When a parent dies who pays for the funeral?
Their estate and/or life insurance. It should say in the will.
Would you attend the funeral of a family member that you hate or were estranged from?
Probably not.But not because of my anger or bad feeling for them. It's because I don't go to funerals.Funerals bring out the worst in my family. And by worst I mean fist fights, arguing, and possible violence.After my mother died, my dad had his own ideas about my mother's funeral. He was going to have her cremated and was very focused on getting the right urn. (My mother's family was very upset about the cremation.)The informal veiwing was suppose to be at 1pm. But on the day of the viewing is when my dad decided to have us drive him all over the city looking for that urn. So 1pm turns to 2pm, 2pm turns to 3pm, and so on til it is 4pm. My mother's family was stuck waiting in the parking lot because my dad told the funeral director to not let people see her until he gets there. (My dad is an asshole sometimes and he was loving it that he was in charge of something.)So we pull up at 4pm and everybody is angry. Of course, me being the 23 year old know-it-all loud mouth, yell out to everyone to calm down. Well that just lit the already hot fuze. People starting yelling back and forth. My very large 18 year old male cousin starts charging at me. My brother stops him and they get into a fist fight. Half of the family storms out without seeing my mother. The other half stays and views my mother.Who ever did my moms autopsy must of been in a hurry. We saw every cut line and every stitch. They were even visible through her clothing. Also her body reeked of embalming fluid.I have been to a few family funerals after that event. And although nothing happened as drastic as what happened at my mother's funeral, there was still some bickering and fighting.I will not attend any more funerals. I told my husband if I die before him- he is not to have a viewing and just cremate me. My family just can not handle funerals.
Who does the flag go to at a military funeral?
My grandfather-in-law passed away New Year's Eve. He was survived by 3 daughters. The flag and bullets were given to the youngest child, is that right way...or does it matter?
Sister's father in law funeral: should my wife attend?
My sister and I live in the same city (ten minutes apart) in the US. We have half a dozen family get-togethers a year, often at her house. We are not especially close, although we used to be. My sister's father in law passed away after more than five years of assisted living - we saw him at parties maybe two or three times a year. He had been a well educated and respected and beloved professional. But, in retirement he was hit hard by Altzheimers. My wife of over 15 years doesn't want to go to the funeral, which will be very close, or at least within an hour's drive of our home. She said that she had no relationship with the man. I think it is best for family relationships that my wife go to the funeral, even though we had no relationship with my sister's father in law. After all, we are going for my sister and for family, not out of respect for the deceased. Why do I think my wife should go? Because people should support their spouse's family (in my opinion). She has reluctantly agreed to go, just because I insisted that she go. I NEVER insist she do ANYTHING. She said (correctly) that this was entirely out of character for me. Her unwillingness to go is very typical of her attitude towards my family - she almost always skips family functions even if they are always just ten minutes from our home. She knows how I spend a lot of time with my family, even though it's not always easy. Who is out of line here?