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I am in love with my gay best friend...?

Honey this one is really hard, least its going to be hard on you. If the guy is really gay then it will never work out in a relationship or marriage one day. The thing is, that gays are often very emotional people, people of deep understand, and for we females and women a real strong friendship is created which it has with you and him. That love is a powerful love and the type that will last a lifetime between you - but not as man and wife.

Also he has not come out yet as such, so again he is going through a very difficult time in his life, no matter how liberal minded people are these days, its still hard coming out if your gay or a lesbian, so that is where your friendship with him will show him how much you really love him as a person and want only the best for him till he has made his choice. I guess when a person suspects they may be gay or lesbian they have a terrible conflict within themselves, they don't want to be that way often and therefore coming out so to speak can take years and its very hard for them. At the end of the day we all want to be accepted in life what ever gender we are or prefer.

If I were you I would as his friend already, sit and talk with him and tell him what you heard, and then tell him you love him as a very special friend, and that you are happy to let him talk things through with you any time he wants. Naturally too you must promise never to disclose what he suspects he may be - he needs your love friendship and loyalty badly right now. I know you say you have made out already, but again you see a gay or lesbian will often do that hoping it will straighten them out - but it don't, for they are born this way, its in their make up and genes.

Its going to be difficult for both you and him, but I would if I were you offer him your utter true friendship and remain that way. Sometimes its just something a young person goes through, and they discover eventually that they are not gay after all - but the poor guy needs this time to find out for himself if he is or not, and it may take him years.

Is there not some organization that you both could talk too - its going to be a hard time for you both, but Honey he may never be your lover or husband, but believe me this guy will be a life long friend that you will truly love and he will love you - and that too will be a special bond between you two.

My Best Friend is in Love with me, and we are both guys!!!!?

The near fact that you question "if to" should reassure you about your sexual preferrence. Although both married, obviously you're both bisexual or gay. If that is the case, I would suggest not going for it because you're "friends" - I would though suggest you both talk about this because guys dont just "fall inlove" with another man, unless if they're gay/bi.

If you're both just in it for the sex, and are curious about it, I would suggest you both experiment on your own terms with someone different than yourselves. And please, if you're going to do this, leave your wives and get a divorce. I'm gay and I don't find right at all for a man to think he's married and in their minds think its "OK" for him to get some "head" or just a "booty call" from a guy and not be considered gay (macho-pride).

Your problem here is not if too have sex with your best friend, it's about questioning who you and your best friend really are and what lie your hiding behind of by being married. You've obviously have considered it, you stated:

"He was really convincing about wanting to be with me, but I don't know "

You are only causing emotional scars to your wives and yourselves. Stop the lie. Find your true selves and only then will you find happiness. And that my friend, is what is right for either party in both relationships.

Have a good evening.

I am in love with my best friend. I know we can't be together, and it's torture hearing about his hookups. Should I just tell him so I won't have to hear about other girls?

Friendship without honesty is not a friendship.  Whether or not he tells you about his hookups will not change the fact that you are in love with him, nor will it change the fact that you will feel sad that this love is not returned.Of course it would be suspicious if you suddenly told him to keep the details of his hookups to himself.  He would want to know why.  If you tell him it just makes you uncomfortable, he would still want to know why.You tell him how you feel, and you tell him how long you've felt this way.  If he accepts it and moves forward, then you have gotten what you wanted.  If he rejects it, then you no longer have to live the lie of only being friends with someone you love.That's what it is.  A lie.  You stay close to him because you want him to notice you without saying anything, so your friendship has become a cover for being close to him.  Tell him the truth, and let him decide if he wants to pursue a relationship with you.  If he rejects you, then you can freely move on with your life.

What does "I love you as a friend" mean?

She sounds like she's confused about her feelings for you. "I love you as a friend" means exactly that - she doesn't love you romantically, or at least that's what she SAYS. But since you say she's gone back and forth about liking you romantically, I'd think that maybe she's scared of a relationship with you (afraid of getting hurt, etc.), or maybe she's not willing to be committed to you.

Can you sit down and just talk this out with her? If this relationship isn't going to go anywhere, then you'd want to end it now, so you don't have to keep enduring a lot of pain...nevertheless, it's worth a try to attempt to work things out with her :)

I hope all goes well for you :)

He's my best friend, and i love him. but he loves her...?

dang! forget about your feelings remember you are his best friend you function his to be the best friend, not to fall in love with him, mostly that scenario happens and its sucks but all we need sometimes is to open our mind and look broader on the picture. never fall in love to some one you know will never love you back cause its hurtfull i were you focus on other things and wait for the right love. good day

How do I tell my best friend im in love with her?

ohhh boy!
I went through the same thing. And i waited to long.
My bestfriend and I both appeared to be straight.
We both were with boys and blah blah.. you know.. but i started to fall for her.
I waited to late and here she ended up getting a girl from and to this day i hate her...(not her.. the ulgy girlfriend)
Well if i would have told her earlier.. we might be together.

But what you need to do is just come out and tell her. The way i told my bestfriend was not a very good way... we were fighting and i just came out and said it.
But get her on the phone and just talk to her about. I dont think that she will find it weird... and i dont think it will ruin your friend ship. and she might already know. she could have picked up on it, like my friend did, and just not say anything b//c she is not sure.

yes it will be hard... nothing like this ever is. But you should tell her b/c it might get hectic like mine did if you dont. Then you might also wait to long and it could be to late for anything. for all you know, she might have a feeling for you. But you need to talk to her about it. Its the only way to know anything.

And good luck!

I am in love with my best friend (we're both girls) and i need help!!!?

Have you lost your ex, and are now asking for help on "how to get my ex back when he's moved on'? Don't bother moping, because what you have lost does not mean you have lost it forever. Here are some quick and simple tips for learning how to get your ex back even if he has moved on to another woman and no longer appears to be interested in associating with you. Learn here

1 - One of the most advantageous things that you can do is simply to be his friend. Make a really good friend to him, showing him that you understand him and that you can be around him without creating any drama. Show him that you can joke around with him and have a healthy friendship with him. When the drama and stress of the relationship and breakup have subsided, he may realize that he wants you again.

2 - The first step to getting the man of your dreams back is finding a way to convince him that he still wants you. Unless he really, really does not want anything to do with you, then there are a number of options that you can employ from this point on.

3 - When you communicate with your ex boyfriend, be sweet and kind to him but don't be afraid to have a little bit of attitude. You are going to want him to want you, but you're also going to want to give him the feeling that he cannot have you just yet. While playing games is not the best way to go, you do not want give an air of hard to get, making him more interested in the process.

4 - You should be playing a little bit hard to get, but you also want to make sure that he knows you are available. You shouldn't completely rule out the concept of flirting and hanging out with friends, because drumming up a little bit of jealousy never hurt anyone - But it is important that you play it safe because if he doesn't think you are available, he probably will not find the motivation to pursue you.

5 - Avoid acting desperate at all costs. If you act desperate, your ex boyfriend will under estimate you. You are going to want to play things cool, letting him know that you are okay with everything that has happened, and that you are willing to move on. If you act desperate, things won't work out the way you are intending them to, so avoid doing this at all costs.

How do you know if a boy loves you?

The answer to this question can be complex. Love defined by some being more respect rather than action, others are totally and hopelessly in love.The short answer is ACTION what they actually do for you……Helping around the house, doing jobs like decorating, maintenance replacing bulbs, fixing technology and anything you request them to do, rewarding them with kindness and sincere appreciation.Personal things , , like remembering your anniversaries, birthdays, special events, valentines, Easter, Christmas, etc. The was he remembers and respects your family too, takes you out to places like for a drive, picnics, holidays, anniversary, special occasions, for meals, surprise little gifts. When working or away phone calls whether you are ok or need any help while he is away, emails, texts, video calls from where he is, and the list goes on….Private things like being the best lover leaving you satisfied first before himself, and not leaving until you are fully satisfied.REMEMBER What you put in-you will get out. Love as life is like a mirror, you must put in equal effort yourself, to get equal effort out.NO GOOD expecting him to make all the action when you are doing nothing !!!YOU MUST show him you are the best lover, house keeper and best friend he could possibly have, beating all rivals out of sight.Remember little things mean a lot, always look your best for him and show outwardly to others that you have pride in your man, and that you are fully supportive, being the first one to protect him against abuse, a be the best witness to events.BOTH OF YOU need space in your relationship to follow your own interests, and retain your family and friends. Take time out regularly to make it your time, but always return and make a special time for each other, that you are glad to be back.

Why does my guy friend tell me he loves me randomly?

Because he's actually IN LOVE with you. He's trying to let it out but withdraws from it because he's afraid of your reaction.

Regular guys do not do this with girl friends unless they're gay.

This is why girls and guys can not be best-friends. One always is secretly in love with the other.

So either initiate something more because he's too much of a coward to make the move or distance yourself because you're in for a headache.

What are some signs that your boyfriend really loves you?

From my own experience, I’ve been with someone who never loved me, and someone who does love me. Im sure you can figure out which one is which…Additionally, both examples are long distance.GUY #1Didn’t want to skype/facetime, only text and snapchatCouldn’t tell me how he felt about meGot dismissive with me for asking him about our futureTalked about me behind my back to my friends and family.Seemed ashamed of me at times, didn’t introduce me to his friends.Resented my close relationship with his family, resented their desire to involve me in their family life.Enjoyed the physical side of things but kept emotional conversations at arms lengthForgot Valentines day, and other important holidays.Trips to see me were last minute, not planned out.Refused to understand and discuss my point of view on things we disagreed on.Flirts with other girls and/or cheated without guilt or awareness of the hurtful nature of it.Brings up the past in an effort to win arguments.Prioritized college and friends over spending time with me.Didn’t tell me what he was up to in the evenings or share details about his dayBecame awkward with romantic gestures.An odd point to make… but when I cried after my friend died, he wouldn’t approach me. He was terrified to even touch me.GUY #2Conversation is never boringCalls me consistently every morningTexts me throughout the day, but understands if i get busy.Trusts me completely.Never tries to make me jealousInvests in my family, eagar to get to know themTalks about our future a lot.Tells me how he feels about me without holding backAsks me questions, shows genuine interest in my lifeThoughtful about gifts and date planningPrebooks flights to come see me, makes plans for the year, not for the moment.Can disagree with me without both changing his views and belittling mine. Always open for discussion and will compromise if it’s important.Smiles when he sees me.Honest and kind. Always.Conscious of my moods, asks me whats wrong and attempts to comfort me during times of difficulty.Talks to his family and friends about meUnafraid to commitUnafraid to reach out to me when im upset. Eager to solve conflict and make me feel better even if it means cutting into his schedule.Romantic gestures are a regular occurrence and comfortable for him to give and recieve.