Girls only like me as a friend?
Alright buddy, hang in there. You're already on the right track because you've recognized the major issue - you're too nice. You've allowed yourself to become "that guy". A lot of ladies polls will tell you that the most important thing to most girls is a sense of humor. That it BS.Humor IS important, (I'm a comedian, so I know) but the single most attractive thing to a girl is CONFIDENCE. Not arrogance, mind you. Now, some guys will tell you to be a jerk to girls. This DOES work on a certain type of girl, but the downside is, well, you have to be a jerk. You sound like you really like some of these ladies, so they deserve to treated better than that, right? You CAN do well with girls and not be an a hole. You just need to understand that being overtly attentive and nice is WORSE than being rude! Your brain is conditioned to see the formula as "I want something from her, therefore I should be extra nice to her." Logical, but it seems kind of when silly spelled out like that, doesn't it? There's a line between total jerk and doormat. Continue to open doors, be courteous, but also mess with her a little bit. Tease her about a crappy song she likes and enjoy the little play arguments. For god's sake, disagree with her from time to time! You obviously have a couple of brain cells to rub together, so use 'em! Be interesting. As for those "wonderful female friends" of yours - forget it for now. You've already been cast in that role. So you need to meet new girls. But succeeding with them is kind of a catch 22: you need to gain some confidence. The best way to get that confidence is by succeeding with girls. But to get the girls, you need confidence. This loop can be transcended. Its not pretty, but it works. You need to quietly concentrate on QUANTITY over quality for a little while. In short, lower your standards, gain as much experience as you can, and you will be a new man. Actually, you won't be a new man. We don't want you to be a new man. We want you to be the best YOU that is possible. That will get you started. There is much more, but I'll be there when the time comes . . .
Why do girls only like me as a friend?
It's your personality. You need to think about 3 thingsFirstly, what is the content of what your talking to them about? Are you being overly helpful or too kind? Are you trying too hard? Because women can tell, they can sense it and it makes you a great guy to keep as back up. Secondly, tone is exceptionally important, the voice combined with the way you deliver words creates a huge impact. Look at some Ryan gosling chick flicks or watch cruel intentions to get an idea of what I mean. Notice how they modify their tones and use it both to create charisma and entice the other person to feel the need to please them. Thirdly, if you like a girl, draw your line in the same early before she gets a chance to friend zone you. If she tells you she sees you as a friend, politely decline and let her know you have enough friends and wish her the best of luck. Be brave about this, because you have to be firm and not relent. Incase your not sure about how to ask a girl out, the simplest most effective thing to say is "hey, I think we should go out on a date sometime, maybe catch a movie grab some dinner. I think it would be fun"
Why do girls only see me as a friend?
I've had girlfriends before and I have been told that I am good looking. I know I have looks. I also have a great personality. But I am a nice guy who actually treats girls with respect. Because of this I believe that girls only see me as a friend. It's just not in me to be an "*** hole" type which girls seem to want. It's like relationships no longer matter. Love no longer exists. What the hell? Has it always been a myth? Have we really been misled in books, movies, and by our very heart's desires? Or is a "good relationship" something that has existed before and is now in the past? Has human culture moved beyond intense, deep, loving monogamous relationships? Because I am not going to play this ridiculous, polygamous, and unfulfilled "sex game" that everyone seems to be so desirous of these days. I am tired of just sex this and sex that. Yes I have had sex many times but that is all women want these days. They just want to move on after a month or so. Have I been born in the wrong era to desire a real relationship? Even the girls who want a relationship like I do seem to only see me as a friend. I have no idea why. Like I said there is nothing wrong with me. It's like something about my aura repulses them from wanting a romantic connection. I am always "just a friend". I have many friends who are girls but none of them see me as someone they want a relationship with. Not a single one. It's almost paranormal the way I always end up as the "friend."
I like a girl but she only likes me as a friend.?
Girls sometimes dont tell their friends their crushes because they dont want evvvveryone to know and sometimes girls can have guy friends that they like more but fear if they say anything it will ruin the relationship become closer friends with this girl and see if she sends you any signals that she likes you more than a friend! hope this heellllpssssssssssssss
Does she like me or is she just being a friend?
> The very same act can mean flirting or being friendly. So it’s sometimes impossible to distinguish on the surface.She might be friendly, without the intention to flirt, and you can still interpret it as flirting; then act as if you did interpret it so (= act flirty yourself). If there is chemistry, it actually *becomes* flirting, regardless of her initial intentions. You shouldn’t need to try too hard to see if she wants to play along or not. If she doesn’t, her initial intentions are clear (or she’s shy and/ or didn’t think about you that way - yet)She might actually be flirting with you. If you think so, there is a good chance she is. All you have to do is be light- hearted and play along. Be funny, positive and respectful (playful teasing/ antagonism can be in that category, though) and you will have nothing to lose. Immature (young or otherwise) women might not be able to deal with a friendly flirt and become dismissive, but that’s not your issue to fix.> Sometimes it IS possible to tell what her intentions are by reading her body language. This ability is a skill you have to practice. If you know the person well, it’s easier to do.Generally speaking, if she’s interested in you and wants to communicate it subtly through flirting, some general signs are: Looking at you often (briefly or not), sizing you up, looking at you lips - then the eyes - and possibly back, talking to you with her body faced in your direction, mirroring your body language, changes in her voice as opposed to her normal tone/pace of voice, abundant laughter even at your worst jokes, shyness, redness of face and many more.—-I would go with the first option and try flirting myself to check where the interaction is heading. Body language & mood reading will still be necessary then.
Why do you girls want guy friends as only friends?
well i am a girl and i love my guy friends. but most of them, i wouldn't date. usually when a girl becomes friends with a guy, she enters the friendship with a set frame of mind whether she would date him or not, and if the purpose of the friendship is to eventually become *more* than friends. its 50/50 whether it is or not, and it's confusing, believe me i know. but girls like being just friends with guys because it's less pressure than with other girls, and there are things that we don't have to worry about with guys that are harder with our girlfriends, so that's another reason. don't just stop being friends with a girl if she says she doesn't like you in that way. keep the friendship up, because having friends that are girls WILL do you favors with the other girls, especially in the long run. ;)
She only sees me as a friend.?
For years I have been in love with a friend, I recently told her how I felt and she says she doesnt see me that way. She told me she once had feelings for me and said anything is possible in the future. What does this mean? is this just a way of letting me down gently because I would wait for her my whole life if there was a possibility. Its been so hard since I told her (a couple of days ago) and I can no longer enjoy anything I cannot even listen to music I love because it makes me think of her, everything I love in life makes me think of her. Can anyone give me some advice on this please?
I love this girl, but she thinks of me as her best friend. How do I escape? Ps. She knows I like her.
This is a secret, the secret of getting out of the friendzone!! Shhhhh!! So I will describe it step by step. And this is a self tested technique I have used several times. (It could also get you the girl but you may as easily loose her)Become her best friend.Tell her your deep dark secrets. (Like family stuff)Be there for her. Go out of your way to support her. Make her completely dependent on you. Ask her out. (Don't say you love her, just tell her you have started seeing her differently and you are not able to control yourself)If she says yes, yay!!If she says no. Start avoiding her.Avoid her some more. And just a tad bit more. (Don't overdo it, she might find someone else; plenty of fish in the sea for her)Untill she really really absolutely needs you. Then come to the rescue. Now she will definitely ask you why you have been avoiding her, tell her 'everytime you see her it hurts.' (HIMYM)Tell her you cannot be her friend anymore and this was the last time you are going to be there for her. If she likes you back, she won't let this happen. If she doesn't. You never really had a chance (sorry)To my experience, here is when you should strike the blow. Tell her that she should consider going out with you once, if she doesn't she might regret that she lost something real.If she does like you, this should do the trick. In reality, if a girl really likes you but has kept you in the friendzone, it's not really her fault.,It's your!! Have the guts to just ask her out, face the rejection and simply walk away. I have been in the friendzon because even after being rejected I stuck along being her friend and helping her out in the hope that she might fall in love with me by seeing how great I am. While she flirted with other guys, and eventually started dating someone else.So the gist of it is, if she wants you, she won't let you walk away. If she doesn't, well, good for you!!