Do you think it's OK for me to tell my co-workers that they need to start cleaning up? I told my boss a few times, but because they are her friends, they don’t listen. I work in a group home with youth girls who need to learn everyday skills.
Part of your job is to be a good example to the girls you look after. This is true for all the other employees who work at the group home. I do think it is okay for you to tell your co-workers to clean up, especially because your boss hasn't handled the situation properly, but be aware that these co-workers might not listen to you because they did no listen to their boss about the issue. This fact makes me think that talking to them won’t solve anything, so go with your gut on that. I believe this might be one of those situations where you will have to be the good example, so do your best to clean up, and maybe even get the girls involved if the mess is too big to handle.
Should i care what my coworkers think?
a coworker has turned many other coworkers against me with numerous lies about me. as a result of these lies, many of my coworkers do not respect me, even tho they know shes lying they want to believe. i think she is jealous because my life is better than hers. she has a lot of problems. should i care.
Do you believe that having lunch with co-workers creates a good company morale?
Sometimes yes, but more than you might expect—no.I’ve worked for organizations that overdid the work lunch, and I hated it. Don’t assume that everyone in your company, or everyone on your team, enjoys eating out with co-workers. It can easily become an unwritten requirement of the job, which is sure to cause resentment and sour reactions. Some may say, “Yay, free food and I love my colleagues!” but others may be thinking, “Not again! I just want to get my work done and then move on to the other commitments I have on my plate—family/friends/other interests. Screw this Kumbaya crap!” as they quietly search for excuses not to attend your cherished lunch.Some folks have kids to ferry to extracurricular events, or elderly relatives that need attention, etc., etc. Other people aren’t very social and have no desire to pretend that they are.
What is the list of things you should never tell your co-worker/boss?
I believe that totally depends on the relationship you are sharing with the co-worker or boss. The context I am assuming here is that it is purely professional. Here area few thing I can think of:For boss:- That you have some problem with your co-worker(don't be blunt about it. Your boss might be sharing a good relationship with the person in question)- That you have some great idea in your mind (if he is a narc, he will steal your idea and take the credit)- Never share your weekend plans- Don't tell him how beautiful his wife is or how good a boss he himself is(many view that as a sort of buttering effort)- Never tell him you are not confident about handling a project(even when you are honestly not confident about it)For co-worker-You are expecting a good increment- You are dating a great girl or boy- You are going for a movie when office tensions are at the peak- The boss has agreed to give you an extra perk in recognition of what you have done- You just quarreled with the boss and that he is a swine (even if you genuinely feel that your co-worker feels the same)- You are expecting to get transferred to a favorable location
HELP!!! I fell in love with my co-worker!?
I have worked with this incredibly attractive man for a year and a half, and have gotten to be pretty good friends with him. But it's more than just a physical attraction, I can't stop thinking about him.I think I am falling for him, very hard. We talk about personal things,share thoughts that we wouldn't normally share with others. When we talk sometimes he nudges me, or touches my hand or my shoulder. I love everything about him, his personality, his smile, the way he treats me, he is always so nice and considerate. He compliments me etc.. I think maybe, he's attracted to me by the things he says. when i told him people were nice to me at work, he said that's because they didn't usually hire pretty girls where we work..(One time when I said a person at work who is usually mean towards most people liked me) He said "i wonder why." We both get a little flirty on occasion, he has even came over to my house a couple times for a drink. So, how do I take this? Is he interested or just flirting? He is the sweetest guy, and everything he does just makes me want him more. Now, the big problem: He's married. I know I should leave it alone, but I can't. I like this guy so much, I have alot of feelings for him, my heart is already involved. If he's happily married, he never said he was "happily" married, just married. when he talks about her he refers to her as "THE wife"?? why would he flirt, and even more, why would he come over for drinks, knowing we would be alone? I guess I'm really lost on this.
I had an emotional affair with a co-worker who I believe is a narcissist. How do I get over it and stop thinking about him when I still have to work with him?
Get a new job.If this person is truly a narcissist you will cave to their will. You don’t have to, but the entire reason you were picked for this affair is because they sensed something in you. He knew he could get in your head and manipulate you.If getting a new job is out of the question, then learning to respect yourself is a must. You do not have to be his patsy. You can learn to leave him alone. Every thing in you drives you toward him. You probably look to see if he’s looking at you, walking past you, eating lunch near you. Stop! Everything you do, he recognizes as weakness. If you have to be close to him, do nothing. Don’t speak, don’t catch his gaze, just stay away from him as much as possible.The only way to heal, is to remember, you are in charge of YOUR life. You have to be strong. Or, get a new job.ps…..old saying, “Never poop where you eat!”.
Do you think my coworker with a girlfriend likes me?
I have been working in my office for about a year, and I have a crush on one of my coworkers, Tyler, since I started. I don’t know how to explain it but I can definitely feel chemistry between us. I will also mention I have a boyfriend. No judgment please - I can’t help it.I am a human. I just find him incredibly attractive. Anyway, some of my female coworkers have mentioned he acts awkward around me and he definitely does. He also will tease me and make fun of me, which I take as flirting. He’s about 5 years older than me, and teases me for my young age and small stature. He’s professional when we are in a group setting but acts very flirtatious when we are by ourselves. When talking to Tyler the other day, he randomly threw in the fact that he had a girlfriend. It really didn’t follow the flow of conversation well and he kind of had a smirk on his face when he said it. Well, thanks to some Facebook creeping, he’s been with this girl for at least 10 months. Why did he not mention her before? Does he like me? Why would he just now mention her? Basically - why would a guy flirt hardcore with a girl and definitely feel some chemistry, yet have a girlfriend? I guess I’m just confused. I don’t even know why I care since I have a boyfriend, but I can’t help but feel that he feels this insane chemistry, too. Anyone else been in this situation before?
My Coworkers think I'm stupid, how to keep my sanity and confidence?
Hey everyone! Thanks for allowing me to vent to you, this is my first post so I'll try to be quick. I recently started an HR job in the govt sector from a civilian career and feeling a bit overwhelmed and like a failure. Although I have learned a lot within the past 2 months, and am still learning I am still making what most people would call "stupid mistakes" and I cant shake that "I feel like a complete idiot/failure/dumb a%*" feeling. The previous person who held this position trained me, however, the majority of the training I felt was me just sitting and watching her do stuff (which now I realize didn't help). Worst part is when I do ask her for help her first statement is usually "I explained to you how to do that" and than condescendingly talk through how to complete something rather than just show me. Its frustrating,,uggghhh!!! The worst part is it seems when I make a mistake on just about anything it seems like its f^&&ing broadcasted across the nightly news-everyone knows and is talking about it. I swear people are gonna keep a tally of how many mistakes I make per day. Its so awful to be me right now, and to believe this was my dream job....yea might have to rethink that one. Lately, I have been tormenting myself for the mistakes I make. Every ride home is like a self curse out session where Ill bash myself for all the stupid stuff I said or did or came across. Just anything I can yell at myself for. idk, work life just kinda sucks when your learning. But seriously, can anyone relate? How did things work out for you? And any advice for the newbie? I appreciate all those who answer and read.
I dont want to hang out w/ my husband co-workers & their wives in these damn get togethers! Your Opinion?
Yes i have tried to hang out plenty of times with his co workers with them plenty of times but yea. It aint workin. And i even added on there i have talked to them before every time we meet up but it just doesn't work. Yea i'm nice to them and say hello to them. I even had them come over to our place and set up a barbeque and talk to them a little bit but yea...alteast i tried. I had a enough and i dont have to do anything that i dont want to do. Case is solved but told myself that why even try. I'm happy that i'm not socializing with coworkers and their wives cuz i like our lives to be private. Yea it's okay to hang out with his friends and family but anything with work. Yea....i'm not feeling it. I told him keep it professional. Just talk to him on the phone and he understand. If ya dont want to do something then dont. I dont have to live a stepford wife like i did when i was married to my ex husband in the military life. Why in society do we do these things. I just dont understand..