My children have been acting out sexually?
Yes this is all normal. Do not worry. Unlike the others your kids are not being abused or seen a porno. They are kids being kids. Have no fears just relax. but here is a list of this to do and not to do Do not scold them: You do not want them to grow up with a fear of anything sexual Do: Tell them not to show anything in public Dont: Stop the behavior if it is in private they will eventully stop like some boring game Do: try to curve them from doing it. If you walk in on you two sons "kissing weiners". Say hey guys lets go to the park, but dont even react to the behavior in a negative way this is just kids being kids but why did this happen all of a sudden ? is it because of work? maybe acting this way is to get your attention let them know you need to work and that you love them soon this will all be a funny story to tell one day
In what ways do your children act like you?
My eight-year-old daughter is so much like I was at her age that it’s scary sometimes.On the positive side, she reads light-years ahead of grade level and has already delved into Anne of Green Gables, D’Aulaire’s Book of Greek Myths, and even Shakespeare (her favorite play is Hamlet and she recently asked me to take her to see it). She also writes charming stories.On the negative side, I can already tell she inherited my propensity for depression. She can be a negative little person, always seeing the worst in every situation. Having a can’t-do attitude. Assuming everything is always about her, and never in a good way. Deflecting responsibility for her own actions.I’ve talked to her quite frankly about how these traits negatively impacted my own life. I’ve told her I’m afraid for her if she can’t learn to view challenges as opportunities for learning, for growth, and for triumph.I worry about her.But she also has some traits that I never had. For example, she’s pretty fearless and unafraid to assert herself. I was a timid little mouse when I was her age, too easily devastated when I thought I had disappointed someone. So when her assertiveness frustrates me, I remind myself of all the ways in which my complaisance has harmed me in life.She’s also more athletic than I ever have been or ever will be. She’s currently kicking ass at kung fu. I hope that will help her develop more confidence in all areas of her life.
Why is it so hard to pull your own weight and stop acting like a child?
You are confusing a number of terms here, this is why your question, as it is now, is impossible to answer. "Acting like a child" has 2 meanings.One is child-like: carries a connotation of good qualities associated with the child, such as a sense of wonder, curiosity, natural, spontaneous, even trusting.And another one is childish: carries a connotation of negative qualities associated with the child, such as immature, babyish, infantile, juvenile, unsophisticated, even bratty. Do you see the difference? From the tone of your question, we're talking about the childish person. And you're asking why is it hard for someone to be childish.And yet, you don't say anything at all about yourself - your environment, your upbringing, your age, or any other details of value.So, how can anyone answer you? If you have been "preserved" in that childish state until this time, it means that there is someone to take care of you and provide for you, otherwise you would have been faced with the responsibility of surviving on your own, which is a cure for your self-described condition. If you want to make meaningful changes, the only path is to cut off your dependence on whoever/whatever is supporting you now, and strike out on your own - only take your possessions (if you truly have any in your name) and become your own person.If you think about it for a moment, it's a path to independence and it will be immensely difficult for a person who's never had to do their fair share.Still, you had not asked for an easy solution, did you?
Are children really learning social skills in school?
First, let me address the common statement of "When homeschoolers return to a regular school they seem a bit akward and have a harder time making friends." This is a statment true of any kid going into a new school , where they don't know other kids but the other kids have been together since kindergarden. Any kid will be nervous going into a totally new enviroment and will need time to find thier way. Add in that often homeschoolers may be ahead scholastically and are coming from an enviroment where they were not expected to "follow the crowd" and were encouraged to be an individual and you can see why it may take them a bit of time to adjust. Now for the generalization about homeschoolers not socializing as much as the peers who are in school all day. A classroom in modern America generally has very little time or room for kids to socialize. Days are filled with the increased work loads needed to prep kids for standardized testing. Recess in most cases has shrunk to next to nothing, so that opportunity is gone. Classes are so large that teachers must try to maintain levels of control that we did not have when we attended school, so even the occassional working as a group is vanishing from the lower grades. So most kids get the majority of thier socialization time on their way to or from school or in extracurriular activities. Homeschool kids, in reality, have far more opportunities to socialize as our schedules allow for more activities, field trips and fun than most kids in the public school. Why? Because once our kids finish thier work, it's done. No homework. So we can do lots of activities, have dinner with the family, and still meet our educational goals without 2-4 hours of homework a night. It makes a big difference!
Autistic children?
Have just watched as much as I could stand of After Thomas. Do any actors/directors/writers have ANY idea of what it is really like to bring up an autistic child? My wife and I have an autistic daughter (which is unusual because most autistic children are male) who is now 22. She lives with us and always will. We love her passionately and would never dream of sending her to a residential home. She is OURS, not anybody else's. We have her for life. Why on earth is a play put out on Boxing Day about an autistic boy? People with 'normal' children will never understand it. Is it supposed to be Christmas entertainment? I curse all the people involved with this stupid play. Go and work 24/7 with autistic children/adults - don't do it as an acting project, just DO IT. I am so angry with all the people who make autism 'interesting' and a subject for incredibly inaccurate TV. STOP DOING IT. I bet NONE of you have any first hand experience of years of bring up an autistic person.
Children misbehaving in public?
I want to thank you for the responces from my earlier question. I do have on more question about diseplining kids. When we go out to eat, shopping or to a friends house I expect my children to behave themselves. Last week my son who is 6 kept acting up while I was at the store. Kept running in the isles, touching things he was not suppose to touch and being a brat So I pulled him aside and told him you keep this up your going to get a spanking when we get home. 15 minutes later he started being a brat again. That was it. I finished shopping and when I got to the car I told him your getting a spanking when we get home We drove homeI walked into the house and gave him a spanking. The I sent him to his room for the night. We late talked about the situation and told me he was sorry. Do you think he deserved the spanking and punishment? If not what would have you done.
My 5 month old is acting out please HELP!!!?
Ever heard of "Ferberizing"? When you let a baby 'cry it out'. That's probably what you need to do with your son. My nephew was like that and I suggested to my sister that she let him 'cry it out'. Turns out it worked out great! He might just want his own personal space while trying to drift off to sleep. I would try shutting the door, turning the lights off (with expception to a night light) and just letting him cry it out for a while. If he doesn't pass out, then try feeding him right before bed. Make it a cozy drift off to sleep. Try not to let him cry, that might be a little hard on you to hear him crying for a few minutes. lol
Can a daycare suspend a child?
My son was suspended yesterday from DAY CARE for hitting another child, I don't condone this but he is only 3 1/2 years old. The child my son hit is a friend of his (Tanner) that is always hitting my son. Well the day before yesterday Tanner hit was written up for repeatedly hitting MY son in the back and they told Tanners mom that if he were to get too many write ups there would be disciplinary action taken. Now my son hits him and he is automatically suspended. I had a parent teacher conference LAST friday and his teacher said he was great, that he was not a fighter but would defend himself. That he plays well with other kids the only issue she does have is him not listening but once she gets on to him he is be fine. Now all of a sudden the director of the DAY CARE says she is suspending my child for hitting and that my son has been acting "weird" for the past two weeks?? But just LAST WEEK I had a TEACHER conference and his teacher said he is doing amazing!! My issue is I was never told my son had been acting out, I was not informed of him being in trouble or on the verge of suspension. And just the day before my son gets suspended the child he hit (Tanner) had repeatedly hit MY son in the back and was only written up!! What can I do to get to the bottom of this? I don't feel they are treating my son fairly. Thanks!
Would you discipline your child if they got in trouble at school for beating up a bully?
I am going to go against the grain here.Unless my child had “gone over the top” and it was more than self defence, but out right aggression, then I would be angry.However if it is bullying, psychological or physical, and it has reached a point where there child is in immediate danger and needs to fight their way out of danger then I would not have an issue. Particularly if there is a danger of physical injury to your son/daughter: that is called self defence.I would certainly have expected him/her to report it to the Head Master/Principal, and of course to you.In the UK whether it be child or adult, we do have “reasonable self-defence” law, which in round terms means that you use no greater force than is necessary to get yourself in to safety. If that means punching the attacker or using a basic Judo or Karate skill and it is reasonable to do so, then that would be deemed to be self defence if you run away whilst the other party is on the ground.If you were to go beyond that boundary then it is moving in to the realms of assault on your son’s part and that could be a criminal issue. I recall a contributor to a similar board to this stating that she had sent her son to Karate Classes for self-defences and also perceived self control. However she later found that actually he was becoming the bully and pulled him out of the classes.Yes he already had learned those basic skills but he was not going to be taught any higher. In any case he had clearly developed the skills he parents had thought necessary to protect himself, and if he was indeed becoming the bully, they were right to pull him out of the classes.