What would make someone feel good by making another afraid?
They have a personality disorder. Sociopathy is a disorder where the person has no conscience. They never feel guilty about anything. They thrive on making others feel inadequate or stupid. In the extreme, they get their kicks by doing really horrible things to get people's attention. I'm sure you can think of lots of famous criminals who fit into this category. There is a book called The Sociopath Next Door that is a real eye opener on this subject. I recommend it.
Does making someone feel stupid for the question they asked make you feel better about yourself?
No, I don't ever feel better when my behavior makes someone feel stupid. I feel terrible about it. Some people seem to take pleasure in being high-handed and overbearing and they enjoy belittling others. I think it is a sign of their own insecurity but I don't feel sorry for them because I think the damage they do when they act like that is too much.
How do you feel when you're ignored by someone who is texting? How do you feel when you're the one asking all the questions, or you're the one who seems genuinely interested in having a chat? How does it feel when there’s a weird silence?
Just an hour back, I was talking to a friend. It was a normal conversation. After a while, I asked him a normal simple question about his studies. Very plain. Very normal. He saw the message but he didn't reply. I thought for a while. Did I mention something wrong or hurtful? I re-looked at the conversation. I found nothing strange.I didn't know what to say next. I left it at that.An year back: Same person. Same thing had happened. And I messaged this person, “Do not start a conversation with me if you can't talk.” He said, “Why are you getting angry?” I replied, “I am just saying that do not text me if you can't reply. Goodnight.” We didn't talk after that for like a few weeks.Now tell me, when was I right? Today or an year back?The point is, I was irritated an year back and I am irritated right now too. But do you know what I realised in this one year? That let people be. Let them do what they do. You take care of your emotions. There was no point of me confronting him back then, only to realise that an year later, still he is the same.When someone ignores us, it feels bad. More than that, you doubt yourself. You start doubting the things you say and you start thinking of what could have pushed that person to not talk. You over-think and you disturb your mood. You have to stop letting people affect your mood.When I realise that I am the only one asking questions and genuinely interested in talking, I step back once in a while. I stay quiet and I notice whether that person has something to talk about or not. If they don't, well, the conversation ends right there.If I really want to talk still, I remember Joey’s dialogue from F.R.I.E.N.D.S, “What matters is, does he like you? Because if he doesn't, then its all a Moo Point. A cow’s opinion. It doesn't really matter.”
College teacher makes me feel stupid...?
You can drop the course, but I judge that you wouldn't to do that because it would cause you to fall behind on what ever schedule you have to be graduated. You can boycott the class, but you have to do that with everyone of your classmates. Although, I would think about tactic. You will not get Absolute and complete agreement. I don't think that all of your classmates are upset upset with this professor. They also don't want this professor to cut them off from their own personal goals. You also can bite your tongue and just sit it out, get your passing grade and move on. Btw, you are in a very peculiar position yourself because it doesn't take long for a professor to know that there has to be someone leading this conspiracy. And, he will focus on you as you may already suspect. The best thing is to back off of the organizing role that you are filling, tuck your chin into your chest, and work on your assignments to pass the course. Good luck.
My husband keeps making me feel stupid!?
I always say that in a relationship the husband knows some things that the wife doesn't and vice versa. However, in my relationship I can't even ask my husband a question that I don't know because then he would say something along the lines of "omg, are you serious, i can't believe you don't know that, wtf hahahahah" yeah its annoying. then yesterday in the store i said a word wrong... ya know.. when you don't say a word for awhile and pronounce it a little off... yeah. he called me out in the store & talked about it all the way home. he's one of those guys that goes on and on and on about 1 thing until you want to pull your hair out! then... when i know something that he doesnt know... he either doesnt believe it & when i prove it to him he just says whatever or i still dont believe it. plus the fact that he is older than me makes me feel so bad about myself. it really sucks. now, i talked to him about this & how it upsets me and he still thinks it funny & makes jokes out of it. it really bothers me! what to do?! any advice?
Why do some people need to make you feel stupid?
Most likely they are insecure for a few different reasons. Putting others down helps them feel better than and that obviously means they have problems with who they are.Another reason is they are trying to be someone they're not to be accepted by other people who behave the same way.Nobody can make a person feel stupid. Intelligent individuals would know better since they consider themselves smart and nobody can convince them otherwise.Never let anyone tell you that you are less than. You can make things worse yourself just by believing them.
What should I do if my teachers and my classmates makes me feel inferior?
Yeah, I’ve kinda been in your shoes. Yet in order to smarten up, you need to focus on the support network surrounding you followed by those who are willing to help. One way to do this is through requesting your parents for help. This way, they’ll know that although you aren’t as bright as the others, you are still willing to try and improve, thus they will try and help you excel. This could be by setting up tuition classes to help you fill in the gaps of whatever you’re struggling in or even taking the initiative to contact your teachers and request for assistance. Teachers, at the end of the day, are there to help the students who are in need, so they are obliged and more than happy to help you.Now that the study material is there, all you’ll really need is your dedication and your resilience. Don’t quit if something is too hard; instead, ask for help of a trusted adult. If you really want to succeed and you prove it through your actions, success will come to you. But NEVER QUIT. The similarity between winners and losers is that they never quit. Even people as renowned as Thomas Edison was considered as a special needs child. Even a professional bbal player as brilliant as Michael Jordan failed the tryouts for his high school bbal team. Yet people like them who have experienced failure countless times, with the dedication and hard work they put in, they became IDOLS for today’s world. So if people who failed even worse than you succeeded, why can’t you? No backing down now, gotta hustle.Hope it helps,