Does This Person Sound Arrogant

How can I sound less arrogant?

A truly arrogant person's response to this criticism would have been something like, "HA! You just proved that you're unable to keep up with my brilliance, dimwit!" and you might have  come to Quora asking everyone to agree that that this person is wrong to think you arrogant when you were only more "right" than them.  That being said, it's possible you actually did think you were more right than them in that particular instance. If so, then the way you stop sounding arrogant is to consciously consider their perspective as at least equal to what you know, or useful in addition to your own. And if they're way off base and don't have enough context to understand why, to assume their perspective offers a chance to learn more about them. If you always "know" then when do you stop to learn? Beyond this, your question proves that you have at least enough humility to question your approach. I think you have a reasonable amount of balance in your character, and are unlikely to be consistently arrogant, especially if you moderate how you think about the person in front of you. The alternative explanation for this situation is that they are the arrogant one, and they can't stand it that you aren't admiring them as they feel they deserve, so they tried to chop you down to size by critiquing your attitude. The problem with insults is that usually when something seems deserving of comment, there are three fingers pointing back at the person pointing out the problem. We're all rather sensitive to our own flaws and prefer to blame them on others, and that includes me.

How do you deal with a mean, rude and arrogant person?

Well, I feel obliged to answer this question because I've been remarked on my 'rudeness' and 'arrogance' before. I guess you can take me as a prototype of 'not really bad at heart, but can't deal with some things' people. Well, the most striking mistake that people make is that they think that the rude person is not aware of how rude he sounds or behaves. Believe me, he knows. The thing is, you have to give him space. Know that people who have had different experiences in their past behave differently because they see things differently. No one is ever capable of understanding anyone else's pain, and it's ok. Just give him his space. If you're his well wisher, see to it that he never feels that he's got no friends. Be with him in times of hardships and I promise you'll see a new man. Most importantly, leave him alone when he wants to be left alone. If you want to know someone, the first step is to know when to leave him alone. And yes, forgive him for his rudeness. No one enjoys being bad to others. No one except psychopaths.

How does one become less arrogant?

I am known to be quite arrogant and insufferable. For a long time, I thought this was just me being me. That's the problem with arrogance, even after you know that you are arrogant, it often makes you think that 'its your character'. Plus, a lot of really cool people on the movies are arrogant and cocky. This adds to the delusion. You start equating arrogance with natural behavior. Well, that's rubbish. It took me a really long time to realize that, kudos to you for already being at that point! Your journey is more than half done! Personally, I think that 'talking less and thinking more' is the best way of dealing with it. Arrogance gets exhibited in many ways - through words, actions, facial signs, laughter etc but the most common and hurtful way is through your words. If you learn to talk only when talked to, you will realize that there is so much more time to think over your words and tone. Make an effort to censor yourself initially. Make an effort to put yourself in the shoes of the other person and how you would react if you heard something arrogant. Before brashly declaring something, ask yourself - 'Are you on firm ground here?' Personally, I am lucky to know some really self-confident but humble people. So I often ask myself, how would that person react in this situation? Because you don't want to sound too humble and betray your convictions. It's all about finding that balance but over time you will get there and realize that being humble is so refreshing and enriching.

I am the only smart guy at my work, not to sound arrogant. Should I be proud of myself?

Intelligence is inborn, like being tall; it's not something to be ashamed or proud of. It's what you DO with it that matters.The question isn't whether or not you're the smartest guy around, but whether you're happy and content doing this job and with these colleagues. Since your question suggests otherwise (if you were happy it wouldn't matter), use your intelligence to improve your situation, like finding a more challenging job with more inspiring colleagues.

According to my friends, I can sound arrogant sometimes. The problem is I'm fairly confident and outgoing. How can I stop from sounding so full of myself when I'm really just kidding?

Most people are so afraid of being seen as arrogant, they can confuse it with confidence. Those same people will project their perception of what that looks like on another, so anything done or said with conviction can often be seen by others as arrogance. There is a difference and only you will know the truth. Most people when feeling powerful, have allowed their experience (in the moment of feeling powerful) to be responded to, by their negative ego, rather than their more real Self. When you have no ability to discern your negative ego and your healthy self, the actions and sense of being powerful can look similar. The way to know truly won’t be from any outside validation, it will be from you truly knowing by how you feel inside. Because of that projection, you cannot put a value on there perception. Self-esteem is “the love you earn” true confidence bolsters self esteem. If you feel confident you will tend to not feel the need to argue the point. You won’t praise your own position, as in, “I told you so”, or those types of responses, those are the ways the negative ego cheapens the power and what could have bolstered self esteem, goes to the ego. So it feels like a quick hit, rather than a deeper knowing of yourself. It is also wise when getting the feedback you’re arrogant, to really see emotionally inside whet did your response come from? Anger, an emotional upset of some kind? If you’re cutting someone with your response or diminishing them, it could be coming from a negative ego-position. Only you can know the difference, so check yourself and see where the response stemmed from emotionally. If you were triggered and responded inappropriately to the situation, it could be arrogant. If you felt positive, truly coming from a place of self love, and expressed yourself, likely you weren’t arrogant, you were confident. You feel an internal value for yourself, and self esteem was bolstered.

Certain people say I sound arrogant or like an "a word" when I speak. It's not on purpose. What can I do to sound friendly?

When I was younger, I suffered from fairly bad social phobia. I was always hyperconscious of how I came across to others. As an adult, one strategy I’ve found that works for me to come across better to people is to observe and imitate them.When I say “imitate,” I don’t mean “impersonate.” What I mean is that you listen to them, get a feel for the way they speak, their mannerisms, their interests, etc. If it’s someone you know a bit, you probably already have a feel for these things. Then, when speaking to them, you make subtle adjustments to the way you communicate that are in line with the way that person speaks - not to the degree that you are putting on an act, only to speak in a way that is more like them. If they throw in a lot of casual words, like “you know” and “like,” do the same, in similar places, or an equivalent thing that comes more naturally. If they move their hands a lot, do that.My natural way of speaking tends to be very proper and somewhat academic-sounding. It takes some effort for me to make my speech less formal. I used to think of it as “dumbing down” my speech, but it’s not that. It’s adapting it to a particular context. It takes practice, but eventually you learn to pick up on other’s cues and make adjustments.