Does My Mom Like Me In That Way

Why does my mom hate me but love my sister?

Anna, I feel for you!!Your’s is such a tough situation to be in!Is your mom cruel to you? Does she hit you and make your cry? Does she really hate you, or does she simply favor your sister?Maybe she shows you love in a certain way, like arrange art lessons for you? Does she provide a warm and safe home, with a clean home and food. Are you safe?My mom favored my sister. But I realize she also loved me, as she provided many good things for me. But things did not turn out well for my sister —My sister did really, really bad things. She messed up her life and the lives of our family members. My mom tried to show her love after that, but mom hurt sooo much on the inside, my sister caused her so much grief and heartache. Our whole family was blown apart — all of us scattered all over the country and barely speak to each other —So, if you are safe at home, and can stay out of harm’s way with your mom, do your very best in school so that you can get a good job and provide a living for yourself. Keep your focus on helping yourself get educated and ready to create the life you want when you are grown (be realistic, and keep it simple, not grandiose, okay?).Good luck!!

How do I tell my mom I don’t like the way she worries too much about me, because I can look after myself as an adult without offending her?

You’ve been telling her, I’m sure. She’s still worrying, I’m sure. Mine too. I’m 27 years old, I’ve been living on my own since I left for university at 17, but if I call my mom and tell her I’m sick, she won’t sleep well for the next two nights because she worries about me.If I’m at home visiting and I stay out past 2am with my friends from high school, she’ll wake up in the middle of the night and call me to say it’s time to come home, because she’s worried about me. This has slowed down substantially; she’s realizing that I stay out of bad trouble (though I’m often the source of what I call good trouble), but she’s being tasked with something that mothers all have different levels of trouble with:accepting that her baby has flown from the nest, and that I’ve got my own pair of wings I can use to get aroundMy mom will probably never stop worrying completely, and that’s the curse she’s brought upon herself by caring for two boys as a single mother. We became her world, and when we left, she had to reconcile the fact that her little birds have flown from the roost. She’s really worrying less these days, but the only way we encouraged that behaviour was by living our lives more independently, and showing her that we’re responsible adults.There is no way to tell your mom to stop worrying. Every single method I’ve attempted that relies on language fails, and it always will fail. If your mom is overbearing… find a way to savour it, because she won’t be around forever, and that love she feels for you, that protective and caring spirit, is something so special that you should just accept it and find ways to have fun with it. If you’re still living at home with her, then you haven’t flown from the nest yet, and your mom worrying is a reflection of the fact that her instinct begs her to keep you safe and comfortable.One way to approach this with words would be to explain to your mom how dangerous stress is, and that you’re worried about her because her worry can encourage health problems for her, and you want her to live to see you get married and stuff. That might encourage her to focus her energy on just loving and supporting you, focusing on her own happiness, and stressing/worrying less. I highly doubt it, though; my mom hasn’t stopped worrying, though she certainly worries less now that I’ve been living away from home for so long.

I feel like my mom loves my sister more than me. How do I deal with that?

I sometimes feel the same way about my mother and sister, so I know what you are feeling very well.There are two things that happen in this case.It is possible that you are just guessing things and that your mother loves you both equally. In this case, try to talk to her that you feel this way. Talking helps. This way you'll understand what's the truth. If you usually don't share feelings with your mum and you feel uncomfortable talking about this, (I do), try to be stronger and try asking her. Or try talking to your sister.It is really that your mother loves your sister more. In this case, first comes acceptance. You have to accept the fact that she loves her more, and you have to understand that it's neither your, your mother's or your sister's fault. They can't choose who they like more. Also, understand that she loves you anyway. And that's what matters.I have a question for you.If there is a boat with your mum inside it and both you and your sister were drowning. Your mum can save only one person. Who will she save?You'd say, obviously, my sister. But that's the wrong answer. Here is what she will do. She will first put one of you on the boat and then ask you to help other one on the boat and she'll jump into the water, so that she can save you both. This is her love for her children.Usually, like 90% of times, parents love their children more than their lives. And maybe sometimes they love one child more than the other. They still love both unconditionally.I don't know if I am using the right words and example, but I hope you understand.Cheers! :)