My boss likes my co-worker, tolerates me.?
I understand because I usually put the job and company's profits above socializing and goofing off, yet it's those goof-offs who are liked more. That's the way it is & it isn't going to change. It actually makes sense that people like fun people more. You asked how to tolerate it. The same way you have been. Ignore it and continue to do your job. Thinking about it only makes YOU feel worse. You are built to get your satisfaction from a job well done, so focus on that. God is watching what you do, so continue to do your best for the company (they pay you, not your boss). Your rewards may come after this life. Companies and our country need more people like you. Keep up the good work ethic and do not be tempted to change based on what you see. The devil tries to trick us in many ways, don't fall for it.
Would you tolerate a boss who yells at you? My boss said it is absolutely OK for managers to yell at his or her employees. My boss is the VP of HR.
Not exactly. I see the other answers getting off tangent concerning if it is ok or legal. The question is missing key details on why or what prompted the yelling. It will be much easier ones you answer using the key word “because” …. If it is because of any protected characteristics then it may qualify as illegal harassment. If the boss yells because of mistakes/performance issues then the boss is an asshole and maybe violating company policy. Managing performance by inducing fear, intimidating, public humiliation are highly unproductive and toxic methods. Depending on the country you are in this may come close to illegal conduct.In my personal experience and from reading on the subject, the boss typically goes hostile like this, when employee brings up “sensitive” questions/subject where the boss either does not know the answer and does not want to appear incompetent, or does not want to answer and possibly coverup appearance of impropriety, or or the boss “managing out” employee (forcing to resign). Assuming the boss is not forcing to resign. For example you asked if you can work overtime or how come you cannot find your job description suspecting the workload is unfairly excessive. The tactic here most likely - “offense is the best defense” to discourage you from asking/discussing important questions/subjects. It is very important to check how or if the conduct impacts conditions of the employment. Documenting incidents should help with evaluating the situation. Then proceed based on the company policies, the labor laws, personal resilience and tolerance.
How do I tolerate a "boss" that won't grow up?
I’ve had that experience before. In your career, you will encounter horrible bosses. You will probably experience many of them. You can’t control their behavior but you can control the way you react. You have a few choices:Start looking for another job. This doesn’t always solve it because let’s face it, not every manager is a good one.Transfer to a different department through a job posting etc.It’s hard to ascertain what you mean by “won’t grow up“ but it might be useful to examine your values related to this statement and select your jobs with careful consideration of who Will be your boss. It appears that this value is very important to you. It is obvious you value relationships and conscientiousness so select an organization that matches these values.
If my boss abuses me, can I abuse him back if I don't care about my job?
You already have many answers. These can be broadly classified in three categories: hit back, move out or forgive. Any other approach doesn;t come to my mind readily. Unfortunately for us the life does not come with a user manual with ‘How to’ kind of help , in a cascading down menu format, to fix a known problem. Problem of abusive bosses are as ancient as the civilisation itself . only you have a ‘boss’ in mind who has hired you on payment. Daily, a large number of people in employ , must be facing similar problems and must be dealing with them in multifarious or even ingenious ways.In as far as your case is concerned, it looks to me, that you have already displayed your strength of cards , while seeking opinion of others in this query. You have clearly said that you are to leave the job soon. Any advice given to you should necessarily keep this vital aspect in view. A job provides wherewithal to eak out a living. For whatever reason you can afford to leave it. Better to leave it then, at the earliest. One can only venture to suggest that let this be a clean cut rather than some strands remaining , indecorously dangling.Best of luck.
Why can't I tolerate mistakes? (I noticed that I get angry whenever someone does not do his job properly or makes mistakes of any kind. Whenever a mistake occurs, I’d do everything I could to remove him from the project. I just can’t forgive him.)
You are referring to perfectionism. From Psychology Today:“For perfectionists, life is an endless report card on accomplishments or looks. It's a fast and enduring track to unhappiness, and perfectionism is often accompanied by depression and eating disorders. What makes perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its grip desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure, so theirs is a negative orientation. And love isn't a refuge; in fact, it feels way too conditional on performance. Perfection, of course, is an abstraction, an impossibility in reality, and often it leads to procrastination. There is a difference between striving for excellence and demanding perfection. The need for perfection is usually transmitted in small ways from parents to children, some as silent as a raised eyebrow over a B rather than an A.”Your asking this question means you’re sensing these are neural pathways embedded in your unconscious composed of negative emotions. The good news is they can be rewritten. Consider it a sign to attend to the underlying principle underlying all Psychological health - paying attention to your emotions as they come up & positively dealing with them. Doing so can resolve virtually all issues but it is very much like building a pyramid, building the strong base on which to build a life sometimes goes up slowly - but soon enough it goes up very quickly indeed.You will never achieve real wisdom, genuine joy & deep success until you do.
Have u ever told your boss off?
I have a boss that talked down to me so much. Finally one day, I told her "I love you and you talk to me like s__t." I kind of left it like that and one day I had to call her at home for something and she said' "I want us to get along at work." And I said again, "I love you and you have treating me like crap in front of people and I don't like it." She apologized and now everything is sooo different. She just leaves me alone. Don't let people talk down to you. If they do, all you need to do is tell them how they make you feel. Only good can come out of it. A very long time ago, I had a boss tha tput me down in front of a customer and I said, "F--- you!" He said, "You're fired!" and I told him, "No, I'm not, I quit!!" I wouldn't dare talk like that now, because I am a changed person.(but you reminded me of that)
Ever feel like your boss gives you the most meaningless tasks on purpose?
He used to! My boss is an Idiot! I have actually told him that! So now he leaves me alone or asks my opinion because he knows I will tell him exactly what I think instead of trying to win brownie points! Generally telling your boss that he's a dumb-*** isn't a wise career move but it worked for me!:o)
Is my boss OVERWORKING me? I can't tell. Please help?
So about 2 months ago I changed stations. Currently I'm working at a small Post Office where there's just me and 1 more person who happens to be the pstmaster/manager/boss whatever. Ever since I came in I've felt like my manager takes advantage. During the weekdays she puts up the mail way before I arrive to work but on weekends she just sits around eating, reading and browsing while I put up the mail by myself. She comes in at 7 and I go in at 10. The station is slow so I sit and she does the same. But when customers come I usually help them while she sits. THEN the next one comes and she doesn't get up. A ND it goes like that for the rest of the day. My sister says that that's what bosses do and that I'm supposed to suck it up. I just want to know if u think she might be taking advantage of me. Or if I need to learn my position. I just don't know. Please help.
My Boss keeps writing me up & she makes everyone thinks I always have a tude.She claims I'm her "Righhand Man"?
These things happen in the workplace. She keeps writing you up as having a "tude" and at the same time claims you are her "righthand man." Sounds contradictory, don't you think. Maybe she is not up to her job but she knows that you are. She might be afraid of you at some level. Play along, that is the name of the game. As long as you are getting a paycheck that is a good thing. If you are more competent than her, of course she will see you as a threat. What else can she do? It is very common in the work place for a boss to be threatened by someone who works under them. Play along for the time being, and at the same time look for a new job. Make her THINK she is in control, by doing that YOU could really be the one in control. Don't be afraid to see her as someone who is less than you. Just don't let on that you know that. You have great writing skills. Look into it. You probably have better communication skills than your boss does. At some level she knows this. Good luck to you!