What's some good things about joining a fraternity or sorority?
the negative answers are from people who have no idea. It means having friends for a lifetime. A bond that you will cherish till death. You learn how to live with people you normally wouldn't. You learn responsibility, trust, teamwork. You will have connections that will benefit you thru life. I graduated college in 1983 and am still involved with the house. I can go anywhere and go to one of my fraternity houses and be accepted as a brother. Yes there are women, booze, parties that you will remember forever (if you are able to remember). I never thought I would join, but when someone talked me into going thru rush, it was the best thing I did in college. Did I mention women and parties??? You have to maintain an above average grade point to pledge and to stay active. Studies do come first. Dont let the jealous losers out there make your decision. Go thu rush and make your own decision. Good luck
Why do people frown on fraternities when so many successful people come from them?
I considered joining a fraternity & attended a few events, but in retrospect I was glad I didn't, so you could say I am a naysayer.What was important to me in college was 1) academics, 2) recreational athletics, 3) social activities. As someone that was always trying to scrape together intramural teams together to play softball, volleyball, and “inner tube water polo” I thought a fraternity would offfer fallow ground for recruitment.Not so - it seemed the fraternity I was considering joining (and by extension, the others) had the priorities of 1) parties, 2) parties, 3) parties. While I love the odd party every few weeks, the “hard party, drink myself to unconsciousness every weekend” lifestyle wasn't what I was about. There was no discussion about academics, and in the entire house there seemed to be only two “brothers” that were interested in athletics. Plus, I would have a hard time affording the fees …I also didn't appreciate the groupthink aspect of fraternities. There was an article written about some fraternity members where I went to graduate school that went on a road trip to Mexico, and were spitting on some little Mexican kids that were begging for change. While I have done some really dumb things, I really wouldn't want to be associated with anything so shameful.I got far more out of joining clubs with like minded people, and hanging out with students in my area of interest.As for the success aspect, I personally don't believe in the politics of riding someone's coattails, and I don't want to be a part of organizations where people with inferior skills get promoted by who they know rather than what they know. Warren Buffet was a driven man, and while a fraternity might have gotten his foot in the door in his first job, it was Warren that got him to the top.
Why do some dark skinned african americans consider light skinned african americans to be conceded?
Sadly, the pain of being a dark-skinned African American goes back to slavery. The preferential treatment of lighter-skinned, mixed-race African Americans by whites had "laid the groundwork for a pattern of color classism in black America." It was the lighter-skinned African Americans who had the first opportunities for education and the benefits of freedom in post-Reconstruction America. Certain churches, neighborhoods, colleges, sororities and fraternities, social clubs, even political clubs, harbored a light-colored elite. The separate social and educational paths taken by light-skinned and dark-skinned African Americans during Reconstruction divided their world. By the turn of the century, the light-skinned mulattoes were the intellectual and political leaders. They were the doctors, lawyers, teachers, writers, and entertainers, admired and emulated by the rest. Though it's still prejudicial to concede light-skinned African Americans over the dark counterpart these days, the discrimination still exists in some parts of our society. It's very unfortunate, and such stereotype should be abolished completely.