Why would a narcissist send me a text "how are you" and then go silent again after I responded?
He sent you that text to see if you (his past supply) was still available. You did exactly what he wanted you to do and that was to respond. He now knows that you do not have his number blocked, that you are available to him whenever he wants however he wants and that he can always depend on you being the go to supply person when he is ready for you.He just gave you a snap shot of what you will be to him when he comes back, the same as you were when you were with him, nothing. You showed him the crack that he didn’t think was there and he will use it to open the door or window wider.You will be the continued supply or you will shut that door permanently but you cannot allow a narcissist to be a part of your life again thinking that things will be different, they won’t. Things will be worse because he knows that you are okay with him treating you any kind of way, using you for sex while he grooms his next target, disrespecting you to the level he knows he will do, and then tossing you aside again knowing you will be there when he comes back yet again.That’s why he sent you that text, testing your weakness for him and his bullshit!
What should I do to always get motivated?
Determine Your goal (That must be realistic) , Remember to Break the Goal Down Into Smaller Pieces ,So it could be easy for You In doing the things Better, Then Set Your target well (By knowing Your strengths and weaknesses) , Get Everything (All the resources) Organized well . Then Plan accordingly Step by step , Strive for it , Please Do Remind Yourself Why You Set The Goal. Remind yourself of your goals. Always Do Your best in accomplishing the tasks . Make to reward yourself every time you achieve your weekly goals. Put Your Hundred percent efforts in it . Never give up In between. Remember Hard work is the key to success And also Do smart work with little logics . If You want to Have Desired Result So Then You need to work hard for now. The one who Don't work at all doesn't have right to cry for the things he lost. Tomorrow Result depends upon Your Today's Contribution .So Don't stop The battle. Get inspiration By reading Successful people's articals , Biographies and Watch motivational stories or speeches. Don't be lazy , Always stay fit , be energetic and Active. If possible Get Counseling by professionals .Think Positive, Be positive,Have a positive attitude. Try to eat good and healthy food ,Avoid Oil , junk food so Your Mind can work Properly . Take some caffeine . Do Meditation , Yoga, Play games and Go to bed by Time. Focous On Your Aim. Visualise Your Dream future every day…So that Every second You will be alert to make that happen…Give Your whole Priority to Your Work itself.Give yourself breaks , Make some time for Yourself and After everything thing set well And then come back to work. Always make sure to keep the big picture in Mind. Eliminate your distractions. Make weekly checkpoints to track your progress . Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't Worry About What You Can't Control .Just Give Your Maximum Attempt To Reach Your target. All the best.I hope this may help You. Please let me know if there are any Grammatical mistakes , I”ll improve for next Time. Thank You_/\_ for reading :)
Do narcissists feel possessive of the exes they have dumped?
I will answer this based on my own experience. My ex had discarded me long before we actually went out separate ways. He may still feel possessive in the false confidence he has that I would return to him if he approached me. He is very smug and has oodles of confidence in himself. I have been no contact since the day I walked out of the door. To think he could get me back is where he thinks his power is. But he is with his new victim and i am the farthest thing on his feeble little mind. I like it that way. This is how possessive i thin they are of us. Hopefully it will help put something in perspective.~THE PAPER CUP ILLUSTRATION~ Human beings have no precious value to them... we are things to them, like implements of service. Imagine your abuser standing at a sink with running water, and mounted on the wall is a paper cup dispenser. In a long and unceasing succession, he grabs a cup, fills it and drinks, then crumples the cup, tossing it over his shoulder to the floor. As he has been performing this with one hand, the other has been simultaneously following suit ...grabbing yet another cup to be filled, used and discarded so the supply comes without a break. We are paper cups to them. Fill-use-discard, fill-use-discard...on and on and on, never any care or satisfaction. Never. This illustrates just how shallow and inhuman they are.I hope this has helped, I have found this group of survivors to be a big help and am so happy we can help each other. Have a wonderful day, keep your chin up, and be happy knowing you survived!!