Am I Depressed?
I'm 18, I'm in college, i have a few friends & im single. I know usually people who suffer from depression have loss of appetit, always crying, barely has friends, etc. But for me, that's not the case. I eat, & im not always crying and yes i do have a couple friends. But when I get alone, even if it's just for a minute i become sad. I have no idea why im sad. i get sad at night also when I'm alone. I push my friends away when because i want to be alone but at the same time i feel lonely. at night when i think about how im lonely, i start to cry sometimes. I don't necessarily have a reason to be sad, but chest feels heavy and i feel like i have no one. im close with my family so i am definitely loved. but for some reason they're not enough. i get sad when im alone. & ny chest feels heavy throughout the day sometimes. I don't know where this sadness is coming from, nor do i know if im depressed. what do you think it is?
My teacher thinks i am depressed?
the counselors are WAYYYY crazy. all of 'em. My counselor once thought that I *MADE* my cat scratch me because I enjoyed pain. I was like, "er, no? i picked him up and he didn't want to go to the vet....." It's pretty mental, but just keep sticking to your story, and eventually they'll find a REAL nutcase to harp on. Haha.
What do you think about depression?
My opinion:Sometimes, the difference between having a bad day and borderline depression caused by stress, areYour adaptability to changing situations,Your coping mechanisms andAbility to detach from a predetermined expectation or outcome.Some of this is hereditary (For example, suicide tendencies run in some families). While some of it is learned from interacting with our caregivers (e.g, parents).For the chemical aspect that is possibly genetic, it is important that you know the mental health history of your family tree and establish your susceptibility to depression and similar mental health anomalies. For example, some men begin to have extra marital affairs during a midlife crisis to cope with some situations. Some women comfort themselves with food. They overeat when they are sad till they become obese. You may think that you don't have any of these traits but it can become late when you find out that you actually do. Learn how to self regulate as soon as you're triggered.If for example, you planned to pick up your kids and go shopping for groceries after work and then your car develops a fault, and you experience a complete breakdown, you might not have effectively responded to your trigger. When you were making the decision to drive out, you were not able to detach yourself from the expectation of things going exactly as you planned. For some people, their trigger is losing their bunch of keys.With all due respect to people who are diagnosed as clinically depressed, I think a sizeable number of undiagnosed cases might not have effective coping mechanisms.Again, I strongly believe that not all suicide cases are from depression. Some are reactionary patterns that are either inherited or learned. I have read about children who committed suicide because they were bullied or teased. I have a feeling that one or more of their parents would have experienced a major breakdown from a similar situation when they were younger. What I am saying in essence is that problem solving skills can be inherited genetically or from observation.With both ways, when you notice you are at the brink of a breakdown, you should speak with a person who can rationalise things for you, possibly a professional.Sometimes, what you need to hear is “it's just a bad day, your life is not ruined”.
Do you think i am depressed?
Hey girl!!!!! Wake up sweetie, you have to live for your friends that are not here anymore. They wouldnt want to see you like this, they would want to see you happy thats why they were your friends because they loved you right? Come on its time to get on your knees and talk to your friends and to the lord. Tell them you love them and that you'll get better for them. I have been through alot to be only 19 I have depression panic disorder with agoraphobia and low self esteem also I have had 2 friends to get shot in the head and are now dead, and one friend is in jail for attempted murder. Baby girl your life has to go on. Dont let this get you down let it make you stronger.
How do you know if you are depressed? When I think over past failures, I feel bad for wasting years and my parent's money. But if I cry about it, I fear I’ll become depressed. How do I analyze what I did wrong and cry, without becoming depressed?
The medical answer is imbalances within cause mental malfunctions, and fluctuations. For me though the truth is, depression must be fed to grow. Often it's when stressful external pressures, situations, and realities combine with these imbalances that we tend to go through life sucking depressive episodes. But you must know merely crying and remembering do not bring depression. Two weeks or more of prolonged, lingering often unexplained sadness, or change of mood, appetite, and many other things MIGHT be SYMPTOMS of depression. Then again they may not. It's not an if then statement. I talk about this is my book. Crack the Depression CodeIt's a FREE download if you want. NO strings.If it helps you in any way I'm happy. Simple as that.Falling into patterns which move you into typical depressed mental states can deepen your depression, and fear in all it's many forms should be considered carefully. What do you fear in a particular situation? Why? Is it a real fear or something your mind has made up? Does it come from a false truth you haven't looked at lately? This concept of life or years wasted...the truth is a the singular truth among those who are high functioning models of success, (Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, Beyonce, etc, etc) is their way of looking at, "mistakes". The truth is you learn by doing, and doing anything well is going to require many mistakes, often expensive ones. This is a core truth of life. We all have made mistakes, today is another day. This moment is another moment. Let go of the pain in your past as soon as you can. Let every sunrise wash you clean from the refuse you have collected; arise and look to another day anew.
I think I'm depressed but I don't know if I am. How can I tell?
If you feel like not wanting to do anything, not wanting to eat or over eating... have been feeling this way more than 2 weeks... You need to be seen immediately if you are having suicidal thoughts... go to your emergency room. They can help you. OTHERWISE, call your family doctor and make a list of the way you have been feeling.1. How long has this been going on2. What caused you to feel this way3. Do you have a lack of energy4. Are you eating or over eating5. When did you notice this6. Are you having any thoughts of hurting your self or others7. Are you able to clean your home8. Are you able to care for yourself... i.e. take showers, personal hygiene 9. Are you caring for a child or someone else? Have you been neglecting them10. Have you lost interest in social activities 11. Are you skipping appointments, or going to work 12. Are you hearing voices or seeing thing things that aren't that others can't see13. Do you have a plan to harm yourself or someone elseIf you answered yes to most of all of these... see a doctor IMMEDIATELY. Otherwise call your family doctor.
Why do i feel so depressed after drinking?
This is your mind going "DRINKING IS NOT FOR YOU", but you are ignoring it. And so is everyone you know and likely everyone you will ever meet as well, and I certainly didn't. Listen to your mind. We think we are all that and we are always showing off to each other on the eternal competition that will never end how much fun and how brilliant we can be, but almost nobody ever listens to their minds. Your mind is not a party pooper by the way, your mind is your friend, but you are ignoring it. It says "drinking is not good for us". And it is saying that for a very good reason - you have other things in your subconscious that you want to do that you are more interested in than drinking. You ignore what your subconscious wants, you ignore your mind, an ignored mind = a tired/emotionally wrecked mind. The peer pressure of drinking, the fear is you quit drinking/you lose your friends, and that may very well happen, but the ones you lose, you'll be happy to lose. Your mind doesn't want to do this anymore - it wants to get started on other things IT REALLY WANTS because those things are what YOU REALLY WANT. The more you ignore, the harder it is to remember, the harder it is to see clearly. But you are never out of time, the longer you ignore the harder it is but it is never ever impossible. Get whatever help you need if you think you need help but you can do all this by yourself, you didn't always drink, you just got older in a society where drinking = acceptance, but it is not what you want. I like drinking too, but I like not drinking more. I'm actually getting started on things I want to do in my life and getting there. I am no one special, I just realized one day that I was doing all the things my mind was saying "you don't want to do that Dave". So I stopped, and as Scott says - it does get easier. This is just the psychology of why. Your brain is a part of you, in charge of every mental function you have, and it wants to be listened to.
How can I tell someone that I have depression (or think I am depressed)?
This is one of these questions that seems open-ended to me. I could see somebody in a quiet spot, with their head low, the arrangement of their body in a kind of “defeated” pose. They may or may not show signs of crying. I could pass by and give them their own space, or I could stop and ask if they were alright, if I help in any way. But I doubt very much that they would look up at me and say “I am depressed.” They may ignore me, and then of course I would go on, none of my business. Or they might offer some sad news, like the passing of someone dear to them. There are all kinds of ways they could react.Now, suppose I am the one in the quiet spot with the same attitude I described.(As a clinically depressed person, most likely you would not find me in that situation because we depressed people tend to hide it very well, and if we cannot maintain a “mask of normality”, we would not be out in public.)But for the sake of your question, and I was there crying, I would probably raise my head, and if asked if I was alright, would say something along the lines of, “I’m ok, just found out a close relative of mine had passed away and it overcame me. I’ll be alright. Thanks are caring.” That would tell you I had a purpose for my tears, and I was touched that you cared enough, as a stranger, to ask if there was anything you could do for me.SO, for me, because this has been with me all my life, the ones who are closest to me know I have problems and are used to me by now. My doctors all know. But one thing I do have to say, in my opinion (and other depressed people can speak for themselves) my main goal in life is to make sure NOBODY KNOWS I am feeling bad out in public. You would never know me with my “mask” on. I am the one who can talk with anyone, is always helpful, is as encouraging as I can be with others, and easy to get along with. I don’t want anything. I am the person who “never takes the last slice.”When I can’t maintain my “Happy Face” I stay at home away from society, only coming out when I have to. This is called “isolating yourself.” This is when my mask is off, and I am crying, thinking bad thoughts, and sad beyond sad. When you see me like this, I am depressed. I don’t need to tell you.
Do you feel sad or depressed in the Winter time?
I hate Winter, it is so dark every day and it makes me feel like I don't want to go out of the house but in Summer I am totally different, I wake up really early and want to be outside all the time. Do you guys in Turkey get this or is it not so dark and dull there during Winter?