How to comfort someone who lost someone in 9/11?
u know the thing i always say when someone looses them is that the person who died must have been really important especially in this case since it was his mom tell him since his mom is looking at him SHE wouldnt be happy to see her beloved son be upset and when someones gone there never really gone you always have your heart to hold a place and just remember there always watching out for you now that they are in heaven they are finally free cant feel pain doesn't have to deal with the downside in life and that she always loved him no matter what
My mom is crying and I don't know what to do?
Comfort your mom and be there for her...and stay out of the fighting issue...but let her know that you hate that he causes her so much pain and that you support a decision if she would like to leave him... of course fighting doesn't make anyone laugh...but always fighting is a great sign that things are not working out now and perhaps never will... so just be there for her and let her feel your comfort...okay!!
Babysitting and kid won’t stop crying for his mum how do I comfort him?
His parents are on holiday, they’ve paid me a lot of money for what I thought was an easy job, sleep over, keep the house clean and look after their children, I’ve babysat for them before but never over night the little boy keeps crying for his mommy, I had to let him sleep with me last night I put him to bed at 7pm but he didn’t go to sleep till about 2 or 3 am, he kept saying “I really miss my mommy look she left her suitcase behind how can she go on holiday without her suitcase” he’s ok during the day, I keep him occupied with games and I took him to the park and he’s happy it’s only at night he cries and when I call his parents to let him speak to them it ony makes it worse, as he screams and kicks and throws a terrible tantrum his parents won’t be back for another 6 days, his other siblings are fine they’re older so they understand before they left they gave me strict orders to make sure the kids are in bed at 7 sharp no matter how much they cry, the other listen and go to bed, but straight away he starts crying for his mother I don’t know what to do even if I lay next to him and pretend I’m going to sleep too, he still cry’s???
How to Comfort Mom after Dad Cheated on her?
During May (which is Summer) dad was caught cheating on mom... they had a fight and mom decided to take me and my 7 years old brother away from him but he didn't agree with it... mom really cried and I really wanted to cheer her up but i don't know how. But after a week or two they got back together again. NOW mom just called in the phone, she sounded as if she was spying on my dad's facebook and was like " do you see other pictures in his facebook? message me after you check kay?" .... Dad is not with me anymore he's in Qatar,.. Mom is in Saudi they both work away from the two of us. I know that dad is CHEATING ... AGAIN with that girl who works in qatar... mom can't stop that coz she's far away from him.. I just want to comfort her?? PLEASE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE!!! " i just want her to open up with me... =( Dad is such a Jerk. When it was still summer i really felt bad, he was NOT the father I knew. He's a NOBODY, a mother ****** from hell. and I hate him. he hurts my mom ... I don't even talk to him very much anymore. I want him to feel like he's not a part of this family anymore and he is not our dad and he will never be our dad again. btw, i'm still 14 so please help me i have NO idea on what to do with my mom...
When I am upset, my mom never comforts, tells me I'm only upset because there is something wrong with me that I need to fix. What is this philosophy?
You are entitled to your feelings. You are entitled to your reactions so long as you aren't harming anyone. To say otherwise suggests that something is wrong with her not you.Generally that something is called being callous, unsupportive, or even emotionally abusive depending on how it's done. When you care about someone, the usual response is to try to help them, not deny their feelings. By saying there's something wrong with you, she's trying to deny that your feelings are legitimate. It's wrong to do that. Just in case you may want to research gaslighting, and see if it applies to your situation.Assuming that you don't actually have something wrong with you, like a personality disorder, to where you get upset over things you shouldn't, all this is just wrong. You deserve support.
My boyfriends mother cheated on his father, I don't know what to say?
So my boyfriend who is very close to his mother and walked in on his parents arguing 2 nights ago - and later found out that his mother had, had an affair with her "close friend". He always talks to me about the problems between his parents, how they both really love each other (and it is very obvious they do love each other), however, his father is ALWAYS at work. He has 2 younger brothers and a little sister and his dad has not been there for his little sister or youngest brothers first birthday and didn't even make it to his youngest brothers birth in may and saw her half an hour after he was born - purely because he is a surgeon at the hospital and was leaving work then and brang them home together. My boyfriend always says how his father is a workaholic - and had good reasons for this. He wants to give his wife and children everything and they do have a wonderful house and excellent education, not to mention medical care. But his mother obviously wants him around, which i completely understand. She feels very lonely and cannot cope with the kids all by herself - She also has just told my boyfriend that she is 11 weeks pregnant so has this added stress. She is very "close friends" with Josh's friends from schools dad (Josh is my boyfriends brother). He is a single dad and everytime I have ever been there they don't seem like anything but friends and he supposedly helps her out with the kids and around the house. My boyfriend claims his mother is not a liar (and she seems absolutely lovely, and very kind) so I kind of believe it too - But I really don't want to say anything incase it turns out its a lie or be horrible about his dad incase it turns out him and his dad are fine in the end. But she claims it was only once and that it was a moment of weakness when she was feeling alone and she hasn't spoke to him sinse as she believes he took advantage of her while she was very low emotionally. Will's dad left with Nathen (the youngest) and Lily his sister and stayed at my boyfriends grandparents sinse the arguement and says how could he trust his wife and trust that the child shes carrying is his. I really want to console him, and he keeps trying to console in me but I really don't know what to say. Its a very complex situation that I don't feel I can give an opinion on, but I can't not comfort my boyfriend. Ahh, thanks for reading all that!
How do you comfort a friend whose mother is ill?
We know each other very very well. Very close friends. His mom is ill, and currently undergoing surgery. She's in her mid-sixties, and there's concern about cancer, and whether or not she'll survive it if that's the case...I don't know what to say. What DO I say? And even more so...if his mother dies, I seriously...I question his ability to cope. I mean, I'm sure he'll be ok, it's just...I know him, and I have a terrible feeling about this. If this happens, how would I bring him out of it? Frankly...I'm scared to death for him for his family. What should I do? I'm no psychic, but sometimes you can just see things coming and...I just don't know what to do. He's completely shut down over smaller things. How would he react to this? I don't want to think that the worst will happen. I hope and feel that she'll make it. But...what if she doesn't? What will happen to Adrian?
How can I comfort my best friend after her mom died?
One of my best friend's mom died a couple of days ago and I found yesterday from my best friend through text at work. I told her my condolences and I'm meeting her trmw. Not sure where though because we don't want to go somewhere public because its going to be too much for her. But I don't know how to comfort her. We both lost our friends in middle school a couple of years ago but this is completely different because this was her mom. I don't know what to do and I hate being helpless when it involves with my friends.
My Grandpa is about to pass how do I console my Mom?
I come from a difficult childhood with my parents (which are divorced for 8 years now) But because of that now that everyone has healed I am very close to both of them. Especially my mom who since i had the hardest time with. We are now best friends. I am now 20, and my Grandpa is about to pass. He is the greatest man I have ever meet in my life. It is my Mom's Dad. And It is going to be hard for me but one of the hardest things that will happen in her life. But I have realized I am going to have to be strong for her and need to keep my head on straight, But my question is what is the best way for me to console my Mom, I am very worried about me not doing a good job. I am in ruins and any suggestions would help.
Should I support my mom after my dad yelled at her?
You should not take sides when your parents argue - you don't have all the details, you don't know the full story, and given that a parent can belittle another one in front of their kids (of whatever gender) means that this person has no filter between their brain and their mouth.And this is the point where you don't get involved because, if the argument escalates, you don't sound to be of legal age and able to just get up and leave your parental home.You can and should stand up when you are an independent person, and when you know the full history behind the issue (that "stuff" could have been very important to your parent and you just don't quite know that), and when you can have a say in that, "...apologize or else.." and able to act on that "else" point.Until then, comfort the parent that's in distress, and make sure that your own choice of a spouse is better than the example you see in front of you.