Dealing with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
You have the right to be protected from your mom's predatory boyfriend(s) and she has shown great reluctance to do so. Based on that, you need have no regard for your mother's feelings in doing the following: When she is not home (nor anyone else), pack a bag with the things you shouldn't lose (birth certificate, ssn card, education and work records, personal photographs, personal correspondence, school books, term papers, school work, library card, library books (return them), address book, Bible, some clothes, and anything that you don't want your mom to destroy). Don't forget to scrub your computer and cell phone. Then take that bag with you and go to the police station. Ask to speak to a woman police officer. You tell them that you want to be placed in a foster or group home for your personal safety. Print out what you wrote to us (so you won't have to explain it again) and show it to the officer and ask for her help. Tell her that you have already been raped once by one of your mom's boyfriends and you are afraid that it will happen again (he offered you alcohol, wants you to wear a bikini...he could have taped you changing...are you sure he didn't?). And make sure you tell her where and how he touched you and the other things he said! Please do this tomorrow, if you can! The police officer will make sure this won't happen again. I expect your mother will lose custody of you and she may even get into trouble. I don't care and you shouldn't either. Her number one responsibility is to her minor child, not her boyfriend! Take care and please let me know when you are safe (or have the police officer do it).
Is a mom cuddling with her 17 year old son inappropriate?
Let me tell you, I am a 17 year old girl and that is super super major weird on so many levels. He should be cuddling with a girlfriend. If this continues, he will most likely never get a girlfriend because he will be to emotionally attached to his mother. Sorry, i am picturing this, it is just super creepy. It's not really inappropriate, its just wrong... please for the sake of this child stop. 17 year old boys or girls should not cuddle parents it's just to.. i have no words
My mom is acting inappropriately?
I'm 13 and my mom is 29. She had me when she was 16 and dropped out of highschool. My dad left when I was 10 after he got some other girl pregnant and I haven't seen him since. My mom was really upset by this and started acting different. My mom lost her job as a waitress and is living off of inheritance from my grandma. She blew money on breast implants and a ton of skimpy clothing. She wears little tank tops that barely covers her breasts, never wears a bra, shorts, skirts and dresses that let her buttcheeks hang out and let's them ride up to wear she's almost "showing everything". She god out and parties and then brings random guys home and has sex with them. She picks me up at school wearing her skimpy clothing and all the guys stare at her. Everyone at my school thinks she's a slut. She flirts with all dads at my school. The last straw was when I came home from lacrosse practice and my friend's dad was sitting on the couch in his boxers drinking a beer. He said hi to me, then my mom walked downstairs as she put her dress on and acted like it was no big deal. She slipped on high heels and the guy put on his pants and shirt. She told me they'd be back at 10pm. She returned at 11pm with a different man who she then had sex with. When she goes to my lacrosse games she doesn't pay attention cause she's busy flirting with other guys and she's even left a game to have sex in a car in the parking lot. She's sometime brings several guy home to have sex with at the same time.help!
My brothers best friend touched me inappropriately. Help?
My brothers best friend Adam (a very hot 18 yr old) came over to hang out and spend the night. I felt sorta lonely, since my Mom was out with her friends, so I invited my best friend Allison over. We humg out upstairs until the upstairs air conditioner blew out, so we stayed downstairs. When my brother went to make some popcorn, and Allison went to use the bathroom. Adam came to me and said, "Your really hot" and made out with me I guess. I tried to push him away, but he kept kissing me for about ten more seconds, then went to sit down. Thats when I felt something slide down from my body. It was bra, he unhooked it. I really didnt know how. That night, we all slept downstairs cause it was cooler. So like, wayyyy deep into the night, I felt hands rub me senseless. I opened my eyes,and Adam was lying next to me, rubbing my butt, and kissing my neck. I jumped, and began punching and kicking, but he had ripped my shirt open, and climbed on top of me and began kissing me. He unhooked my bra again, and squeezed my boobs. I pucnehd at him, but he's super tall. So he climbed off of me, and tried taking my underwear off,but I kicked his face. He yelled, then ran back to his spot on the floor and fell asleep. When I woke up the next day, he was gone. So, wwas it more of a rape, or did he just touched me wrongly. IDK if I should really tell my brother cause Adam's been his best friend since kindergarten. HELP?!
How to deal with an 8 year old girl who does inappropriate things?
I have a step daughter that is 8 years old. I hope I explain things in a way that make sense here. First, she lies and is very good at it. She will tell lies about small things like 'No, I did not do that' but what is worse is she will lie on people. She lied on me to her mother two weeks ago and almost had the police called on me. 'She slaps me and pulls my hair' was what she said. None of it was true. Besides the lies, she has a really odd interest in boys. Her older brother has a friend. She wrote that she wanted to touch, and to kiss that older boy. She writes that she thinks that some of the neighborhood children are "hot and sexy." This should not be going through an 8 year old child's mind!! And lastly she tries to dress inappropriately. She had a party dress that was black with pink on it that I had to take away from her because she actually weirded me out by how she was acting in it. She was not walking, she was strutting and trying to get outside to be seen in it. She will try to modify her clothing to look sexy. She will pull her pants down to show her butt. This has happened more than once and the only solution I had for it was to make her wear a pair of overalls when she was caught doing it. And the last thing is this: she tries to show herself to grown men and her brother's friends. I watched her one day pull her pants down about four inches with her back facing a room of men for about three seconds (exposing most of her bottom) and then pulled them back up. When confronted about it she said that she was scratching but there was no scratching motion. She tries to change in front of people and will even run out naked in front of people. This happened to my brother- she ran out of the shower and was trying to dance and just acting stupid in general. I know I already said that she lies but it's worth mentioning again. She will try to make me look like a liar if I confront her with what she does. She actually told her daddy that I was lying on her last night when I told on her for teasing the baby. And when she is either lying or afraid she will be caught she looks directly at me and goes to either sit with her daddy or hugs him telling him that it's not true. She can turn crying on and off at will and manages to fool pretty much everyone. If this was your child what would you do? Any advice would be helpful!
At what age does it become inappropriate for parents to bathe or shower with their children? Or having them see you naked in general?
As others have said, this partly depends on culture differences, but...It can also depend on other factors. I'm a mother of two boys and two girls. The first boy still took a shower with me when he was three, but it stopped before he was four; I can't remember exactly when. It was my choice, even though there were not issues. (Note: I bathed my infants safely until they could sit up, and then they'd take showers with me. Whereas either my husband and I rinsed them in the shower a few times, we avoided that, since really it's potentially dangerous.)Then my second boy, who is four years younger than the firstborn, showered with me until he was around two. He was simply too curious and touchy. He started bathing with his older brother, but that soon came to and end as well, because he wanted to touch the older brother. So I had to talk to him. I'd have to bathe him separately to get him clean. Besides that, the then six year old boy had already reached the age—for him—at which he didn't want to be seen naked nor wanted to see us that way. The younger boy is now 8.5 and sometimes shows up in front of someone naked and doesn't make a big deal over it. The two girls still shower with me. One is six, and the other is about to turn four. They sometimes take a bath in the garden tub, but they otherwise shower with me. It's no problem. I remember my younger sister and I taking a shower with my mother. No problem. We stopped sometime a few years before our teens. As a teen, my best friend and I showered together whenever we'd spend the night together. No big deal. My girls are beyond taking a shower with their dad, but that was cut off around three. He sometimes showers in the morning, in addition to the regular night shower, and the kids thought it was fun to get in, too. The boys did when they were little, too. They'd sit in there for awhile, then I'd get them out and dry them. I wouldn't see a problem with the boys still showering with their dad, bit neither want to. The oldest is VERY private, lol, and he's every bit as respectful to others' privacy.
Is it inappropriate for a 16 year old to hangout with 20 year olds?
Generally speaking, no. Only because I used to be that 16 year old that hung out with older people. They can be the most decent people in the world, but that doesn't change the fact that they are 20something and they WILL try to have sex with her. I know, I know... it's closed minded to say that... doesn't matter, life experience has taught me better. Male friends are great, and most of my friends are male, but when you are much younger it's a little more difficult to spot the ones who are *****. Let's be honest with ourselves, 20something year old guys will have sex with anything. And depending on where you live, that could be considered rape. I guess it also depends on the 16 year old, let's say she's emancipated and/or in college (I've known several people who went to college early). Then I guess she can do whatever she wants. The fact that you say that her mom lets her do whatever she wants tells me everything I need to know, really. Parents who let their kids do whatever they want, are not parents who think about the consequences.