Is online dating stupid and desperate?
Dating sites are overrated meat markets usually attract desperate misfit singles who pay costly fees to go “hunting” for the perfect mate, rarely being anything close to perfect themselves. They are picky, have high expectations, and expect more in return than they can deliver who can't cut it in public and lack the necessary social skills. Using a dating service is like admitting that you're unable to meet someone on your own, that you need some kind of remedial help. I think many men today are terrified of women that has lead to an explosion of more Internet dating services serving every possible niche where horny men copy and paste their 'resumes' and email them to hundreds of anonymous women online. A man MUST make an effort in which you have to approach women whether it's in a mall, gym, on the street, or other venues where women are found. These online sites are great revealing less than desirables because most engage this online ego trip are busy, ambitious, independent career women who come from failed relationships need an instant pick-me-up. She can't attract a man in real life, but when she goes online and receives a deluge of emails from a platoon of desperate men telling her how pretty and smart she is, it gives her a tremendous ego boost that will carry over into real life social interactions, thus guaranteeing disappointment. Personally, I think it's a waste of time. Match.com reported two years ago that 1 in 300 actually find true love through dating sites. That means you'll be spending a whole lot of time in front of a computer and spending a whole lot of credits on a system that really doesn't work. Why do it, if you can approach people for free?
Why do people date only their own race?
Well, I think it goes without saying that interacial dating does occur with some frequency, but there definately is a tendency for people to date within their own racial groups. It's probably due to two factors. First, people are raised to value and be attracted to aspects of their own culture and therefor when looking to find a partner, they are more likely to like people that share their values, which is likely someone from a similar racial background. Secondly, people may have a natural, biologically ingrained attraction to people from their own race since they've historically been matched together for thousands and thousands of years.
Is it racist to be attracted more, or less, to people of certain races?
These types of questions drive me absolutely crazy.This reminds me of a story a friend told me. I honestly thought it was a joke at first, judging by the sheer lunacy of it.My friend's friend: Do you want to get some Mexican food for lunch, maybe some Chipotle?My friend: No, I don't really like Mexican food.My friend's friend: Wow, that's really racist.Let's not even broach the fact that my friend's friend thought that Chipotle was a prime example of Mexican food.The problem is this: We are slowly losing the right to have preferences under the fear of being labeled *-ist.I am a straight guy. Am I homophobic to not want to date gay men?I love listening to rap music, which is obviously more connected to certain communities than others. Are my friends who don't like hip-hop racist?I'm a smart guy who had a certain type of training in an Ivy League school. Am I intelligent-ist (honestly there probably is a word/phrase for this) to only want to date girls that I find to be intellectually stimulating?Am I sexist if I feel chivalrous holding doors open for women? Or am I a misogynist if I don't? Am I ageist if I only do it for older women?I have met tons of people who, behind closed doors are finally comfortable enough to admit that they prefer a certain race, or gender, or profession, or athletic ability or eye color in their romantic partners. I've met people who only date blondes, people who love brunettes, black guys who only date white girls, and white guys who love black chicks. It all pretty much evens out.The point is this: like whatever you like, who cares? Not wanting to date a certain type of people does not translate into you waging a war against an entire race because you think they are poor specimens of our species. Just as you, deciding to purchase a Macbook instead of a PC, does not bring down Microsoft, your decision to date or not date a certain type of person is not some massive social travesty. It's just a preference.