I feel like my family hates me?
My life hasn't always been the easiet but lately I feel like my whole family hates me. It feels like everything I do is wrong. When I talk to them they don't reply or they ignore me. I get yelled at because of my room is dirty but if my twin sister room is dirty they're okay with it. They yell at me if I'm crying and I just feel unloved and I feel like they're pushing me away. My twin sister is one of the popular girls at school and one minute she'll be fine talking to me and then she'll yell at me to get out. She ignores me at school and says my friends are weird and that I shouldn't talk to her friend's. She gets mad at me and calls me bossy because I get worried about her. I get worried something bad is going to happen or shes going to be late but its just something I do because my mom doesn't. The worst part about it though, my friends tell me I need to stick up for myself because they say she pushes me around. But overall I think she just hates me. My older sister likes my twin more than me they talk and hangout more. But they ignore me so I go in my room and they call me a hermit and if they go get food they just ignore me. The other thing is that a couple of days ago we were talking about kidney donations and she said what if my twin needed a donation (because she has a scarred kidney) or what if her son needed one but he's healthy and I just felt so ignored and unloved because she didn't care. My family insults me about how i look and that my hair is ugly or my clothes are. Or my sisters say I get anything I want because i wanted to play softball one year and it was only twenty dollars. But my twin sisters doing cheer and its two thousand dollars. I just don't how to deal with it anymore I feel like crying all the time.
Does it sound like my mother hid the family's ancestry from me?
You refer to your father in the past tense. Was he not a part of your life? Do you have contact with him to ask him questions?But, I agree with Lisa O. that digging too deeply into this issue may open up a can of worms that you may not like. Knowing your ancestry is kind of fun, but deep down you should really question if it affects who you truly are at your core. If you knew absolutely nothing about your past you would still be the same person you are right now, right? Would it affect how you do your job, how you relate to others, how you cook meals or handle money?And if you find out that your mom really as kept a secret from you are you going to hold it against her? Do you know all her reasons for keeping it a secret? You may be very close to your mom, but you haven't lived her life and gone through her tragedies and challenges. IF it were a secret there might be a very good reason she wanted to keep it hidden.
Why does my family hate me so much they want me to sleep on the streets?
IF you’re truly believing your family ‘hates so much they want you to sleep on the streets’, then that speaks in evidence that you might not be at your most maturely emotionally developed person at this time. Getting ‘fed up’ w/one’s BEHAVIOR from that person CAN surely cause rage, anger and upset for ALL concerned however. IF you’re a person taking care of YOUR own (life/survival) business and not making them some/anyone ELSES then I’m baffled at to WHY they would want to get to this point. Do YOU have any ideas why they are behaving towards you like this ? It is SOUNDING like to me that the REALITY of it IS NOT they WANT YOU TO SLEEP ON THE STREETS, but probably pushed to a point they aren’t wanting to deal w/some kind of something from you(r) behavior and don’t CARE WHERE YOU SLEEP while they’re feeling this ‘fit of rage’. OR, were you all REALLY sitting at the dinner table and they simply finished the meal calmly and said, ‘hon, we want you to sleep on the street’…hmmmm ? YOU know the deal and what is REALLY going on; they’re wanting YOU to take responsibility of YOUR life-doing SOMETHING to ‘contribute’ by not making YOUR problems theirs, participating in contributing by keeping up after yourself and even a bit more if you’re young adult and living at home. You CAN’T be THINKING, “Hey, let THEM do it all and I’M jis gonna slide n glide doing nothing OR what I do and/or don’t want to do”. ARE you thinking that ? Ok, then; WHEN is THEIR turn for THEM to sit on their ass while YOU work for the money for food, rent, and the etcetera’s. I think you should set up a schedule w/them so you all can know when YOU’ll be doing all they are doing now, and they can respond to YOU like YOU OWE them to let them be lazy, and/or OTHERWISE disrespectful, entitled. Sound like a plan ? IF not, if you can’t see your way through to do AT LEAST your FAIR share, then….go sleep on the street. I don’t ‘hate you’, but why are YOU special that YOU don’t pitch in and take care of your GROWN UP self ? BETTER yet, see if you can find a FRIEND who will let you stay with THEM and YOU still behave the same. Yep ! Back on the street, sista !
My crushes family really hates me?
If you liked him enough you would put up with is family, but it sounds like you have already made up your mind and given up on him. Don't worry, there will always be another guy.
Is it okay for me to hate my family?
Is it okay to hate my family?No.You may dislike being in the family you are in, but it’s not right to hate them. There’s a HUGE difference in those two words.First: there is no such thing as a perfect family, so you are not the only one suffering (sorry for presenting it so harshly to you, but I that that at 14 you are old enough to hear the truth).Yes, your mom may have some problems, and has done things that were not right, but you are not mentioning any good things she did for you in those 14 years. Did she feed you, helped you with homework, bought clothes for you? When you look at things in life, be objective, because nothing is totally wonderful or totally wrong.Second: you have a few more years of staying in your family, before you become independent. And when you do, you’ll miss your family.Third: Someday you’ll have your own family, learn now what to do, and what not to do from the stuff that’s happening around you.I hope you can find yourself as a member of your family independently of how the others are treating you.Forgive your mom, hey, tell her that you respect her, don’t gripe about those wrong things to her, thank her for the good things she does for you everyday.Forgiveness is important, not so much for those who hurt you, but mainly for yourself, so you can find peace in the situation. So murmur under your breath “I forgive you, mom”, she doesn’t even have to hear it.You may think that what I wrote here for you is stupid, and baseless. Well, let me tell you this: growing up I had a close family member who was a bully. For pure amusement, he caused me to become deaf in my right ear.So what did I do? I forgave him, not out loud, he doesn’t even know it, that I did. And then I fell on my knees and thanked God that I still have the left ear, with which I can hear perfectly well.So, your mom is unfair. Just let it go.If you are a guy or a gal, enjoy the song. Sure it’s animated, but contains a message too good to be missed.
Family hates me for going to college :(?
You sound like a real leader. You sound like me. I went to a community college also. there is nothing wrong with it. My sister went off to a university and started sleeping around with boys in their dorms.....my other sister lacks ambition and is superficial. sounds like your family are jealous of you. they secretlt look up to & wish they had goals like you do. you should be proud of yourself. Continue to keep pressing forward & strive for better. Everybody wants to be mediocre nowadays...college, marriage, kids, die in retirement home. LIFE IS SO MUCH MORE. I'm going to be in the entertainment business one day. I want to be extraordinary..NOT ordinary. With God on your side you'll be Successful. I wish you the best and dont let your negative family w/ their "issues" bother you. Next time they laugh at you just say "yea i'll have the last laugh"...then get up and leave xoxoxo
Please help! Husbands family hates me?
Unfortunately, life is full of immature idiots-and it sounds like everyone in your life has been one (except your poor husband) Here is the deal You were dead wrong-but you know that- and you have made amends as best as can be with your husband (haven't you?) and it is NONE of your husband's family's business. (except the sister) Now, she has forgiven her bf-and she needs to forgive you-if she does not then she is a sore loser of the highest form-and a sexist to boot Now will you change her? NO. Most women will only blame the other woman-because they are so low that they don't want to lose their man-she sounds like one of those women Your husband has done the right thing in not attending family holidays where you are not welcome- do not change that-or life in the future will be a mess His family needs to grow up big time and he needs to tell them that Very kindly and lovingly he needs to tell his mother that SHE not YOU is forcing him to choose, and until she can grow up and treat his wife with the respect that she deserves as his Choice and his Wife then he will have to absent himself from her world in all ways, and then he needs to not see her at all Because the bottom line is- you are his wife and he must cleave to you-not her or the sister or anyone else. You have NOT caused this-THEY HAVE- and you need to drop the guilt and the victim role If you have truly made amends with your husband then all is now their fault (his sister was not even married to the man) if you have not made amends then do so. But throw away your victim certificate and stop allowing the past to afffect your family (immediate family) There will probably never be any reconciliation until children come along and maybe not even then-if his family are real idiots. Just remember to love your husband for the great guy that he is- and do not continue to think about this anymore-since you really have no control over any of it Best of Luck
My family hates me. Advice please?
First of all, I am so, so, so sorry this had to happen to you. I don't know what it feels like but I know it's painful. This shouldn't be happening to anyone. I have to suggest that you should be telling the CPS (I heard you earlier). It doesn't matter if you're black or white or asian. It matters because you're a human and not some kind of garbage they can simply hit on you. It doesn't matter if you have scars or whatnot. What do you mean "No one knows what she did and i dont plan on telling."? Please, Honey, please, I beg of you. Your sister is a psycho-smartass-molester and your parents didn't know about this? If you tell this to the CPS people, it's going to be different. If they don't take any actions, then I will have to go there and make themselves feel sorry of their pitiful life. Well, your friend doesn't want to be friends with you? Don't bother with her. I can be your friend if you want to. Send me a message at Yahoo if you want my Fb and we can talk crappy about your parents all day long. But seriously, honey, don't let them ruin your life. You are not here to please them. they had fun creating you on bed, why on Earth you should please them. They are NOT going to take your life and mess with it. Go get the phone. Tell the police what happened and have a cup of hot chocolate. Wait and let them come. Then go with them and start off you new life. Edit: Good luck, beautiful. Stay strong and be brave. It's all right. Call the police and if they ignore you, talk to them about all the problems. I know talking about that is hard, but this is the way out.