My wife complains she has no friends, but does nothing about it. What can I do?
My wife complains that she has no friends, yet does nothing to make new friends or keep the few she has. People invite her (and us as a couple) out, but she never follows through. Her response is always "I never heard back from her" or "maybe another time". I've gone so far as to make plans with her friends and she looks for excuses not to go and in some cases I end up going alone or with my friends. I've tried everything. I've explained that you have to be a friend to have a friend and make time for your friends if you want them to stick around with no success. She sees how my best friend and I make it a point to communicate everyday and spend time together every week come hell or high water and her only response is "I wish I had a friend like that". It's starting to impact our marriage. She goes to work, comes home, and if we have no commitments with our child, she sits. My fear is even our date nights might go away as she becomes more withdrawn. My philosophy is we'll have plenty of time to sit when we're old. 40 is too young to sit on the sidelines and watch life pass us by. Has anyone experienced this and what did you do?
If your dog could talk, what would he complain about you the most?
This is my dog Finley i am sure he would have a few.I think one of the main ones would be teaching him to say “i love you” he copies you vocally in barks when he wants something. Most visitors think it is so cute but the reality is he says it when he wants to go outside so he repeats it back to them and i know his thinking just let me out now and why didnt she teach me to say something that sounded like “out”.He malts twice a year and i constantly complain about his hairs and talk to him like he understands.I am sure he would love to talk to me about how many hairs humans lose daily thtoughout the entire year.I have stairgates he can hop with ease and itlooks like his getting airtime as he glides over them they are to keep him downstairs. When i leave to go out before the door closes i hear him hop the gate and within seconds he is watching me from the windows. If i then walk back if i have forgot something his back behind the stairgate looking at me as if he has been there the whole time!. I am sure if he could talk he would say “well thats what happens if you go out without me ”.His not allowed chocolate obviously because it is poisonous to dogs. You can leave any food and he will not go near it even meat but for some reason he will always attempt to steal any chocolate im sure he would like to complain about me eating it.Another would be in winter we have the heating on and he loves pouncing round in the snow with his fur coat.I turn the heating off in the kitchen so he lays in there on the cold tiles to keep cool i am sure he would have something to say about it being off in the living room instead considering he is a addict for attention and even pokes his head under your arm for a snuggle constantly.
Do you think people should be banned if they constantly complain about a restaurant but continue to eat there anyway?
Story time!Many many years ago, my cousin was a manager at a fast food place. One morning a customer that had gone through the drive through came in, cut in line, and slammed his bag down on the counter.“YOU STUPID ASSHOLES ALWAYS FUCK UP MY ORDER!” He shouted.My cousin came up from the back to see what the problem was. He got the guy to calm down a little bit and stop shouting.“Literally every single day since I started coming here, your employees have messed up my order. I special order my burgers with no onions, and every single day I’ve had to pick onion off my damn burger.” He told my cousin.“Every day? For how long?” my cousin asked.“At least a month. I started coming here when I got my new job.”“Soooo, every day at lunch, for a month, you came to this store and special ordered food. And every single time, the order came out incorrect. Is this right?”“Yes!”“Then why the hell did you keep coming back here?”The guy got flustered and left. See, what the guy didn’t know was that my cousin had been on drive through all afternoon and knew that no one had ordered no onions that day, nor did it happen literally every single day.The guy was just trying to get free food. It’s a common tactic in the food service industry. Make up some story about horrible service or terrible food, and most corporations will compensate you for your meal.So, on to the article mentioned. The woman in question has complained almost every single time she visited the restaurant. Why the hell did she keep going back if she was so unhappy with the food or the service? Most people would just find a different restaurant to go to.I absolutely agree with the manager’s decision to ban her from the restaurant. As he said, they are obviously not able to meet her exceedingly high standards and don’t want to further disappoint her. Now, that’s kind of code for “Stop complaining about shit, we’re done giving you free food.”, but it was the diplomatic way to do it.I don’t know how valid her complaints are, but regardless, no business wants people who are unhappy with their service to continue to keep coming in and complaining about being there. It doesn’t make sense for either party.
Should I break up with my fiancé if she complains about the ring I bought her?
You should.The marriage hasn’t even started and you’re already at a point where you want to call it off due to her reaction over the ring.For a marriage to be successful, the bond shouldn’t be broken over a ring. The foundation needs to be stronger. And it doesn’t sound like it’s strong right now for either of you.For her, the ring should be enough. A marriage is more than the ring. But hey, maybe it’s just not her taste. But she also could have politely mentioned buying a new one if possible.The reason I am in favor of the break up is because this situation highlights a lot of interpersonal problems within your relationship. Yeah, they can be fixed through open, honest, and assertive (not aggressive) communication. But it’s nothing a marriage can fix. If anything, a marriage can bring those issues to light even more.It doesn’t sound like you and your fiance are compatible. And that’s okay. It’s better to take notice of these things early on before the marriage.Every relationship needs work, but a marriage can make things worse for some relationships.Think hard and be honest with yourself about why you wanted to marry her. I see way too many unhappy marriages. I see more unhappy, or lukewarm marriages than I see happy, healthy ones. And that sucks.If you want to marry her for the sake of marrying her, or for the sake of feeling like it’s “the thing to do”, then don’t do it.If you want to marry her only because you love her, don’t do it. Love on it’s own isn’t enough to have a good marriage. A marriage is so much more than love.If you want to marry her because you guys have been together for awhile. Don’t do it.If you want to marry her because she’s the one you’ve had the strongest feelings for. Don’t do it.If you want to marry her because you’re afraid of not finding anyone else, or you’re afraid of losing your “one chance” forever. Don’t do it.But hey, I can’t actually force you to do anything, and you know yourself (and your relationship), better than anyone else. So if the relationship still feels worth it despite her reaction, then keep at it.However, if you do choose to keep at it, I’d definitely improve both of your communication skills. Seek to understand and validate each other. Communicate in ways that are open and honest without escalating the issue.
Will complaining do any good?
(from U.K). i went to the doctors the other day.Id been experiencing severe anxiety&panic attacks and had been advised by a mentalhealth worker that i should be prescribed Liazapam and sleeping tabs as i was literally climbing the walls. The doctor i saw was a total @ss.He did not listen.He ignored the 60 plus cuts on my arms & my threats of suicide.I was distraught & even the M.H.worker admitted that she rlly thought i should have some Liazapem and S.Tabs etc but he merely shrugged.I felt hysterical & screamed i would kill myself-he replied "No you won't." really simply.I ran from the room and collapsed outside in hysterics,my head on the ground &sobbing.Even the receptionist came out & the M.H worker too.I then ran off with the intent of throwing myself infront of a car until sum1 picked me up.I feel the treatment i got was DISGUSTING.i have a proven track record of self-harm, anxiety & depression yet this doctor was rude & ignored the advice of the mental health worker. (pRt 2 nxt)
Why do some older people feel they need to complain about something endlessly and how do I get them to stop?
I have few older people who I work for or is my sponsor. I notice that some of them are alway complaining about everything in the world. For example I have this one older lady who I work for. I often have to meet her and her husband at restaturant. She often embarasse both of us because she would alway complain about foods no matter what. It can be perfect then she would complain about it. She would either make a huge scene with waitress or manager over it or complain about it all way through meal. Other man who is my sponsor often have me come to meet with him to give him update about my training/fight. Sometime he would come to my gym. He would alway make comment about how I'm training improperly or how my stragery isn't great. He have never done any fighting sport so he doesn't know that much at all. Also my uncle who is in late 50's is in middle of remodel his house. He would alway talk about how tools doesn't work as it should when he was using it incorrectly or expect it to
Why would someone complain about being skinny?
Thanks to a nasty, lingering illness, my friend who was already skinny at 120 pounds dropped down to 97.Boo hoo, right?Well, none of her clothes really fit now, and thanks to the medical expenses, she can’t really afford to buy new ones, especially since she wants to gain the weight back.God knows I can’t lend her anything. I tried with some of my size 2’s, but she complained they were “swimming” on her. Nobody else she knows up here is that skinny — at least, nobody over the age of 20. She’s in her 50s and has to dress kind of conservatively for her job.She asked me about what I’d recommend to put on weight healthfully. I’m like, “I have literally never in my life have tried to gain weight.” She is gluten free, sugar free, dairy free, a vegetarian, and is allergic to a laundry list of items including most beans, most alcohol, many fruits, and chocolate. So my suggestions — donuts, pizza, burgers, ice cream, beer — are not going to work for her.I think she looks great at 97 pounds, but I get the clothes thing. She’s short and very petite — even her belts don’t fit her anymore. I think she’s slowly putting the weight back on, but it will take time.
Why do people assume I'm complaining when I'm not?
Complain - to express dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event.When you said "guys its freezing out here", were you commenting on the fact that you could observe solid water being created from liquid water? Were you commenting on the fact that it was below the freezing temperature of water? Or were you commenting on how it was REALLY cold? If you were just exaggerating how cold it felt, then you were complaining. In fact, if you were not specifically talking about how water freezes, then you complaining. You can't claim to have just been stating a fact, if you weren't being factual with your freezing reference.Now, if you think that "guys its freezing out here" isn't a complaint, then yeah... I can see why your friends would think that other similar things you've said would also be complaints.Since you have your own personal definition of what a complaint is, and it differs from the common definition that everyone else uses, you are going to have to either learn to accept the fact that people are going to accuse you of complaining when you really aren't.... or you are going to have to adopt the standard definition of what a complaint is (and other words... like the definition of the word "fact").