How to deal with a 12 year old still pooping his pants?
The 12 year old in question is my fiancee's brother, meaning my future brother in law. I've been recently helping his mom out around the house because of recent financial problems and because she doesn't have time for the house with her new job. One of my tasks is the laundry. I knew he always had a problem but I didn't know how bad it was. He's pooping his pants once or twice a day, judging by the amount of soiled underwear I'm washing. I'm not sure what is causing it. He usually does it in private (we don't notice until we smell it) and rarely poops his pants at school or anywhere public. His mom is recently going through a divorce and the frequency of him pooping his pants has increased since then but according to my fiance, he's always had the problem. When I ask him why he poops his pants, he always just says "I don't know." I want to know if there is something I can do, not being his parent or anything. I tried talking to his mom but she seems to just be sick of dealing with the issue (She's tried bribing, scolding, taking away toys, telling him that it's embarrassing, etc) If I can, I'd want to help. It has been tough getting by financially by going through bottles and bottles of bleach and detergent and buying new underwear when old ones fall apart from too much washing. It also wouldn't be a good thing for him to still be pooping his pants, especially as he goes into his teen years and then, onto college and corporate life. It also can't be a too attractive feature and if I was his wife, I wouldn't appreciate having to wash a dozen soiled underwear every week. Help, please?
Is the "runt of the litter" harder to train?
Here is my situation... I am on the list for a new puppy from a breeder. The puppies are now 4 weeks old and will be ready to come home at 8 weeks. I was on the list for a male. The bredder called me yesterday because she has 2 males left and one is "the runt of the litter" it's smaller then the others and very shy and timid. She has been bottle feeding him goat milk because he is having a hard time getting by his 10 siblings to feed off of mom. She would prefer that i take him because I have no children and no other dogs, and the other person on the list does. Now is this pup going to be difficult to train? Will it still be ok to take him to puppy kindergarten as planned? Will it be ok to crate train him?
Should i put my 14 year old daughter in diapers 24/7?
Unfortunately, your solution would not work, and could make matters much worse. There are a few reason for kids to wet the bed after they are potty trained. 1) Attention: Yup, that's right, trying to get the attention they don't think they get. All kids strive for attention, some tend to go to more extremes than others. 2) Psychological: After traumatic experiences a child may end up not being able to control their bladder, typically at night. 3) Bladder: In some cases, the bladder of a child doesn't grow fast enough to keep up with their body, this is actually fairly common. The bladder fills and leaks out without them being able to feel it. 4) Lazy: Being to lazy to get out of bed is one of the least common reasons, but it is not completely off the board. 5) Power trip: Trying to control you in any way possible. Kids always try to push the limits, see exactly what they can do, in many cases, demanding unreasonable things until they get it. I personally believe it is attention she is trying to get. Diapers are not something most people want, a child, usually around the age of 5, will kick, scream, stomp, and rip off the diapers until they get used to wearing them. So the reason of someone asking for diapers only leaves the possibility of attention grabbing or an extreme psychological disorder. So, the question is: What can you do? First, I suggest taking her to a regular doctor to test her bladder, see if it is to small. Next, Buy 1 pack of diapers, and tell her that is the last one you will get for her, make it count. Then, Tell her to get a job if she wants to keep wearing diapers, and that she has to pay for them. Don't be mean about it, just state facts. Finally, When she tells you about wetting the bed, or anything of the sort, ignore it, just say "That's nice" and continue what your doing. This way, she is not getting special attention, and she will stop with the diapers. Hope this helps!