For pro-lifers, what are the benefits of forcing a woman to give birth to a child she wants to abort?
Where to begin, where to begin...Let's start with the basics. Abortion kills an innocent child. Most legal systems - the US included - but you did not specify where you are from, recognize that an individuals' rights can be limited when exercising that right interferes with the rights of another person. Examples are: you have the right to free speech, but, not to incite a riot, you have freedom of the press, but not to libel. In the case of abortion, the right to life of the child supersedes the rights of the mother to an abortion. It really is that simple.To your example, would you suggest solving the problem of the verbally abused child or the neglected teen by killing the abused children or neglected teens? I'm guessing the answer to that would be "no" so why would you suggest abortion as a better alternative when the aborted child just might end up verbally abused or neglected? After all, at that point the child might also end up in a loving family either through adoption or by staying with his or her birth parents. Also plenty of people go through rough childhoods and end up being successful adults. If you disagree, you might want to look into the Barack Obama's childhood or Bill Clinton's. The reality is that abortion was once thought of as a solution to a whole list of problems that actually got worse after abortion became legal. Child poverty was one of them. One of the arguments made for abortion in the US around the time it was made legal was child poverty would be reduced and possibly eliminated. Now look at what actually happened when abortion was legalized in 1973:Source: Poverty in the United States Rather than reducing or eliminating child poverty, what actually happened is that years of reductions in the rate of child poverty ended and the rate actually increased. So, not only did the predicted results not happen, the evidence suggests it made it worse.So, kill millions of innocent children and the problem becomes worse. How can people be so rude as to think there is something wrong with that?Pretty easily. And we get pilloried for it. Go figure.
My Parents don't want us together....?
You know, when I was 16, I thought I was in love with a girl. I thought she was all I ever wanted, But, I made a promise to my mother not to go through high school stuck to one person and end up being miserable the rest of my life for lost opportunities. I explained it to the girl and she agreed with me. From then until I was 24, I dated several wonderful girls and had so much fun. When I met my wife, I knew, based on my experience, that I wanted her as my wife and I proposed on our first date. 1 month later, we were married. 19 years later, I am still madly in love with my wife and am so glad that for once in my life, I listened to my mom. Actually, I listened to her a lot and learned a great deal from this woman who Loved me unconditionally and only wanted to see me happy. What I am trying to say is that while you may feel that you love this boy now, You don't know how you will feel in a year from now and if you spend all of your youth on him alone, you may come to regret the lost opportunities which will turn into a resentment of him for what he took from you. Please don't rush into anything that you will live to regret. If you were raised to be mature, then you should understand that the mature thing to do is Honor your parents and Respect yourself enough to slow things down a little. As it sounds like you are already having sex with the young man, you should start getting prepared to be a mommy soon and on your own because your young man won't stick around when he finds out your pregnant. Don't tell me that you practice safe sex because the only safe sex is no sex. I am sorry that you can't talk to your parents about this because they are who you need to talk to. As a father of 5 daughters I found that when I talk to them with an open mind and not throwing accusations around, I accomplish more than when I yell or threaten or make unrealistic demands. I think that you are an intelligent young woman who needs to slow down a little and realize that you won't be young soon and will regret the things you missed if you don't slow down a little.
My husband left me & kids, moved to another state- wants me to move there now but not be together...should I?
We had a very crappy marriage that I wanted to repair but he didnt so he moved out of state to live with his mom. He was a stay at home dad and raised out 3 & 6 yr old 50/50. They miss him and he misses them. But he's an ***...and everyone in my family says I shouldn't follow him, afterall, he left us. He wants me to find a place so he can visit them on daily basis but says he never wants to get back together with me. I have a business here and my family here...but my kids cry for their dad almost every day & night. What would you do?
What are the benefits of teaching children how to be a critical thinker in life?
Hi there.You asked me of the benefits of teaching critical thinking to kids?I couldn't think of anything more important than this. CT needs to be instilled to kids as early as they can. By acquiring the power of reason, they will protect themselves from:Bullied by peers, overspending allowance, unnecessarily involved in accidents, misinterpreted by others, doing ignorant things, and the lis will go on and on forever.Having CT skills, kids will:Tap to their innate child inquisitiveness (kids are very inquisitive in nature, unless be suppressed). They will question everything. The want answer to everything. They will be more successful, much earlier, than regular kids in life/social life/academics.However, CT doesn't have a full stop. It actually is a lifelong learning experience. That is the very reason why kids should be exposed to CT as early as they can. After all, you want your kids to be more intelligent, more emphatic and better than you in every way possible, right?The only downside of this (teaching CT to kids) are:It's damn tiring at first. You can't escape kids questions by giving illogical, fairy tale like answers anymore. By the time they get the gist of CT, everything will instead, be much easier. Trust me. Your kids won't run away with unknown Harley Davidson rider, take Meth, or hogging on your wallets, when they reach teenager stage.I hope this answer, which actually have been written from a different perspective in mind from my usual self, helps.
Why do people want kids?
I'm a 25 year old guy and have no desire for kids, My fiance does want kids but I don't see why and dhe doesnt know why she wants one. I just don't see the point of it going through 9 months of being pregnant and feeling bad,loosing your good figure( somtimes permently) then the massive pain of labor,just to be stuck with some little person who just lays there and cries and poops and is completely helpless for atleast the first 5 years. I just don't know why somone would want to willingly want to take on such a huge responsibility then once you raise them and do a good job you have to deal with the chance of them turning out to be drug addicts or criminals. I just don't get the point. I'd rather spend the money that rasing a kid anf sending them to college costs on a nice boat and a plane (I'm a pilot) The whole needing somone to take care of me when I'm old reason is dumb because even if I had kids I don't want to be burden to them and will put myself in a home if it comes to that.
Why should we get married? After all, dating, living together is not the same as being married?
If you have kids, it makes it clear cut to the outside world and to the child that mummy and daddy love each other and will be there throughout the child's youthful days. This brings great comfort to children.There's the money thing. If you have more money that what it costs to pay your rent, utilities, and food, it makes it clear cut to the outside world and to the two of you who gets what if one of you dies or even worse, gets permanently disabled. What? Permanent disability is worse than death? It sure is financially. If you die; at least your spouse gets insurance payouts and access to pensions. If you ain't married, at the back of your mind you can't help but wonder what he will do for you if you're in a wheelchair for the rest of your life. You can't help but wonder if he's comatose in hospital and his relatives don't like you how on Earth are you going to get to visit him? It's your relatives sitting by your bedside waiting for you to wake up. He has no right to be there. Thus, you'd better hope your relatives let him in to see you.Generally, if you're young and child-free you don't need to be married at all. If you want marriage and he doesn't, then get a will and a healthcare power of attorney drawn up so that you have all the legal benefits of marriage without the sloppy mess of a wedding. If the only thing holding him back is a fear of divorce, then get a prenup that cuts you out of the pudding if you dump him and cuts him out of the pudding if he dumps you. Most prenups are one-way; having a two-way one ensures each person that it is indeed a forever vow and commitment.
Why do single men without children go on dates with single mothers, then tell her after the date that they don't want to date someone with kids?
I’ll answer this from the other side. I’m a man with children. I have three. I have an unusual parenting schedule. Any woman I have dated knows immediately that my children come first. Now, after a little time I’ve made a concession here and there. The first few years I never missed a weekend. Never. Now, after 7 years I might miss a few per year and fight for make up time. Also, their mom will take them on trips where I’ll miss a weekend. I do not want the kids to miss out on a ski trip or other fun excursion so I don’t put up too much of a fight. I’ll plan “us time” around their schedule. “My Kids will be away X days. Let’s get away and do something.”Women with kids understand. Women without kids or empty nesters understand…at first. Eventually, it wears thin. I get that. My relationships with women without kids never worked out and it was always about the kids, my time and what I put myself through to get time with them. I enjoyed those relationships as each one enriched me in some way, but I have no regrets.To answer your question, I had one woman with whom I had a great relationship who did not have Kids say to me, “I think to myself, he is good and kind. He has amazing emotional intelligence. He treats me great. We have such a great connection. Why should I hold it against him that he has kids?” Ultimately, she was trying to sell herself on me and clearly put my kids in the negative column. It was not the only thing that broke us up. I have to take responsibility beyond the kids, but in the long run, she would never be able to relate. She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t.My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine. She is very understanding of my situation and aware that I give our relationship all the attention I can. I’m lucky we found each other. I should tell her more often.
Would you date a single mother?
I have had relations with a beautiful girl a year older than me. We just spoke today for the first time in about a year. We were doing well and at the time she had one kid. She is a wonderful mother and her kid is a sweetheart. She is everything that I wanted. We cooked some kick ass dinner and played with her kid until he went to sleep. Once he would go to sleep we would watch movies and go to sleep. With as much as I work, I couldn't picture a better Saturday night.Things kept going well until the father of her child wanted a second chance. She came over one afternoon and cried her eyes out telling me that she was sorry but it's the best for her kid. I was upset but I fully understood and encouraged her to do what is best for her child. We stopped talking until she called me about 2 months after she got back with the father of her child. She called to tell me she was pregnant. Normally I am all for sex. I'm a man, that's all we care about right? I told her that I wouldn't have sex with her until I knew we were exclusive and her child wasn't around. Because of this we never had sex so I knew the child wasn't mine. She was pregnant with the boyfriend she has just got back with. Now she has 2 kids and wants to pick up where we left off.I'm not sure the exact reasoning behind it, but I do not have desire to continue pursuing anything with her. Nothing past friendship level. I honestly don't know if it is because she has two kids now or if it is because I'm worried she will just cut me off again.I would date a female with 1 child that wasn't planned. Any more than that would be iffy, but I am a 20 year old trying to figure life out. I need to worry about my own life before I worry about a woman with 2 kids.