Do You Tell The Truth Even If It

Would you say that you tell the truth even when you know that others are likely to think less of you?

Yes, but this just started happening I’d say in the last few years. I was in the height of revamping my life, and working on myself and all that, but in the cleanup phase…I hit that state of being “embarrassed” about things I’d done (or that had happened) in my life. I didn’t want to lie to the “new people” I was bringing into my life, but I didn’t know how to share certain things, if and when I were asked. I walked around feeling this half confidence, my new life (which was awesome), and the old one (which was not so awesome) seemed to be in constant conflict.Then I met a really incredible woman, who told me about the importance of putting “shame” to shame. She told me that she herself had to learn this, and that until she did, it had held her back too. I began to realize that she was right, we (human beings) all have things we’re ashamed of in our lives, but we shouldn’t let these things hinder our growth, and they should never derail our progress. So, I began to confront these things, and after a while I was able to embrace them, and accept them as a part of my old life.Now, (after many conversations of the same), people with the same experience, and the very obvious realization that, people lie out of fear…and things are different. I have people who are amazed at some of the things I will admit about myself (my experiences have left me not caring what others think…at all). I don’t really have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have seem to like me as I am, and I know that can’t be easy for them.Since I sort of went through what I consider to be one of the hardest things one has to do in this life (self analyzing/transformation of my entire self), it’s hard for me to accept BS. If I know someone is lying, I’m calling it out…right there, all the time, every time (I’m the worse person to have around for most people). I own when I’m wrong, so if you do wrong with me…it will come out. Most people when they meet me don’t believe me when I say, “I don’t lie”…but they all eventually understand that this girl…she don’t lie.I would rather hurt your feelings, break your heart, and tear down everything you believe with my truth…but I would never disrespect someone ever again…by thinking so little of them (or myself), that I would lie to them. We all have to be able to handle the truth, and if we don’t know how…we need honest people in our lives, to help us to do just that.

"I always tell the truth, even when I lie." This quote, by Al Pacino in the movie Scarface, has never made sense to me. Can anyone please clear this up for me?

I don't know why he says this in a movie. But, truth and reality must also contend with perception and culturally defined reality.Or when the truth is narrowly defined it is hard to be honest without lying.Just look at some of the opinion polls for this election cycle. They ask you a question and then qualify that answer to suit the narrative they want to be told, but by checking off that box you are answering the question honestly, but the qualifying statement says that you support something you do not. But by ticking the other box, neither your answer or the qualifying statement rings true. It forces you to tell them the lies they want to hear, No matter what answers you give.But in the movie I don't think the situation matches up at all.

Have you ever told the truth even if hurts you?

Yes, mostly because I’ve never really done anything bad enough to really have to lie about it and because I’m not greedy enough or obsessed enough about something that I would be willing to lie to get it.Sure, you will get hurt sometimes when you lie, admit a mistake or failing. It not only brings anger/rejection/etc from people, but usually they will also disrespect you for being so stupid as to tell the truth when you could have lied. Yes, people will actually look down on you for telling the truth.Also, people don’t actually trust you more for being a honest person. They trust you less because they fear you will hold honesty more important than lying for them. They won’t trust you with their secrets. They will be less likely to let you know they did something bad.This is because people don’t dislike lying so much in general. They don’t like being lied to, but they assume it happens anyway and act accordingly. What they hate most of all is anyone that puts honesty over loyalty. They want to be around people that will lie to protect them.OK, an example: I got fired from my first job for admitting a minor mistake, actually volunteering the information because it solved the mystery of who was stealing. I think they were more disrespectful to me for being a schmuck to tell the truth than for making the mistake. I was really surprised when they made a patsy out of me, blaming me for something a lot worse that was their fault. It was them or me. It was an important lesson. The lesson was not to keep my mouth shut and mind my own business. Instead, I decided it was better to use my talents to be the official one doing the investigating.Another example: When I went to the DMV to register a older cargo van I had just purchased, I told the lady I paid $12k for it. She looked up and said “You mean $1,200?” I said, “No, twelve thousand dollars.” She looked at me incredulously and said “You know, we don’t actually verify the sales price, so you will pay sales tax based on whatever you tell us is the price you paid, as long as it is reasonable.” I replied, “Yeah I understand, but I actually paid $12k, not $1,200.” She just looked at me like I was from Mars or something and then burst out laughing. I did feel a bit foolish for paying the extra $900 in taxes at that point, but was I really hurt? Not really.

Since the truth can hurt, would someone who always tell the truth be considered good or evil?

There was a girl in my school who was always sad, whoever she used to meet, she used to tell her about her cruel life and all sad stuff like that, so girls took pity on her and they always consoled her.She was doing all this to get attention, it was obvious. “Every” girl knew. No one would say “anything” mean to her, because they knew if they did, she could brought a bad name to all those girls by her expert CRYING. She was dangerous.My friend, acted upon “Truth hurts” soo honestly. She ALWAYS spoke truth no matter what. So I always kept her away from that girl.One day, me and my friend were enjoying our lunch and she just appeared. O! now I KNEW what was going to happen.Here, that girl sat with me and after two or three minutes, she was crying telling some sad story to me and I was saying, plz don't cry, it's going to be alright..bla bla .. and there, my friend was seeing all this, at last when she was SICK of her crying, she said,“Not everyone in this world likes you, there are so many people who will ignore you and hate you, stop taking pity on yourself like that, don't think YOU are the only nice person, think everyone is nice except you only then you'll get some peace”.Yes, exactly she said it like that, and then what happened, next day teachers called my friend and asked her why did she insult that girl knowing she is so sensitive and innocent.My friend said, Truth hurts.And that girl was again crying like someone's dead.Teachers were looking at my friend as a CRUEL and BAD PROUDY girl who doesn't care about anyone's feelings.Now let's change my friend's wording,“ This world is not always in our favor, we will get ignored million times by whom we love but we have to endure it, stop taking pity on yourself, it will make you enjoy less things in life. Be happy and don't care about anyone who doesn't care about you”.If she talked like that, I believe none of this would've happened.I say, we should speak the truth but in such a way that it doesn't make someone think that we are being “arrogant” or “evil”. More like in a positive wording, and with nice behavior, the people who have such ART of speaking to people, are never considered rude.