How do I, as an ugly woman, deal with the negative stares and comments others give me?
The negative stares and comments tells you more about them than it does about you. Everyone, and I do mean every single one of us, have strengths and limitations. Some are visible some are not. It sounds like you may have the “visible” kind. OK, now what, what do you want to do with it? There are all sorts of ways to make yourself (male or female) presentable in society. Take care of yourself and that is sufficient.Personally, I am offended by people who engage in the types of things you have said and implied. I think far less of them than I do of the person they are finding fault with. And you know what, I think that most people, including you, are like this. The social bully is despised in our culture. We all know it and sympathize with you, not them. Anyone who does less is not worth knowing or associating with. I think that you should know that, almost all of us are on your side. We just keep our mouths shut and wait for “those” people to get what they deserve. We will even help them along to their fate given the opportunity.You are not alone or rejected by the vast majority of humanity, most of us can see the beauty inside.
Why does this guy give me cold, long stares?
I have had the same experience as you. I have this one classmate of mine that stares at me a lot with an expressionless face that I sometimes ward off as “creepy.”Some guys can really really like you that they’re scared to even admit it to you for the fear of rejection. So, in order not to get rejected by you, they stare at you with an expressionless face hoping that you’ll get their message (In fact, you don’t). If you really find his stares creepy, then you can either directly confront him about it or avoid him as much as possible. Guys like this can be outgoing on the outside but really shy on the inside.But really, they can creep you out a lot if they manage to do that every single day.Goodluck.
What does it mean when a guy stares at you whenever you smile or laugh?
We're in middle school. Me and my crush are really close and good friends. Anyways, I have noticed that in a while that everytime I smile or laugh he always seems to stare. Like on Friday my friend (a guy) was making me laugh and while I was laughing my crush had turned around and he started smiling. Later on that day my same friend made me laugh again in the classroom and he was looking at me while I was laughing. Also, he gives me blank stares. Like that day I was smiling to myself because I was thinking about something and I hadn't noticed that I was looking at my crush while I was smiling but he was actually staring at me with a blank stare with his mouth slightly opened. So, what does it mean when a guy stares at you whenever you smile or laugh? Please, no negative comments.
How can i ignore someones insults and negative comments?
I know how this can hurt, but it really doesn't have anything to do with you at all. The things these people say tell a lot about them but nothing about you at all. These comments do not describe nor define you. It is just nonsense noise made by rude unintelligent people. The only way this nonsense can have any affect on you is if you take the nonsense to heart. If I walked up to you on the street and called you a duck billed platypus, would it hurt your feelings? Or would you just laugh at me and think that I was crazy? You would just see me as a confused person talking nonsense in your vicinity. The people who are insulting you are just confused people talking nonsense in your vicinity. The only difference is you are taking the nonsense that they are talking seriously. Why?
How do I stop letting people's negative comments toward me affect me so much?
Self-knowledge and a framework for what you value and where you are going will allow you to decide how seriously to take the negative comments of others.Some negative comments are opportunities for a self-check, a window to personal growth. Even if the person is being snarky, that doesn’t mean they don’t have a point! If you think they MAY have a point, respond to them in honest inquiry about their feelings on your presentation or behavior, and consider what they have said in respect to your own self-knowledge and plans for personal development. The snarks will feel heard, and like you a bit better.The people who seriously object to something you are or do will also feel heard, and best yet, you can find out what it is that you present or do that is genuinely offensive to others, perhaps even only this ONE other, and smooth your way in the world.We are all in this world together, and getting along is a good thing, but if you find that the comments of others do not match your self knowledge, and that considering the comment, you have not made an error in your own self knowledge, then dismiss it from your mind: They are merely mistaken. If someone says, “You are xxxx!” and reflection reveals that what you are is just not doing what they prefer, and that is not what you think is good, never mind that comment.If you find that the comment does not tend in the direction of the personal growth that you value, then that comment has no value for you. Dismiss it from your mind, or respond in a friendly manner that you really do not value being or doing whatever they suggest you should. If someone says, “You would be SO much more attractive if you did what I say more often and easily,” you can just disagree with that, and not feel the least defective for preferring to act as on your own judgement and priorities.People criticize others for many reasons. Sometimes you bug them - and that is a real thing about getting along, sometimes you reveal through contrast that they are not as lovely as they would like to feel - that is not your problem, sometimes they are finding you difficult to use - also not your problem, sometimes they are just jealous - not your problem.Try and figure out why people make negative comments. Act on them only if they are of value to you.
Why does everyone always give me mean looks?
Why does almost everyone in public give me strange looks or mean looks as if I did something awful to them? It's ridiculous. People always give me looks as if I give off some sort of negative vibe, or some sort of evil spirit inside of me. But it's gotten to the point where I can no longer overlook it. I'm not even looking at people and I can see them staring at me and it just doesn't make sense anymore. I'm the nicest person ever and it's becoming too overbearing. Because of this constant staring and mean glares I get from random people in public, I'm way too anxious to go out in public (alone at least). It's much different when I'm with a friend in public, but when I'm by myself, I get mean looks from people usually when they're with their friends... Some things to consider.. -I'm African American (But I don't present myself as a sterotypical African American) -I dorm in a building in the city of Chicago that has mostly weird, pretentious, art students -I don't exactly carry a smile on my face 24/7 when I'm in public Is anyone else in the same boat with me? Or am I alone on this? I literally don't know anymore. I went to go to get dinner downstairs in a good mood, but this literally set me in a bad mood only because it happens every single time. I literally predicted it would happen before I even went downstairs. Even plugging in headphones and listening to music didn't help... :\ Help?!
What does it mean when you tell a guy you like him and he smiles?
i recently told this gut i liked him,i always go to his house and he always throws me little comments and he always stares at me,and when he makes a joke he sometimes looks to me to see if i laugh.I told him i needed to talk to him and told him i came to his house to tell him i lked him and he paused then looked at me and smiled and said really and i said yeahh and he said are you serious and i said yeahh and the whole time he's smiling and he asked me what are we going to do now and i said idkk and he said do you want to kiss and i said idkk and he leaned down and kissed me then said that's all your gonna get for now,Then i stated that i was leaving and he smiled and said okay and then turned and looked at me and said he doesnt kno what to say but he was still smiling what does it mean should i keep pursuing or give up!? help
People staring and trying to make me feel small because of my afro?
I use to have an afro like Angela Davis and I got alot of stares, jeers but I also got alot of compliments, suprisingly from folks that didn't look like me. America has this misconception that hair is suppose to look a certain way to be acceptable or normal, however, how people look at you shouldn't matter. They are probably jealous because they don't have hair like yours, or ignorant because they have been brainwashed by a society and says straight hair is the right hair. Its funny how Willie Lynch and his efforts still effect us today. He used tactics to put Slaves against themselves, and hair was one of them. 100s of years have passed yet we still are still on the same self destructive behavior. Strut your AFRO and be proud and free!! You go girl!
What is the way to stay happy when someone keeps on saying negative things about you all the time without any reason?
There are many times when people derive sadistic pleasure when you get pissed off. They will keep on bombarding you with negative thoughts.You wonder why they are doing that all the time.Some reasons why:They are just bored.They want some reaction to their actions. They know when you get pissed off, you will react. Your reaction is their fuel.They want to pull you down.“Brother, this exam is not your cup of tea. Only some clear it. You won't be able to. You must think of other alternatives worth your capabilities.”How to be happy in these situations?Now, you know the reasons. The key to happiness lies there itself. When you know why they do what they do. You will always smile at them, no matter how negative the comments.Smiling at negative comments, staring them in the eye will make them check their words. Probably, they will stop doing it.Rhetorical statements don't matter without actions.When you know you will clear an exam, you cannot help but smile when you are bombarded with negative comments.Build some self confidence.When you know you are doing the right things. Negative things just brush past you.There are many popular writers on Quora who get mean negative comments on every post of their’s. They report them and move forward.Trust yourself. Rest assured, all other things will be taken care of.AImage source- Bombarded with Negativity All Day.