Is a potluck wedding tacky?
I am a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding this summer - this is her 4th marriage. She is having a beautiful country club wedding, she spent hundreds on a gorgeous white wedding gown, all us bridesmaids paid $200 for our dresses, her flowers are beautiful, but her bouquet alone is $300. Her fancy invitations that are being printed this week will be sent to 150 guests. She is registering at Macy's, Bed, Bath and Beyond, and other fine places. Last night she told me she's decided not to cater her wedding anymore but to make it potluck. She has no intention of saying "gift or dish", she clearly wants both. She even said she may put a box up at the wedding that says "Honeymoon Donations" which I will try to talk her out of. Am I wrong to think that a potluck wedding for a fancy country club wedding is inappropriate and tacky? I'm afraid people will be turned off and won't come!
Is Wedding BBQ Catering Tacky?
Ok, so my fiance loves bbq food so we decided to find a caterer who does BBQ and the menu will be Prime rib, whole smoked chicken breast, garlic and cheddar mashed potatoes, garlic roasted green beans, fresh green salad, dinner rolls, and barbecue beans. For the cocktail hour when we open the bar (beer and wine + soft drinks only)- we do not want hard alcohol- they will be serving a hot cheese dip with assorted crackers, spinach/artichoke dip with breads. a cheese and fruit tray and an assorted meat tray. And turkey sandwich wraps with salami and sundried tomatoes and basil. ( It is a fall wedding if that makes a difference so we wanted slightly heavier foods than some of the options that we had.) Also- we do not really like cake but some people do so we are having a small 2 tier cake to cut and for the people who like it and a dessert table with different flavored cupcakes and mini pies and other things- including some candy for the kids. Does this sound like a good menu? The BBQ part kind of throws some people until I explain but I would like some opinions please. Thank you!
Is it tacky to have a wedding after having a child?
You are an adult making adult choices. Your choice about having a wedding should not hinge on whether your parents are enthusiastic about it. They are not obligated to finance the ceremony or the celebration, however, so “pushing” for a dress seems inappropriate to me. You are adults, if you want to get married do it. If you want to have a party to celebrate, do that, too, but plan on doing it on a scale your own income can support, keeping in mind that babies are expensive and you have lots of important obligations looming in the very near future.Personally, I like a celebration of a marriage, but it’s the marriage that is the important thing. Once a child is in the picture, focusing on the party really does feel out of place to those of us who have been through all that.I know several young couples who started their families before they got married, and was happy to celebrate the wedding when it happened, but boy does it look different! At a recent wedding, the 4 year old daughter was really out of sorts — she’d probably missed her nap, and mommy and daddy were distracted by all the people who had come to town, and it was just really hard for her. So at the moment the vows were to be said, she came WAILING down the aisle yelling MOMMEEEEEE! The couple had the good sense to let her stand with them, clinging to her momma while they said their vows, but a moment which they understandably might have wished to be a sacred one for themselves was interrupted by the needs of their child.
Park wedding reception tacky?
My fiance and I are to get married July 26th. Without going into to many personal details, have been very tight on money the last few months due to unforseen expenses. We were going to put a deposit down on a banquet hall but now we cant afford it in such short time. I dont need a big wedding, all I want is to wear my wedding dress, marry the love of my life and celebrate with family and friends. I thought we could do our wedding reception at a park pavilion and do majority of the food outselves. My fiance says he wants me to have a nice wedding but I feel that that would be just as nice. Is a park reception considered tacky? I was looking for opinions and maybe even alternatives we sisnt think of. We dont want to postpone and are looking at only 20-25 people
Would this be a tacky wedding reception?
Hello! My lovely and I are trying to plan our wedding on a reasonable budget. As I'm sure you all know, one of the biggest expenses is the reception--in particular, the food part. So, I was thinking about doing something potentially cute, classy, and fun. I was considering doing an "upscale" tea party! I would probably serve a signature cocktail or champagne and wine (or all), so I guess it would be a tea/cocktail reception. I'm talking finger sandwiches that range from light to heartyish, sweet treats like petite fours or these really cute "mini" wedding cakes, a variety of teas, etc. All of this would be served in classic china (the floral kind). I was thinking about renting china, but then I realized I could hit up every thrift store in Virginia and collect china as I went along. I wouldn't want it to be TOO girly, which is why I'd add some alcohol into the mix, as well as some more "manly," little sandwiches. Anyway, does that sound tacky or fun and cute? Thank you!!
Will all of your wedding guests think you're terribly tacky if you make them pay for drinks at your wedding?
In a word, YES. A wedding is a celebration of the marriage, and if guests are coming from far and wide, some paying for travel costs and accommodations, and also expected to give “presentation,” (This is a mostly Canadian thing, I believe, where guests give money at the wedding instead of something off the wedding registry gift list. The bridal shower is where guests give gifts off the registry.), or a wedding gift, maybe also buying new clothes/getting hair done, etc., they should NOT be expected to pay for their drinks at the wedding.If you cannot afford to foot the whole bill for drinks, scale down the wedding to what you CAN afford. Invite less people. Instead of having a dinner reception with dance, have a morning wedding with a champagne brunch, or an afternoon wedding with cake, appetizers and wine. Or, if you’re insistent on having the whole dinner/dance thing, offer only wine and beer. This is often much cheaper than hard liquor and cocktails. Just do NOT make your guests pay for their drinks.
Is it tacky to show your tattoos on your wedding day?
Yes, it’s completely tacky, the wedding is not just about you, its about everyone else you are inviting as well, it is a group ceremony where you invite numerous participants who you want to bear witness to this change in your life? Just imagine what they are all going to be thinking about you and, for goodness sake, about your Mother if you do this? The shame she will have to bear!Okay, thats a fake answer I only wrote because everyone else was being so agreeable but the truth is I agree with the agreeable people. Honestly, if your mother doesnt want you to show your tattoos it is likely because, as my faux answer suggested, she is worried about how it will reflect on HER. But this wedding is not about her, its about you and your chosen.Go strapless. Look Fantastic. Smile lovingly at your mother.Slainte!
Is it tacky for me to have a cash bar at my wedding? I cannot afford an open bar, but I am providing plated meals at the upscale venue and champagne toast as well as dessert table. Is that enough? What are everyone’s thoughts on this?
I’m sorry to say that it is tacky. You don’t ask guests to pay for anything beyond getting new clothes, taking time off, traveling and getting you gift. Recent estimates put this at 700–800. per guest. And then you want to charge them for a glass of wine?You’ve created a wedding you can’t afford. Cut the guest list, change the venue, ditch the dessert table. but honestly, there is no ‘upscale’ wedding that includes a cash bar.To give you some context, I have personally been to almost 2000 weddings and I have seen exactly two cash bars. One was at a VFW or some similar venue, so that may have been a condition to their license (though they could run a consumption tab and present it to the couple), one was at a fancy hotel (and let me tell you, that did NOT go over well…..).People will write in and say that in their area this is perfectly normal, but it’s not. If you invite people to your home for dinner, you don’t charge them for a glass of wine right?You could absolutely do a limited bar; wine, beer, soda, maybe a signature drink.There are other reasons to offer a bar; dry weddings or cash weddings are inevitably shorter, and there is a completely different vibe.