Does my mom love my older sister more?
Back when I was 6 years old me and my older sister were loved equally and things were great well then when I turned 11 things changed (I'm not 11 anymore) well at age 11 my mom started asking my sister to go places with her and help her with things at first i didn't really care but then it happened more and more and I thought well why doesn't she ask me to go anywhere with her or for me to help her I'm sure I can do just as much of what my older sister can do and so the year went by and I turned 12 and my mom starts blaming me for all these things I didn't even do for example she said to me "pick up these dishes you left here". But it wasn't even me that did it she doesn't even ask if it was me or not even when mostly its my sister she just blames it on me right away she doesn't ever blame my sister when usually its always her she never even notices the good things I do she only somehow sees the bad things I do so she notices the good things my sister does but never the bad things she does ITS NOT FAIR so it breaks my heart to hear my mom and my sister laugh and make jokes but usually when I join in they stop and don't even talk and when I go away they get back with the laughing and joking even when I talk to my mom about this stuff she just says shutup your being annoying or I love you both the same (when really I can see she doesn't) she obviously loves my sister more and even when me and my sister fight she takes my sisters side immediatlly And my dad tries to take my side but my mom tries and usually does get him on my older sisters side so them I'm left there all alone with no one on my side I just wish somehow my mom could hear me out without yelling at me for once I just feel like we have already drifted away.......:(
Why does my mom love my sister more?
my sisters 11 and im not much older. (not saying my real age.) my mom always yells at me for attitude. like if im being sarcastic about something she yells at me and takes away my phone. but i tell her sorry and shes still mad at me. but my sister screams her head off to my mom and throws a huge fit and all my mom does is say stop it please! but my sister continues on with her attitude. my mom eventually goes up to her and says honey, please, could you stop? and hugs/kisses her! and when my sister steals something of mine (like my laptop! >:( ) i tell mom and my mom tells her to please give it back. but she doesnt give it back to me till i come over and rip it out of her hands. then she starts crying and my mom yells at me. (yes, i know i shouldnt take stuff from her but i aske her for 2 minutes straight and she still doesnt give it back.) but if i use my sisters jewelry and my sister tells on me my mom gets super mad at me and says GIVE THAT BACK TO YOUR SISTER RIGHT NOW DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and i do give it back. my mom lets my sister wear makeup. shes 11. SHES NOT EVEN IN MIDDLESCHOOL. i asked my mom if i could wear makeup in middleschool and shes like HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! if my sister calls me stupid or retarted my moms totally fine with it. but if i call her retarted my mom goes HEY DONT TALK TO YOUR SISTER THAT WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!1 APOLOGIZE RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!! and my sister gives me a "hah, im the best/favorite" kind of look. and then she fake cries when i refuse to apologize. im so freaking sick of my sis getting treated better and everything.
Why does my mom hate me but love my sister?
Anna, I feel for you!!Your’s is such a tough situation to be in!Is your mom cruel to you? Does she hit you and make your cry? Does she really hate you, or does she simply favor your sister?Maybe she shows you love in a certain way, like arrange art lessons for you? Does she provide a warm and safe home, with a clean home and food. Are you safe?My mom favored my sister. But I realize she also loved me, as she provided many good things for me. But things did not turn out well for my sister —My sister did really, really bad things. She messed up her life and the lives of our family members. My mom tried to show her love after that, but mom hurt sooo much on the inside, my sister caused her so much grief and heartache. Our whole family was blown apart — all of us scattered all over the country and barely speak to each other —So, if you are safe at home, and can stay out of harm’s way with your mom, do your very best in school so that you can get a good job and provide a living for yourself. Keep your focus on helping yourself get educated and ready to create the life you want when you are grown (be realistic, and keep it simple, not grandiose, okay?).Good luck!!
I feel like my mom loves my sister more than me. How do I deal with that?
I sometimes feel the same way about my mother and sister, so I know what you are feeling very well.There are two things that happen in this case.It is possible that you are just guessing things and that your mother loves you both equally. In this case, try to talk to her that you feel this way. Talking helps. This way you'll understand what's the truth. If you usually don't share feelings with your mum and you feel uncomfortable talking about this, (I do), try to be stronger and try asking her. Or try talking to your sister.It is really that your mother loves your sister more. In this case, first comes acceptance. You have to accept the fact that she loves her more, and you have to understand that it's neither your, your mother's or your sister's fault. They can't choose who they like more. Also, understand that she loves you anyway. And that's what matters.I have a question for you.If there is a boat with your mum inside it and both you and your sister were drowning. Your mum can save only one person. Who will she save?You'd say, obviously, my sister. But that's the wrong answer. Here is what she will do. She will first put one of you on the boat and then ask you to help other one on the boat and she'll jump into the water, so that she can save you both. This is her love for her children.Usually, like 90% of times, parents love their children more than their lives. And maybe sometimes they love one child more than the other. They still love both unconditionally.I don't know if I am using the right words and example, but I hope you understand.Cheers! :)
Why does everybody like my older sister more?
I have a sister that is just a year older then I, but everyone seems to gravitate more towards her than me. Sometimes, with both friends and family, I feel awfully left out. Most of my friends that we share tend to tell her secrets rather than I. And they also judge our maturity levels by our ages (which isn't accurate) and she always gets more attention and gets the first hugs. With my family, I think my patents are great, but they just naturally give my sister more attention. For example, I might come home from school and get a "How was your day?" and that's about it. For my sister, they want to hear all about her and discuss things. Also, I know that they made it this huge deal that she moved on to high school, but I know it will not be so important for me. Not even close. So yes, our personalities are similar buy differ a little bit. She is very passionate, likes to look pretty, is a leader, and is very talkitive and outgoing. She also has some good friends but has some drama. For me, I am more down to earth and not as talkative but I have great friends who never fight, which I wouldn't trade for the world. I, my whole life, have never been very talkative because I always stepped into the background and let her take center stage, if you will. We both get very good grades and are equally pretty (accoring to a lot of people, who mistake us for twins sometimes). So yeah, if anyone out there has a similar situation, please tell me about it. You're not alone! Also, I really love my life and friends so much and I am so blessed to have these things, but at the end of the day, being a third-wheel is what usually brings me down. Thanks for reading all that! I know it was long but I think it might help. Thank you!
My mom hates me and favors my older sister?
I have already asked this question, I got answers that told me to talk to her, but that didnt work. the other answer assumed I am the oldest but I am the youngest. my mom gets sooo mad at me for little things, but my older sister gets away with everything. My sister does no chores, and I do a ton but whenever I dont they get mad at me, but when my sister doesnt they just tell me to "give her a break". my sister constantly makes huge messes that I have to pick up, and whenever she's crabby my mom tells me just to stay out of her way, but when I am upset my mom says " lets all hide, your gettting all heated up". I might not even be mad but this provokes me and makes me mad. I am sick of having the door slammed in my face while my sister is spoken to in a nice tone and I am yelled at. even thogh I get $10 for allowance and she doesnt, whenever she wants money she gets $20 or more forked out to her, but my mom tells me to "use my allowance".I feel like I hate my mom but I dont want to.
Why do my parents love my older sister but not me?
Everyday I see my mom talk to my older sister about things but she doesn't even talk to me except to yell at me. My sister is a total jerk and she'll act really mean to me so when I "talk back" to her I get in trouble. My dad obviously loves my sister more and he'll get mad at me. My family always picks on me and honestly I don't feel like living anymore. Everyday I think about suicide.. I don't know why my parents don't love me because I get good grades in school and I have a 5.0 gpa. When I'm at school, the teachers generally like me and no I'm not one of those snobby kids. I like to joke around in class and I would think that my classmates like me. But I'm really not sure about any of this since who would like me if my own parents don't even like me? My sister never got good grades, she talks back to them, she yells at them, she bullies me, she doesn't do any chores and I try my best to be the opposite. My parents still don't love me. About a month ago, my own mother called me and abomination and said I was the problem of the family. I already knew that they blamed me for everything but she outright said it then. Everyday I'll think about killing myself but then I don't want to disappoint God by taking my own life. So I pray to God everyday that I won't wake up the next morning but of course I wake up again to find myself in this lonely world. I know I'm depressed but then I've been depressed for like 2years now. I tell my parents about my feelings and they're nice to me for like a week and things go back the way they were. I think everyone at school thinks I have a perfect life but I don't. I would trade my intelligence, my athletic abilities, my arms and my legs to have my parents love me.. But I feel they will never love me. Maybe the world will be better off without me. Maybe my family will be happy with me out of the picture. Help me.
I think my mom favors my older sister over me....?
I don't get what your question is since I don't know your mom. You sister probably has a bit more freedom since she's older - maybe you feel like she's getting favored because of that. Also, if your sister isn't around as much - going to college, working, etc., maybe your mom is anxious to spend extra time with her because she knows your sister will be out of the house and on her own soon.