My brother is stressing me out so much?
I can't even put in words how much the kid depresses me.. to the extent were I just want to die. If I had to describe him in ONE word it would be SLOB. he doesn't do anything but mess up the house and eat all of the food. I've told him 1000 million times to put up the toilet seat when he goes to the toilet but he refueses to, he pee's all over the seat and you have no idea what its like cleaning up somebody else's pee. he never ever even flushes the toilet, when he goes in there for even a second theres toilet roll, his clothes and towels on the floor and he leaves the bathroom light on! and WORST OF ALL he has NEVER ever washed his hands after the toilet. his too lazy to do anything. whenever I tell my mom and dad to tell him off they won't for some reason, especially my mom.. she's turned him into a monster. I mean when he takes a dump he doesn't flush the toilet (SO GROSS!) or wash his hands. when he walks past me you don't even understand how bad the smell is, he smells like hair grease and poop. he constantly talks to himself really loud all day and his room is right next to me so I hear him speaking 24/7 about him being gay or something. whenever I'm nice to him he calls me names and acts really weird to see how far he can push me just so that my mom will tell me off he always gets his own way. he actually gets mcdonalds EVERYDAY, if he asks for it my mom feels like she just can't say no. and if you even possibly knew how much food he ate you would be SHOCKED. his only 11 and he has about 8 slices of toast a day, 3 bowls of cereal, 7 packets of potato chips (and stuffs the packet under the sofa pillows) and he gets fast food EVERYDAY. his fat as hell! whenever we watch TV he always say about dudes "I wish he was my boyfriend" or "I love boys with that hair, it's so hot!" hopefully his not gay and it might just be a phase. Put it this way, I feel like if he were never born my life would be much happier PLEASE HELP ME OUT. Whenever I see him I want to stab him. I wish it was just me, my sister and my parents again. His made me sooooo depressed that I'm on tablets, All I do all day is clean up after him. and people wonder why I ONLY want daughters! I'm 16 so I can't move out for another 2 years.. but I can't take another day of him. (((His much worse than I described but it was getting tooo long so I had to stop)))
My Boyfriend's Brother is a LAZY Slob--HELP!?
His parents let him act like this. If he does not respect them why would he respect you? What can you do? Next time he needs something refuse him. Try to turn the conversation to jobs or school. Do not buy him anything. Do not do his chores for him. Treat him like a little kid. If his dog messes in the house yell at him like you would yell at a child. You could assign him chore then pay him an allowance but they would just enable him to be more of a screw up. I don't see much hope for you in this situation other than praying for him to have a near death or life altering experience. You could contact your boyfriend parents and ask how they deal with the situation but I am telling you right now it will only back fire on you because people never want to face up to their own mistakes.
Brother's Girlfriend is Such a Slob!?
Ignore her and just move on with your life if she wants to be a slob fine but don't mkae it your problem.
Why is my younger brother being such a lazy slob?
Lately my 18 year old brother has beeeeeeeeen sooooooooooooo lazy. I mean you ask him to do something he acts like he doesn't hear you. My mom told him last saturday to clean the bathroom and he hasn't done it yet. His room is a disaster area you can smell it all the way done stairs and it smells like a**. He lives his shoes and coat everywhere! He is always late for school and his professor is to the point of dropping him. He always hangs out my cousins house every single day and my cousin is 28 mind you. My brother can't even take out the garbage. I don't know whats wrong with him. I mean i don't know if its because his girlfriend broke up with 2months ago. But his laziness is getting to be stressful because he is not dependable at all. I try my best to help my mother clean because she has rheumatiod arthritis and she gets so irritated she bursts into tears. I clean the house sometimes from top to bottom because we have 6 bedroom house and its hard. What should we do?
Is my brother a jackass or is it just me?
I'm 14 and he's like 22. And I ******* hate him. No, I really do. All my life he has been treating me like ****. He's called my mom a ***** before. She does nothing to him! He's a slob, he is always late to work. Every job he has ever had. Everyday. He hits me, throws stuff at me, pinches me, makes fun of me, mocks me, steals everyone elses stuff. He steals my sisters, hard earned ******* money. Isn't that a crime? It's not just to me either. He bitches like no other, and whenever I kindly ask him to stop hitting me and **** he calls me a baby and makes fun of me. If I tell him to stop, he yells. He thinks he knows everything and he thinks he owns everything. He thinks that standing at a cashier register all day handing people ciggys and money after being 30 minutes late to work is hardwork and that gives him the right to do whatever the **** he wants. So is he right, that I and everyone else are babies or is he just a jackass?
Is my husband's Step Brother my Brother in law?
My husband's mom died and his dad remarried. So then that makes the new wife's children his step siblings and the new wife the step mom. So do I call her and her children my mother in law and brother and sister in law? Or step mother in law? Or the son or daughter of my father in laws wife? They married recently and the step children are not close as they were all grown and out of the house before they were married and have not had time to really get close. Not that they have really tried anyways. My husband and I met and married after his dad married.
My brother is lazy and has no motivation to do any job. He has no hobbies and is at home all the time doing almost nothing for the last 5 years. How can one bring change in his life?
I have exactly the same situation at home, my cousin brother took so many years to pass his college and he then went to a job but quit in a month.He is sort of a dreamer, he only sits, dreams and nothing else. Also he has moodswings about everything, he has some illness when it comes to focus.But he has a habit which turned out to be a plus point for us.He is an impulsive buyer or one can say shopoholic. He buys like so many things on a daily basis and we have to pay for it.So what we did was to tell that if he get to a job and start earning, he can have all the money to himself, doesn’t need to help in the family. All he can do is earn and then spend on whatever he fancies.It worked, now he is working an okay job and guess what he has even started to save some and doesnt buy every shit online.
My brother has schizophrenia???
I'm sorry, that's a really difficult situation. He's likely saying that to you because that's how he feels about himself, and he's projecting it. It's called "displacement" and it's pretty common with schizophrenia. I know this is really hard, because hearing things like that is hard for anyone. If you can, try to read between the lines to hear what is really going on rather than what he is actually saying. When he says "You are..." imagine him actually saying "I feel like I am..." and try to react to the second one, not the first. For example, if your brother came to you and said "I think I am a failure in life" how would you react to that? I'm assuming that you'd want to help him, or that you would at least not feel angry if that's what he really said. Try to interpret what he's saying to you in your head to yourself so you here what's really going on, not the words of his rant. If things get to be too much, though, do you have somewhere else you can go for an evening or to stay the night? Do you have a friend's place or a relative's house or anything like that? You shouldn't have to deal with this, and I know it's not fair to you. It's hard to be patient 100% of the time, so it would be best if you have a way that you can take a break if you need it.
My younger brother (16) may be forced to pay part of the rent. Could he legally keep our parents out of his room?
not really. Anyone on the lease has full access…but if he’s paying the majority of the rent, and wants to pay it all, he could probably evict them…if he lived in a state where he can be an emancipated minor…the thing is, he’s a minor…so no one can ‘force’ him to pay a part of the rent. If he is, he should negotiate some rules and guidelines before he gives up the money…seems like he’s not being respected as an adult. But then, people that all live together, must all consider what is good for the household…for example, even if he is paying rent…if he is living like a slob, or in such a manner that produces an odor, or draws bugs…that’s not acceptable. If it’s just a matter of privacy…he should nogotiate that, and probably can if he’s being “adult-like” …but if he’s being childish and selfish…probably little chance of getting anywhere. You can’t have your cake and eat it too…if you want to be treated like an adult, you must act like one across the board, in all situations…he may decide he likes being a kid more…there are certain benefits…mom picks up after you, cooks for you, does your dishes, laundry, etc…and usually gets no thanks. He should act fully like an adult, like a male roommate, if that’s how he wants to be treated…that means doing laundry, cooking, dishes, shopping, paying bills, …and so much more. I was an emancipated minor at 16. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Enjoy your youth while you still can for those last 2 years I say…but to each his own.