Do you think me liking both genders is something to be ashamed of?
Absolutely not.Do not ever be ashamed for liking two genders, it is an awesome attribute that is anything but shameful.If you live in a country or family where liking two genders is not ok, it's perfectly ok to hide the fact that you are attracted to two genders, but don't ever let anything you hear from those around you convince you that your attractions are wrong, because this is not something that is likely to change.I applaud you for coming to terms with the nature of your attractions, and I wish you nothing but goodness in the years to come, as you explore your sexuality.
Do you believe there are more than two genders?
I don't... I just can't understand it, I couldn't understand it to save my life. There are literally two genders, you can't escape biology. Don't get me wrong I completely believe that there are gay/homosexual people, but even then it is a man attracted to men, a female attracted to females or a man or women attracted to both. It's still only two genders though. I don't get it. To me you can't just 'identify' as whatever you want to identify as... can someone explain it to me??
Why do we think, in past lives, we were the same gender as we are in this life?
Greetings Grace and Steven,As we are locked into this reality… chosen to focus our attention into our current lifetime (incarnation) it would be understandable that what we see, do, feel, is real. It might give our guard-dog (ego) a bit of a challenge accepting another gender; we can’t blame him/her as it is their responsibility to ‘keep-up-appearances.’I chose to use the phrase ‘locked into this reality’ as in physically being in the ‘here and now.’ However, we can mentally and emotionally visit our other incarnation experiences.As the soul seeks balance, if we were to have several consecutive lifetimes as a male or female, an imbalance would occur and when the gender changed, we might find their new female form (former male) could quite possibly carry male attributes/tendencies to respond to her experiences as a male. They might respond to their experiences with a strong, forceful demeanor or even have the strength of a male and desire employment/sports activities, a male would choose.Another possible characteristic which might show itself is in their sexual interests… having many consecutive lifetime as either male or female, and attraction to the opposite gender could be very strong; having many lifetimes as a female and now having a lifetime as a male… may have the desire for a male relationship.To re-iterate…It might give our guard-dog a bit of a challenge accepting another gender; we can’t blame him/her as it is their responsibility to ‘keep-up-appearances.’
Do you think psychological abuse should be made a crime to even out the playing field?
It seems that women have the upper hand when it comes to nagging and being control freaks.. thats basically them using their strengths.. the problem is when men use their strengths on women theyre protected from physical abuse by the justice system. Psychological abuse does not always heal with time... some are scarred for life mentally and it affects their lives.
What do you think would be harder, being a woman or a man?
Being a woman is absolutely harder. In a developing country, this is pretty obvious. Women typically lack freedom in many respects, to the point of being blamed for being raped.But, even in a developed country, there are many disadvantages to being female:The social pressure of having to be thin, pretty, etc. Constant concern over this.The fact that society tells women they're not pretty / thin enough, even when they are.The suckiness if you're not thin and pretty.Increased chance of rape and sexual assault.Having to be careful walking alone at night or around guys you don't know because of this.Society's double standards around promiscuity. I'm not sure I know any woman who hasn't been called a slut -- even the most conservative woman!Periods.Pregnancy: No drinking for 9 months. Weight gain. Nausea. Trouble sleeping. Social / career stigma. Long, long recovery from pregnancy and childbirth. (Seriously. Pregnancy SUCKS.)Breastfeeding: HUGE time drain. And, again, so much for sleeping!That biological time clock. Women have much less time to get married and have babies than men.Just when you get done with one pregnancy / labor / breastfeeding... you do it all over again. (Assuming you want more than one child.)Pressure / expectation to take on more of the domestic responsibilities, even when the wife is out earning / working the husband.There are disadvantages to being a man, of course, but I'm pretty confident that the advantages outweigh this.
How do I know if I’m bisexual if I haven’t dated both genders?
I personally don’t believe that you have to date either, or even both genders in order to know whether you are straight or not. I have never dated another guy, and I know beyond any shadow of a doubt that I never will. I simply don’t feel that sort of attraction towards guys. On the other hand, I occasionally see or meet guys who I certainly feel sexually attracted to.The first time this happened to me, I was 14 years old and so was the other boy. We were good friends and then one night when we were alone together, we both got horny I guess, and after a lot of talking and chatting, he showed me his penis. The sight of it had a huge effect on me, and moments later I was performing oral sex on a guy for the first time in my life, and I knew right there and then that I enjoyed it.Years later, I ended up becoming friends with another guy who I once again felt sexually attracted to in a big way. It wasn’t long before things happened, and we ended up having fun sexual encounters on a regular basis for the next 7+ years. No dating, no romance, only sex, and even that was almost entirely limited to oral sex.Three and a half years ago I met a then 22-year-old Asian guy, slim, smooth, and yes, very sexually attractive. One thing led to another, and before long, I ended up giving him oral sex and we having been doing this regularly ever since. Again, there is no romance at all. In fact, we don’t even hang out together. He has his “straight” life, and I have mine, but he loves receiving good oral, I love providing it for him.So, I’m obviously not straight, and I guess one could say I’m also not really bi. At the end of the day, does it even really matter?
What do you call someone who doesn't like either genders(both male & female)? & is there a way to get over it?
Having no sexual attraction towards men or women is called asexuality. People who ascribe to this sexual orientation are called asexuals. http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn65... http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/exchange/no... http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualheal... http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/human-biology/asexuality.htm http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/200912/asexuals-who-are-they-and-why-are-they-important It's estimated that about 1% of the population is asexual (based on a study that found 1 in 100 adults did not have any interest in sex). Asexuals are not to be confused with celibates (people who choose to abstain from sex, regardless of their orientation) or folks with a sexual dysfunction disorder (who typically experience distress over the sudden-keyword being SUDDEN-loss of libido or sexual interest). OP: "Also could they live a completely normal life, even though they could never find there partner attractive?" Yes: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/sep/08/relationships.healthandwellbeing