What do you think is the RUDEST behavior according to your culture?
Any action that is strictly self-absorbing and offensive - such as foul language, passing gas, belching, any lack of manners or courtesy.
Do you think this is rude church behavior?
Yes that would have bothered me greatly. However being me I would have told them then and there that they were the seats where I usually sat and that I was going to continue sitting in them as I was there now and their family were not! I would have removed what they had put on the seats and told them that their family would just have to find empty seats once they arrived- just like everyone else has to! HOWEVER if the family members were already seated there when you had arrived then it would have been different- after all they had to sit somewhere no doubt misplacing someone but that's just what happens. Reserving seats in the way that they did (knowing that was where you regularly sit) was unfair, selfish and a little on the childish side! I wouldn't bother bringing it up with them now but just make sure you get there a little earlier in the future and if it happens again say a friendly but firm no!
What is rude behavior?
The behavior I find most offensive is verbal abuse of people who are not in a position to respond. When I see employers berating employees, or customers treating sales people in stores with contempt, or people giving waiters and waitresses a hard time, it upsets me. I once read that a gentleman is known by the way he treats his subordinates. By that standard, I suspect a lot of people who would not dream of being rude to their equals, would fail the test of being a real gentleman or lady.
Do you think that some people deserve rude behaviour?
No one deserves it, but some definitely show hunger for it, which many will be happy to satisfy.
What do you think of my sister's boyfriend's behavior?
My sister, who is 23, is dating a guy who is 29. They met about 2 yrs ago at work while she lived in California. She moved back to Wisconsin about 1 1/2 yrs ago. They've been in a long distance relationship that mainly consists of many phone calls a day, but they also see each other every few months. He is a really nice guy and is really good to her. Her intentions were to move back to CA, but he just transferred jobs to Philladelphia. So she's moving there in the next few weeks. But recently, he has been different. He picks on her for every little thing to the point of her crying on the phone with him. For example, he didn't realize how much she owed in student loans, so now he is saying he is concerned etc. But it isn't like they are married (or even planning it in her mind). She feels that the relationship is getting so bad that she may not even move. He also has a game plan for if they ever break up! She thinks this is weird. I really like him, but I worry for her. Ideas?
Fart in public isn't rude behavior?
its not something you can always control, it happens
What rude behavior do you find least easy to tolerate?
I had to think for a moment because some things are intolerable but not to the point of hating it. But at the top of my list would be those who take others for granted. I have it done a lot to me before I recognize it and set a boundary.My most recent was a very rich acquaintance who lives in a nursing-type of home. She can get around quite nicely but her two doctor sons wanted to stop paying for round the clock in her home and put her ‘away’ for others to take care of her. We belong to a group of 5 who lunch monthly, and rather than getting a taxi or using the ‘home’s van service, will EXPECT myself or another friend to take her everywhere. I recently got chewed out for showing up an hour late; in fact, I called her and told her the exact time but she rarely takes her calls. She made her misbehavior MY problem. Recognizing my resentment of being treated as an unpaid worker, I immediately confronted her as to how she was treating me and she was very quiet as we went to our luncheon. Later she c called and apologized, but is back to the treatment of others. “Entitlement” by the rich is a pet peeve of mine. The boys were so terrible to her that we turned them in to Elder Abuse and they were a bit better in their treatment of her. (They live in Oregon and Michigan).As an aside, she did have care at the cost of $20 per hour 24–7m, even though not needing such service. I can see why they saved money by putting her elsewhere and selling her house, car and belongings. But just as restaurant owners want me to subsidizes their help by not paying them a living wage, this family thinks that friends should subsidize her comings and goings. Sad, but I’ve met others that do the same. But the one I was with the most brought me joy and laughter in her behavior; this friend brought total resentment until I stopped catering to her.
Do narcissists forget their bad and rude behavior that they have committed upon people?
Well not every narcissist is exactly alike and no answer can accurately describe every narcissist. Just throwing that in.My belief is that generally a narcissist does not so much forget their bad behavior,as they alter the truth of what occurred so their bad behavior is recast as behavior that was good or perhaps necessary. Since the narcissist does not hold truth to be an important value, the narcissist simply alters the truth. They choose their own made up version as the new truth. That is a foundation of gaslighting.Narcissists are not bound by reality. They tend to be accomplished and prolific liars. The narcissist will spin their recast stories to their “friends” and in that way they disseminate and memorialize their false or alternative history. In their version their actions are good, or justified and the righteousness of the narcissist is validated. Since their “friends” believe the story (or know better then to risk expressions of doubt or dissent) the narcissist can accept their own false retelling as the truth.Going beyond the question a bit here, but I think this dynamic is a reason the narcissist never learns from their mistakes, and instead continually repeats the same mistakes over and over. They never learn from their mistakes or bad behaviors, because they recast the facts in order to portray and then believe whatever they did was good, proper and necessary. They actually believe their own lies.The audacity a person possesses such that they actually believe their own lies is sort of scary.