What does self patronizing mean?
I want to use self patronizing in a paper but im kind of uncertain as to it's meaning so i just want to verify what it would mean. i know that patronizing is when someone speaks condescendingly to someone else like a superior to an inferior. However, i want to use it like character A is describing character B as self patronizing because character B thinks they're patronized. Would that be correct?
What is "patronizing"? "Condescending"? Can you show me how to use these words by way of examples?
Patronizing is to treat in the manner of a paid guest. Condescending is with movement towards a lesser position. Both are used to intimate negativism. So similar as to be interchangeable in most instances.
When does a compliment become patronizing?
To me, I dislike compliments that are insincere or over-exaggerated. Alfie Kohn provides four practical suggestions that limit possible damaging effects of praise: 1. Don't praise people, only praise what they do 2. Make praise as specific as possible 3. Avoid phony praise 4. Avoid praise that sets up competition Also, use compliments as questions. Instead of complimenting directly (for example: “well done!"), compliment indirectly. An example of an indirect compliment is: “Wow, how did you manage to finish that task so quickly?"). I like to call such kinds of questions affirmative questions. It is also possible to include the perspective of other people in compliments. Also, there is less chance that he or she will feel embarrassed or will turn down the compliment ("It was nothing special"). Instead you challenge the other person and make him or her reflect (“Actually, how did I do that... let's see...?”).
Should I text her back?
So meet a girl the other day in the pub, she works as a barmaid there. She was giving signals she was interested, id not spoken to her before properly as I thought she was cute but had a gf at the time. We got chatting about summer festivals etc. Anyway I got her number and we texted a few times, I felt she was interested as she kept sending long texts. Anyway I tried to call her the other day to ask her out, but no answer so dropped a text. She replied today saying: I don't think I can see you, I'm really sorry I have a boyfriend I should have told you but you are gorgeous and turned my head :). Sorry again xx Now I'm not that bothered I'll get over it but I just don't know what to make of that? To me it either feels like she is a sweet girl who is just not very experienced with these situations or she is being very patronising... Should I text her back? I guess id feel a bit guilty if I didn't set her straight or maybe I'm just over thinking it?
Do girls like getting texts everyday? I thought they didn't. Do you think she likes me?
Some girls like getting texts every day, definitely, and I think you did a sensible thing by holding back on the texting to see how she took it. Her reaction of asking you why you haven't texted in ages is a good one, it shows she's been thinking about you and likes receiving your texts - reply to it and make a joke of it, you could even be honest and say you didn't want to come across as being "too forward" - don't use the word "desperate", it makes it sound like she's your only option and she'd take that offensively - and her reply could give you an indication of how into you she is. Bottom line, don't be too serious, it's early days, be jokey about it but without being a jerk. It's generally a good sign if she teases you, assuming you mean in a flirty way and not a patronising "awww, aren't you cute" way like she might tease a younger sibling. While I'd personally be a huge snob about girls who use "lawlz" in anything but an ironic manner, things like "hahaha" are a good sign too, she's telling you she finds you funny and she wouldn't put it if she didn't, there'd be no point. Just try not to think too hard about it, like I said it's early days, just go with it and carry on texting as much as you want to; she can simply not reply if she thinks it's too much :)