vineyard, you should follow/read/ask the Oak Bluffs, MA Police Department's Twitter (product) account.Another thing you should tell your parents is that in the summer, the island is full of people coming from overseas. There will be tourists, but workers too. You are likely to meet a lot of interesting people from all over the world (I met a lot of cool serbian people in September).Good luck, if your parents agree to it, the Vineyard will change your life!Don't hesitate to ask me for infos about MV if you need more help convincing your parents
Can police officers afford homes if they live alone?
If they've been with the force long enough, sure. A police officer's starting salary wouldn't be enough to buy a house in many parts of the country, unless he works somewhere where housing is relatively cheap.
Do you love the beach and which is your favorite and did you ever want to just live on one?
I lived for 50 years in Belle Harbor, NY; 3 blocks from the beach. I grew up there. I loved that beach. There was a spot on the beach that was my home. The walk to and from the beach was special, (fast to and slow from the beach).I left after watching the towers fall from the school wher I was teaching, (overlooking Jamaica Bay), and then a plane crashed a few blocks away on 11/11. Pieces fell all over around my house.Finally I didn’t want to wait for Sandy, which I knew was coming.I no longer want to live that close to the beach. So I live about 10 miles from the beach in Naples FL.