I am depressed and unhappy with my life. I'm unable to achieve what I want. No one understands my feelings or cares for me. What should I do?
Really?If you think you are unhappy,depressed and no one cares about you. At least you have everything, at least have a home to live,food to eat and clothes to wear, then What would you say about them?What is your opinion about them?Street childrenHomeless personsOrphansand a those who spend their entire life in railway station.May be you are unhappy for certain reason, likeJob failureLess salaryNo statisfication in your placementLove failureDon’t have many friendsYou are not enjoying your life with fun,party,trip etcAnd what notBut what about them?They are homeless,hopeless, no family,no enjoyment ,no food to eat, and have no home to live.At least you are living your life far better than them. How can you be selfish and only thinking about yourself?About me- I also feel sad,depressed at some point of my life, But i have already everything?What have they?They have no options,They have no choices to choose their dresses, we have different choices and many brands to choose.We have a bed and mattresses to sleep on and they would wish that they find place to sleep everynight.We eat thrice a day delicious food, and they die from lack of food.We have everything, still we are depressed and unhappy with our precious life. But They always find different reason to be happy in their life.Then why can’t I, YOU and WE?We should be thankful to God for everything, he has given us.I just can;t explain I am typing and crying inside. Just can’t control my emotions for them.At last,Don’t be sad for anything, look around yourself and be thankful for whatever you have in this short span of life.Edit:(This is my small Request to all Quorans through this post): We can’t feed and help every needy around the world, but we can feed and help at least one in our society, near to us, near our living area. When every individual raises their hands for them, then think at least one needy can get help in the society ,block,district,state and a country. I have started a short journey for them and will try more.“Thank you”..
Girlfriend thinks I'm unhappy with her. How to fix forever?
Okay no disrespect to the previous post (who still had a lot of good points), but don't get a tattoo of her name or anything. Sorry to say, but if ya'll break up, that's going to make for an awkward moment between you and all future girlfriends. Not to mention the fact that that future girlfriend will expect you to do something that out does getting a tattoo related to the ex for her. First thing I recommend is sitting down with your girlfriend and telling her point blank you have no intention of breaking up with her. Get her to talk about it in a mature conversation though. Why does she think that? Is she someone relating a previous experience on to you (IE: when she fought with her 'girlfriend' previously, did her boyfriend at the time dump her?)? Is it because of the fights between her and her friend? If so, that should have no reflection about ya'lls relationship. A relationship is all about trust and communication. Trust that the other person is telling you the truth and is honest with you; and communication to talk about those situations that pop up that put a strain on your relationship. I highly recommend talking to her more. Just let her pour her heart out about the fight about this and that. EVERYTHING! It doesn't have to be about the fight at all. Just anything. Also, take her out to a movie. If ya'll have a busy schedule, get with her and coordinate a 'date night' where that one period of time is all about ya'll two together. Go see a movie. Go have dinner, go bowling, go sight seeing, whatever. Just do more activities together. Lastly, I suggest something getting her opinion about things that directly effect you. For example, let's say you're about to purchase your first car. You got it down between two options and you're not sure which one. Ask her opinion about it. This will build mutual trust and respect between ya'll. I mean think about it. It's not like you're going to ask a person you despise an important question like that.
What is it like to live a life as single forever?
Disheartening.I am in my forties and have never dated or had a “significant other.” When I was younger I didn’t mind, or at least didn’t notice, but as time has passed I have grown more and more isolated. As your friends pair off and start having families you get left behind. Opportunities for social interaction become fewer and farther between, and you end up avoiding the few things that do come your way because you don’t want to be the only single person there. For a long time people ask if you’re seeing anyone, etc., but eventually those questions become less frequent and then stop altogether as it becomes clear that the answer is always going to be “No.”You have less and less in common with your friends as family and kids become the most important forces in their lives. Before long you realize it’s been months since you’ve spoken, and the last time you were together you had nothing to talk about.When something good happens, there is no one to share it with. When something bad happens there is no one to comfort you.Seemingly innocuous interactions become embarrassing reminders that you are alone; I recently had my pupils dilated and was forced to explain that no, I didn’t have anyone to drive me home and no, there was no one I could call.You don’t cook because cooking for one is depressing, but you don’t eat out either because you feel like a sad loser sitting in a restaurant alone.Holidays are the worst. One time an acquaintance’s little girl asked me what I got for Christmas and I had no answer for her — how do you explain to a seven year old that you don’t exchange gifts when there is no one to exchange gifts with? You end up fabricating parties and events so you don’t feel so pathetic when people ask about your holiday plans.Many people are solitary by choice and lead happy, fulfilling lives. For others it is a bleak and lonely existence devoid of love or human contact, a torment to be endured until the sweet release of death finally sets you free. It all depends on the individual circumstances.
Why happiness doesn't last forever? Why all the pleasures we experience in our life are temporary?
Nothing in this world is permanent. Impermanance. It is a fact of life. Impermanance is a key concept in Buddhism. "If you suffer, it is not because things are impermanent. It is because you think things are permanent. When a flower dies, you don't suffer much, because you understand that flowers are impermanent. But you cannot accept the impermanence of your beloved one, and you suffer deeply when she passes away." "If you look deeply into impermanence, you will do your best to make her happy right now. Aware of impermanence, you become positive, loving and wise. Impermanence is good news. Without impermanence, nothing would be possible. With impermanence, every door is open for change. Impermanence is an instrument for our liberation." - Thich Nhat Hanh (famous Zen Buddhist)
I want him to be miserable forever?
My best friend of years told me i was his perfect woman, that he imagined a future with me, that we were soul mates, and then he slept with me, then two days later slept with his ex, told me it meant nothing with her, that he wanted me, then went back to her and basically totally lied and lied and made massive promises which he went back on. Now he's with his ex again. I told him I hate him and never want to see him again and haven't spoken to him since. But I am absolutely devastated. I thought I knew him so well, I trusted him completely and he has done so many terrible terrible things to me, even though I was there for him, and I know he valued me. Now I can't get over the fact he's off doing happy things with our mutual friends when he's been so awful. How can he be happy when he's done this, and when he's lost the 'best friend he ever had' and 'the one that was made for him'? I feel so angry that he's not utterly miserable. I hate him, but how do I get over the hate?
Does Depression last forever?
I was abused sexually and psychologically by my stepfather for around 11 years. Started when I was 6ish and just ended last year. I am on meds, I am happy with my life, but I still feel depressed. This leads me to ask does depression ever end?