I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
She says she loves me but has a boyfriend?
"...she says she loves me and that im all she thinks about..." "...but she has a boyfriend and wont leave him. " Okay, let's be objective here. She SAYS she loves you. She has a boyfriend and is not going to leave him for you. Which one is true? Both can't be true at the same time right? Either she loves you or she doesn't. And if she truely loves you enough she would have no problem leaving her bf. But since she is not leaving her boyfriend... I'll let you come up with your own conclusion. Talk is cheap my friend. "I love you" is the easiest thing for a girl to say, but by itself most often it means nothing, just words. Action on the other hand can be seen with your eyes and there's a reason why they say action speaks louder than words. As nice a girl as she might be, she is definitely enjoying the ego boost that you are giving her. It is empowering to a girl to know that a smile and a few kind words can send a guy head over heels all over her. But really why she is doing this to you should not matter to you, because it doesn't change the fact that you are not the love of her life. What you should do is decide on how to deal with this matter. Stay and be at her beck n call and get no reciprecation of the love you yearn from her except a kiss here and a bug there and a few "I love you"s. Or move on and grow out of it and find a girl whose words are consistent with her actions.
My friend told me she loves me, did she mean it as a friend or more?
A year ago a friend of mine told me she loved me, and i took it as a friendship type love even though i was kinda confused if it was a more serious level of love. I've liked her since 7th grade and were in 10th grade now. She doesn't know i like her. I'm wondering if when a girl tells you they love you do they really mean it or are they just expressing friendship type love? She said it in a pretty serious way like she was holding it in. Now i'm kinda worried cause i might have lost my chance since it was a year ago. From that time our friendship has grown but by not that much.
I like my best friend more than she likes me..?
Like Stacy said, talking with her is the best way to communicate what you both are feeling. Maybe she doesn't know that you're concerned about your friendship.It does seem like you're a tad jealous, but that happens to everybody. She may have concerns of her own that she wants to talk about with you. It's hard to start talking about things like that, so I'm sure she'd appreciate it if you were the one to bring it up. It's best to learn now how to have difficult conversations. I hate to say it, but friends this early usually don't last after high school. At least my graduated friends don't really keep in touch. If you can practice on them now, you'll be a pro when you get to college, are dating, and eventually (hopefully) get married. Heck, even when you have kids or need to talk with inlaws or lousy neighbors. It's a great skill to have! Hope that helps! Good luck! :D
My girlfriend has a male best friend. She says she loves both of us, but in different ways. Should I be worried? They live in different cities, but they FaceTime every night and she gets upset when they don't. She leaves my call to talk with him.
i couldnt help but write this, been there, and i guess many of us have been there.its easier said than done right, that dont worry, trust her, know your importance and stuffs like that.question here: should i be worried?, i guess you are already worried, so i would say just leave, see being a mature person we know that relationships can be tough, but this is something which is unnecessarily bothering you,the same happened to me and things got real bad,very bad.and honestly we ae not “jealous”,”insecure” or whatever tag you want to label us with, but there are few ethics which needs to be in place, anywhere, be it work, friends, family, there are ethics. we do get that you are really good friends(besties as they say),he is very imp in your life,and we know our place in your life too.but ethics,thats the word i guess thats missing.people say dont change anyone in love”, thats ‘cliched’, somethings needs to be changed, and this is perhaps one aspect of your girlfriend that needs to be changed, period.the biggest irony here is, she would not like it one bit if you did the same,will she?even if you really love this woman, the best thing i would say is just leave man,period.i have had countess hours of discussions and fights over this,same situation(diff cities,facetime etc), nothing is worth more than your peace of mind.talk to her,ask her what you want her to do, and if that doesnt happen.just leave man,its not worth it. you will be ok, and i guess she would be okey too.to all the ladies who come across this,i mean no offence when i say this,’treat us as you want to be treated, you wouldnt like it if your boyfriend did the same”.thankyouP.s:for one thing i could not imagine was myself living a life,where i would wake up to kiss my wife/girlfriend, come back home to her, just to see her on facetime with her “bestie”..and ya..biggest facepalm moment: that so called bestie(whosoever) is always a single guy!!
When a girl you love says that she loves you but loves you as a friend, what does it mean?
I will share my experience. I met a girl who said the same thing. We were best friends. She was very open and extrovert and talk to lot of guys. But it didn't matter to me much as I also consider her as good friend. Though there was always a doubt in my mind as she was standing on the overlapping region of my acquaintance and friend circle. We used to talk a lot and she used to say that she loves me alot and we will be friends forever and blah blah... I believed her. But down the line things became complicated and we got into a fight and after that everything changed. The reason is simply that she met one of her friend after 4 months they really talked and after she came back she told he is one of her closest friend and she loves him a lot. That caused some unrest in me that she used to say every person it was not a big deal for her. Though I was cautious enough not to fall in the love trap as i was afraid of rejection. However, she told me that she had developed more than friend type feelings for me. But after the fight she was like she didn't damn about me and worse thing for me to digest the coming fact that I never knew'd her even after more than year of friendship plus she never kept her any words. Fast forward ...to give out the blunt truth , it means she only needs you as for emotional support like at time of hugging, sharing feelings when she is depressed , no other person give her shit, or just for time pass and more for various world reasons. There is a possibility that dosent give a damn about you. I was frustrated with fact of being rejected and further of not knowing the person whom you thought of best friend. There was so thoughts clashes, assumptions etc that was just tiring. In time i realized it was just the waste of time and not worth that all. Universe have spent created 13 billion years in creating us, we just cant control it back. Only the wrong person teaches us the right thing. I will suggest you to keep things clear and set the limits as well. Give yourself the utmost priority while taking any strong decision. Just chill and enjoy various phases of life.
This girl always says I'm her best friend and she says she loves me and I like her, am I getting friend zoned?
you know , the answer is , she do not want to lose you , and want you to be just her friend but i bet you she will never be happy if you try to impress some other girl instead of her.you can do two things ,first try to talk with her , tell her straight about your feelings , and ask her do she feel same for you , if she yes then , take her to date , and post your love story on quora.but if she say no then ,go with second option,but before going on second option , first make sure that do you really love her and if you really do , then ,cut her off from your life immediately , she is using you as friend , for emotional support , if she is upset she will come for you , if she need support she will come to you , but if she wants to hang out then she will go with his boyfriend.dude are you born only for this , you have parents work for them ,they must have lot of expectation from you , study hard , work on your body , and give time to girl who gives her time to you.believe me , when you cut her off from your life , study hard , and give time to your friends, parents and some other girl(who likes you) , your life become heaven for you , because then you live for yourself , live for the people who deserves your love(your parents and friends) , and then she will ultimately find out that , you are the right guy for her and if she didn’t , even then you will feel proud for yourself.you have only one life , instead of giving someone all , and getting nothing in return , do something which will give you the return , of what you have invested.it’s your life and your choice , choose carefully.
I like a girl but she only likes me as a friend.?
Girls sometimes dont tell their friends their crushes because they dont want evvvveryone to know and sometimes girls can have guy friends that they like more but fear if they say anything it will ruin the relationship become closer friends with this girl and see if she sends you any signals that she likes you more than a friend! hope this heellllpssssssssssssss
What does it mean if he says he likes you more than a friend?
That means he what you to be his girlfriend and go out, because he like you a lot.