When faced with emotional blackmail, how should you respond? The person in question is a narcissist.
If you are aware of what is happening and what game this individual is trying to play, don’t get caught up in it, be clear in your own mind what is happening, this actually sounds like you may be engaging with someone that has Borderline traits mixed in with the narcissistic tendencies as well, this sounds like a very likely scenario.I’ve experienced something similar myself.I’ve been there and the thing that worked for me was making my boundaries very clear what I wouldn’t put up with the games my “friend”wanted to play, no matter how innocuous she pretended they were at the time.Don’t engage keep away from the game playing and warn others if necessary. If things become more tricky, unpleasant or even compromise your value system, or in my case threaten a relationship that I felt had a future (I really cared for this man) bail out, don’t give them the opportunity/satisfaction of destroying what you value the most for a bit of a mindless, one-up-manship & a heartless thrill and your left looking like an idiot, they walk away thinking they’ve again played a game that others don’t know how to, and the smirk of self satisfaction on her face, then looking out for the next unsuspecting kindhearted soul. If your instinct says somethings not right it probably isn’t. This is the best way of dealing with this type of personality.
How do I deal with a friend who is emotionally blackmailing me? She just got out of an abusive relationship.
I want to point out that not all abusive relationships are “one abuser, one victim”. They can both be abusive, one can abusive and the other manipulative, or something in between.It’s possible that’s happening here. Her leaving an abusive relationship does not (a) automatically make her a vulnerable, innocent victim and (b) does not explain or excuse her blackmailing you.
What are the ways to counterattack emotional blackmailing? I am a sensitive person, so my family members (including my spouse and mum-in-law) emotionally blackmail me to do things I don't want to do.
This is a common mistake to believe you are being blackmailed. You are not. You are just being taken advantage of. It’s all because you lack a very simple answer in your vocabulary. The answer is “no”. You can say it. I know it feels foreign and weird but it’s simple and it works. Just “no”. It doesn’t have anything following it. There is no explanations or reasons why. You aren’t required to offer those. Just practice saying it out loud. So, the next time you don’t want to do something and the loved ones are guilting you, just say no. If they are persistent in wanting an explanation that you don’t owe them, just say “because I don’t want to “. For far too long have you been a doormat that people have walked all over. Try this out and earn some respect. Are you going to ruffle feathers? Possibly, but you will gain a spine and maybe a set of balls. At the end of the day, you will be anew. Winning and respected.
Are my parents emotionally blackmailing me?
I am a 17 year old girl and I recently got a job as a call centre Representative. I've been really excited about he job since I had to go through 2 interviews to get it and it pays really well. I've been talking to my parents about getting a car for 3000 dollars and how excited I am to start saving for it.I want to save 500 dollars per paycheck for about 3 solid months to get a good car. I got my first check on Monday for 900 dollars and already my parents took 600 of it. My dad said he needs money to go to New York for his job because all of his last check went to the rent, and then my mom said I needed to pay the family cell phone bill since we have no money and it got cut off. I freaked out because my parents say they'll pay me back but they never have any money. They NEVER do. They couldn't even pay 80 dollars for me to take an AP test (yet my dad has plenty of money for beer and my mom has plenty of money to go "thrifiting" wherein she spends 200 dollars minimum.). They snap at me if I ask for my money back, which is a sign they never have any intention of paying me back. They keep yelling a me calling me a selfish t*wat and how they can't wait to throw me out at 18. I just want a car so bad and as soon as I start saving they just take it. They say they will pay me back but they've never paid me back for anything. I just want a car so badly, more than anything else and it's so disheartening that they're taking all my first check money for themselves. What can I do? I can't hide my checks, when my payday comes my parents force me to go cash it and give to them. I just recently found out my dad took Another 200 dollars from my account to pay for his hotel room in new york for his job. This time without informing me. I tried to ask why they didn't tell me but my mom snapped at me and told me to get away from her. My mom just woke me up at 4 in the morning (after it took me hours to go to sleep over this) to tell me she found out I spent my last 60 dollars on some shoes. She woke me up to yell at me and call me selfish because my dad needs my money to pay for his bags. he's just told me I'm walking to work because she refuses to drive someone as selfish as me. I can't stop crying right now. How am I supposed to work full time from 9-5 with no ride, and only 3 hours of sleep. I feel sick to my stomach someone help me please.
What do I do when someone is emotionally blackmailing me, and I am really feeling guilty about him/her?
It sounds like its really effecting you on many levels. Is there any way to cut this person totally out of your life. If this person can't be totally cut out and never heard from again then you need to seperate yourself from them as much as possible (Change jobs, schools, phone numbers, move, emails, etc.) And if you cut them out it HAS to be everything. You also need to be prepared because the person who is attached to you seems to have some control issues and finds it necessary to control others. They will try to manipulate you through friends or other means. Be ready for the realization that you may lose some other mutual friends or contacts if this happens. This is my opinion take it with a grain of salt.
Afraid to get out of an emotional blackmail relationship?
I have been stuck in a rut of a relationship for like a year and half. It started off very good of course like any other relationship. But it soured and we have been bouncing off and on. I know i should be getting out of it, but I have no courage to do it. I am afraid that if i break it off, I will regret it and it will totally kill me to see him with another girl. But on the other hand, being with him, i dont have a freedom of speech, when i raised my voice in disagreement, he puts me down. I feel I dont have room to breathe or be myself and i tried to communicate but always get interrupted by him telling me MY errors. When i question him how to be a better person or to work the relationship, he would not tell me what to do, rather he question me by saying ,"What do YOU think you should do." It has gotten to the point where he said, we cannot have a social life together, my friends are my friends. We have been on and off and yeah we lived together but I've moved out.
Can a non custodial parent get away with emotionally blackmailing the child?
My 4 yr old grandson says his dad tells him that his mom is stupid and calls her names when he picks him up and then when my grandson calls his step dad, daddy in the biological dad, the dad says he can't call the step dad that and if he does it again he will not come and get him any more. He also said that the dad told him that the dad's mom, is the 4 year old real mom. What can my daughter do about this? My grandson doesn't want her to say anything any more because he says he gets in trouble with the dad when he visits, for telling on him. My grandson since he has started having to see his dad, now says that he is stupid or dumb or that he should just die, talking about himself. He never was like this before the court order.