Does She Look Dangerously Thin

Why do people say I (and I would guess others) look thin when I’m at least seven lbs overweight according to desirable weight charts even using the medium frame, when I think I’m small frame? Are these charts unrealistic?

Well, without seeing you and doing some body fat measurements (which you should do for yourself, as they are a much better indicator of body health than charts based on weight alone), I can’t answer directly about you.What I have noticed, however, is that the general population has developed a strange view of body health when it comes to size:If you look around, the average waistline is steadily increasing in most countries. Speaking specifically for the US, over half of us are overweight at this point. So that does something to the average persons perception of what a “normal” weight and size is. Someone who isn’t very muscular but also doesn’t have much fat on them is going to look REALLY small compared to the national average, and people are likely to think that person is underweight. Perception is a funny thing like that.So, my advice to you is to trust nutritionists and scientists who know what the human body SHOULD look like, rather than listening to the often flawed perception of the general population.To be sure, go get some calipers and measure your body fat percentage. You can use that to determine your “healthy weight” far more accurately that how other people see you.

Why is it generally acceptable to tell a woman she’s too thin, but it’s considered rude and insensitive to tell a woman she’s overweight?

Both are not okay.Our sick fashion industry encourages women to look like 14 year old little boys. Just so the clothes look better. I would hire new fashion designer who can actually make clothes that look good on a human body… but hey… why do things the logical and easy way? It made us believe “thin” was a compliment. And that “too thin” was like “too rich” … lucky thin girls.Then we get different men saying they like curvy. Yet, curvy is never the actual women in the street. Have you noticed? It’s Kardashian curvy, or Pamela Anderson (10 years ago) curvy; never mom-curvy or size 14+ curvy. We call those curvy women “real women”. As opposed to thin women, who are … not real? Fashion industry tells us a size 10 is “plus size”. I know women who would murder a puppy for that size! Let me put that a different way. We have a collective delusion about what is a healthy body type for a woman. (The answer is: it depends on the woman. There are many different ways to look and still be healthy.)Women of all sizes are put down for the way they look. Their boobs are too small or too slutty, their ass is too flat, too thick, too skinny. There is not a visible body part that isn’t plucked apart by fashion, media and —since 2016 — the US President. Our bodies are up for grabs, objects to be commented on and shredded by popular opinion.After becoming a mom, I put on about 15–20 pounds. I got comments on my weight. I lost 5 pounds and family started saying I should stop, because my face was suffering (it wasn’t). Then I lost another 10 pounds and I started hearing I was too skinny (I’m not). I started fitness and I get complete strangers telling me that they don’t fancy muscles on a woman (what the actual f-?).I am lucky that I work out for myself. I want to feel better about myself and stronger. I have the goal of being able to do pull-ups. I am lucky that my husband is totally on board with getting fitter and has joined me. Because outside, in the world, I am too fat and too thin and to feminine and to muscular or too old (I’m not even 40 yet… sheesh!). I hear it all, in the space of a week.So, to get back to your question. It’s not okay. It’s never okay. People should leave your fat ass or skinny boobs or big nose or long hair or skin color or weird toes alone. They are not topics for strangers to wildly comment on. And if we were men, people would respect it. But we are women and there will always be people who think they can criticize our bodies to pieces.

Why do people think it is ok to tell someone he/she is too thin?

Why do people think it is ok to tell someone they are too thin? Because they genuinely believe they are helping. You might not have noticed you are too thin, who knows.I for once haven't had noticed it for quite some time (almost 30 years). I have always been told that I am too thin, that I look like a walking skeleton. I was told by my family that this (both my looks and people's comments) are normal, that it runs in the family, that this is the way we are.Long story short, turns out I am anorexic and it really does run in the family, but it is not normal at all and least of all healthy. I've been working hard on learning to eat normally, healthy and enough. It's hard, really hard, takes time and effort (like everything good in life).So next time someone makes a remark on your body weight, remember it's not because they want to offend you, make you feel bad or anything*. It's never about you, it's about them - your appearance unsettles them for some reason and they want to do something to help you with it. So don't take it personally, take it as a feedback, they might be right, they might be wrong. But before you react, just give it a thought.I look back on all the comments I've received when I was dangerously underweight and all my first-signal reactions to dismiss, to get angry, to hurl back something about the other person's weight. I see my mistakes and I see how ignorant and blind I've been, how these people meant to express nothing more but concern for my health.I've gotta try this sometimes - to go to a random anorexic-looking girl on the street and tell her she might be overlooking some aspects of her health. Just to see what's it like to be on the giving end of the feedback, not on the receiving one as I've always been. Just to feel what it's like to be dismissed or shouted at for wanting to help.*Unless they are some genuinely bad person, which very few people are.