Has anyone else felt like this?
I am 20 weeks pregnant now. It took me two years to conceive. I was diagnosed with PCOS in April, and after losing 10kgs and taking metformin for 3 months, i fell pregnant naturally. I had a glucose tolerance test 3 weeks ago. On Monday i went for my scan, and it really really hurt. The woman bruised my tummy and even broke my skin (i don't think she had enough gel on the scanner for making it glide). And then that afternoon i went to my Obgyn and he said that my GTT was high, and i have to go to a pregnancy diabetes specialist. And i went there this morning. Basically, given my history and my results, there is no way that i can avoid having to move on to insulin injections before the end of my pregnancy- no matter how good my diet and exercise is. So, now i am finding myself thinking that i wish i had never gotten pregnant. I am worried that i will end up resenting this baby (And yes, i know it's not the baby's 'fault'). I feel like nobody told me what the real risks for me getting pregnant were, in fact, the doc was going to help me get pregnant when we found out i already was. He never said 'given how high your sugars are when you're not pregnant, you will most definitely develop gestational diabetes, and end up needing insulin.' Every one was kind of sugar coating things before, and now there's a problem it's me who has to deal with it. I say the doctor should have known because my 2hr GTT levels were over 8 before i was pregnant. While 8-11 is considered pre-diabetic when you're not pregnant, anything over 8 during pregnancy is gestational diabetes. Has anyone else gone through so much trouble to have a baby and just not felt like it was worth it in the end? Even the thought of having my baby in my arms at the end doesn't cheer me up, i feel like it's not worth it. And i feel like if I had known before what i know now i would have lost a lot more weight before getting pregnant- before even thinking about getting pregnant. I feel so bitter about the 2 years it took me to get pregnant, and now i also have to deal with this crap. It just doesn't seem fair that it's so much trouble for me to have a baby.
Does anyone else feel alone even when your married?
I've been married for 20 years. My husband and I don't seem to talk much anymore. We work all week long and on the weekends I'm so depressed I just want to stay in bed anymore. We don't seem to have anything in common. It seems when we had to struggle to survive when we were younger we were always strong together and now when life and things come a little easier we have nothing left. I feel so alone! Maybe to much time, life's strife and words have passed under the brige for us? And as sad as this make me I'm not sure I even care anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.
I need help...im 9weeks pregnant with my 2nd and i feel fat and lazy all the time?
I look in the mirror and i see my self as way bigger then i am. I feel like I gained 20lbs already but ive on;y gained 5 or 6. Im normaly 108-110 at 5'6'' my husband doesn't like me that skinny he likes me around 120lbs so and he still thinks i should be getting a bit bigger. im fine with the 6 lbs at 9 weeks but why do i see 20lbs which i know is too much to gain in your first trimester. i just want to see myself how other people see me. im not worried about losing the weight or even gaining 35lbs like my first kid but i hate feeling so heavy so early on...what should i do.. im not obsessed with being skinny and i love my pregnant belly when it comes but this feeling of just really heavy so early on i feel like crap
I'm 20 and I feel old. What can I do about this?
Slap yourself the next time you are feeling sorry for yourself. The hell with social skills they're over-rated. The important thing is to focus on something positive you love. Forget anything that distracts you from that. Get really good at it so you'll have something to be proud of and be excited to share with the world. Leave your painful past behind and you might even help someone else forget about their pain. Stop thinking about what you are getting or not getting from life. Focus on being. Get centered. Refuse to allow fear of anyone or anything to make your decisions. Stop slouching and stand up straight. Take better care of yourself, and if you abuse any substances in the attempt to ease your pain, do whatever it takes to get free. There are various groups to help with those kinds of problems. If fact, these days there are groups for just about any kind of problem you can think of, so go out and join a few. They'll let you whine your troubles right out of yourself until YOU are sick of hearing yourself. When your attitude changes, you will wake up grateful to be alive. Why worry about being part of the crowd. Be a leader. You have something special to offer the world and it is time you realized it. One more thing. Stop eating those big macs, and start eating some healthy food so you will live a long, productive life.
I am in my late 20s and feel I have wasted a lot of time. Is it too late for me to achieve something worthwhile?
When I turned 27 I was:Unemployed, had been for a yearSleeping on a friend's couchPainfully singleWondering if it was too lateI had:No hard skillsNo work experience worth repeatingCollege grades that didn't open grad school doors I wanted to walk throughScant motivationNo directionI asked my dad for advice and he said: "You can't steer a parked car."I stopped thinking about what to do and started doing. I refocused my search on small growing companies and after a dozen rejections I applied for a customer service job at a company I'd never heard of but that seemed interesting. A week later I was working at Bonobos (company) with 25 smart, fun, engaging people. I chipped in on work in different departments and eventually found an application for my natural skills in a career path I hadn't anticipated. At 29 I'm a beginner in a new role. It's fantastic.I can only recommend what I've done: Find some fertile ground. You'll figure the rest out later. There are tons of young companies looking for people who are energetic and capable, but most importantly they're looking for people who care. Startups require hard work and long hours but if you care about the mission and the quality of your work it'll feel more like a lifestyle than a job.You only have to be lucky once. I was. Maybe you will be too. There's only one way to find out: Take the car out of park and step on the gas.
20 weeks pregnant and I don't want to be at work anymore?
Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel like I have so much I could be doing at home. The house is definitely not ready for a baby or even ready for the baby items we will be purchasing. Work isn't very busy and I won't be returning once the baby comes anyway. Of course, I need to continue working for now because we are saving up money. I'm just getting so frustrated because I'm a temp worker at this office. They don't really need me. I'm never busy or even close to busy. If they would just let me go I could collect unemployment insurance and/or lookf for a job closer to home that I would actually be doing work. It's an hour drive to and from work. By the time my husband and I get home, we make dinner and eat, I have NO motivation left for anything. Am I just having a pity party or does anyone else feel this way?
Wow Im 20! Is it normal to feel old?
It was a shocking thing to me too when I turned 20 and it seems strange. 20 was relatively a hard birthday to me and now I'm about to turn (GULP! I hate to admit this...) 50! This is going to be a hard birthday for me. I didn't mind turning 30 as many other people do and 40 wasn't a milestone for me either but 20 and 50 certainly are. It is strange how the human mind processes time and which ages we sort of "dread". This too will pass and neither one of us are really OLD. Old is just a state of mind and our minds are funny things. You'll get over it in a year or two and I'm sure I will too!
Why do people in their 20s feel behind in life?
I think it most likely has to do with the fact that we live in a society that sends a message that if we don’t reach milestones by a certain age that we are “losers” and we have failed in life.According to our mainstream society we must:• graduate high school by the time we are 18• graduate university by the time we are 22• immediately start working in a professional or semi-professional field straight after university• get married by our mid-20’s• have children by the time we are in our mid to late 20’s• lose our virginities during our mid to late teens. And if you are still a virgin by the time you are 25–30 there is something wrong with you.• have at least kissed someone by your early teens or been in a relationship by the time you are in high school.• and- depending on which country you live in- move out of your parents’ house by the time you turn 18!The majority of people reach those milestones at those certain ages, but there is a minority of those in their 20’s, 30’s, and even 40’s that have still have not reached those milestones, and they are looked down upon and are seen as failures. There is also a stereotype associated with them that they are underachieveing losers who have poor social skills, are emotionally immature, and have hobbies and interests that are considered childish.And in addition, comparisons also play a big role in this feeling. Every time we see our friends, acquaintances, or old colleagues around the same age get a promotion, get hired in a great career, get married, or have a child we immediately feel inferior to them because we probably have not achieved those things (yet). Social media has only made this problem worse as it has made it a lot easier to keep track of what the people in our lives are doing.That’s what I love about childhood- everyone is on the same boat and no one has seriously surpassed anyone in anything.