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Proper etiquette about a headstone on a grave?

My condolences to you and your family. Grieving is a process that people handle differently. I/we lost our mom and grandma five days of each other, one year ago. These times of loss can be trying and tension can rise but trust the Lord in every instance of your life. Ask God to give you wisdom in this situation. God is not far from you (Proverbs 3:5,6 and James 1:4-9). Let Him work patience in you in dealing with your step-mom. Don't read into her intentions just trust God with yours and He will work it out. Love her as God commands us to one another (1John 4:7,8) and He will give her comfort and can soften her heart towards you to help bring this situation to a close.

Ephesians 5:15-17 - See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise,
16) Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17) Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.
God Bless You, is my prayer. That He may give you peace and comfort in the days ahead.

Can i have your advice and your opinions?

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All i would like is your honest opinion please x?
Im 22, my fiancee is 26. We have been with each other for just over 5 years and engaged since xmas, and living together since end of jan. After a 'scare' a few weeks ago we both decided we are ready to start trying for a baby. we both feel really ready for this, as there has been what i called phases we have both went through at separate times so this is the first time we have both wanted it.

I have just booked into my local family planning clinic to have my coil removed, which is scheduled for around the last day of my next period, providing it comes on time around the 10th May, meaning that if we are lucky i could get my BFP by June. Fingers crossed.

But there is one thing, i am due to start my final year of university in September, myself and my fiancee have sat and worked out dates ( well a pregnancy calculator did online lol) and it means that if i was to get pregnant in my first month, i would be due around feb time, meaning i only had 4 months of university left, while having the baby. So if we did not get our BFP in the first few months i would no be due until after graduation which would be in July sometime.

I currently have a part time job but would be able to get maternity leave for 9-12 months so would be able to use that time to be with my baby.

Would it be selfish of me to have a baby while finishing uni, as i have thought about it allot, and can use the creche facilities at my university while im there, so i am not expecting to off load my baby on anyone else, although my family would be very supportive.

Just would like ur opinions and advice on this.

Thanks x

It depends whether you're planning on spending Christmas together. If you are still spending Christmas with your individual families then break up beforehand so that he will have the sympathy and support of his family during the holidays (and a great excuse to act like an ass during a family get together). If however you're planning on spending the holidays together or with his family, then save it till January 2.

Personally I don’t like seeing it, but I do use it myself sometimes in cases where I’m a little frustrated, for example about:Someone made a request to me (or to nobody in particular) that’s unclear or lacks sufficient information that the person really should have provided.I received a comment that’s not even a request but more just stating a fact of some kind. I’m now wondering if action should be taken and if so, what action. I’m frustrated here with the lack of clarity, so my reply may end with a ‘Please advise.’A lot of discussion without any clear next steps or task assignment.Another advantage of using it is that it establishes very clearly to a casual reader on Cc that an issue is not with me, it is with the other person and I’m waiting for his/her input.For me personally I would never use it out of the blue in a first polite request for information.So yes, I do intend to be a bit more direct (possibly not crossing into rude) when I use it, although I see it enough to know that not everyone uses it that way.

May I have your advice?

Please call your nearest depression helpline, ASAP. It sounds like you have depression, a treatable illness.

Pessimism and negativity about the future naturally come with the depression. Many teenagers and young people also seem to go through a particularly hard stage with self-esteem, image and emotional issues.

Please don't ever try to kill yourself!! Imagine how your loved ones would feel. The anguish would never end for them. It would take a PERMANENT TOLL on them.

You don't have to kill yourself! You can have “a life” in JESUS (John 10:9-10)

In Jesus, life can be far better and peaceful, but the first step is to never give up on yourself!

PLEASE, pray to Him (Jesus.) Pour out your heartaches to Him. Trust me, Jesus Christ will HEAR your prayer, and can (with time,) heal ALL of your wounds.

Put your trust in Him, that He CARES about you, and will listen to your concerns. He LOVES you so much and even knew you when you were in your mother's womb!

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you...." - Jeremiah 1:5.

No matter who you are, God LOVES you and wants to give you a FUTURE and everlasting life.

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

That being said, suicide is a SIN. A sin that will send you to Hell (a place of eternal punishment and a place that there's no escape from.)

All those who reject Jesus Christ and die in their sins (and suicide,) will be cast into the 'Lake of Fire' (Hell) forever. Though one may not understand the severity of God sentencing a person to burn in Hell for all eternity, as punishment for sin, we must realize that God is far more holy and just than we could ever imagine.

Your life, and body belongs to GOD, who created you.

No one should ever even seriously consider something so foolish as killing one's self. I hope these few words have encouraged you.

I'll pray for you.

Third Marriage Etiquette?

Let's tackle the easiest part of your question first. Assuming your parents paid for your first two trips down the aisle, don't ask for a penny from anyone on your side of the family. They've done their part in that department, and this time it's your responsibility. Think of it this way: They'll have less reason to resent (or be cynical about) your remarriage if they aren't digging into their pocketbooks, and -- bonus -- they'll have less right to comment about preparations if they're not paying. Keep in mind, though, that your family may have doubts about this marriage, since it's your third one, and they may voice some of them -- so bite your lip and quietly prove them wrong. Eventually, when they see that you and your husband are blissfully happy together, they'll understand that the third time really was the charm for you.As for whom to invite, by all means go ahead and invite everyone you want to have at your wedding, and have the celebration you two crave. But if you feel uncomfortable about asking your relatives to shell out cash for a third gift, write on your invites, "Your presence is your present."

May I have your advice?

It is proper to give you former employer a two week notice that you are leaving. That means in order to start at the new job on June 12th, you must give your current employer notice today (Friday 5/26/06.)

I think it sounds okay, the new boss is probably just a bit anxious to get you started. Basically, you are his new purchase & he wants to show your stuff. A quick phone call to the new boss explaining that you want to give ample time to your current employer will show your integrity and loyalty to a job. I think the new boss will understand. If he doesn't understand then he is someone you don't want to work for or with. I would not say anything to your current job UNTIL you talk to the new boss. If the new boss doesn't return your phone call today, then keep pushing the 2 weeks from the date you speak to the new boss.

It is always a bit scary when making a change. Just trust your instincts, pray you are making correct decisions & don't burn any bridges, especially in the workforce. Word gets around fast and if you burn a bridge you could get a bad reputation. Employers in the same field get to know each other & talk.

Plus keep in mind that you do have a signed piece of paper stating the new job offer. Save that paper, God forbid anything would happen, you can use it in your defense.

You will have to pursue your dream. Later you should never complain that you have left your dream for your family. They will not be able to do anything in return for that and feel guilty for they have spoiled your life. Don't give them the guilty feeling. For you to decide also, you need to give it a try the opportunity in front of you. You should first attempt to join the dream course/job and see if you can live happily without your family being around. Otherwise as Arindam Pal said you will be an NRI in India. You may have to return to India and live happily with your family with the experience and memories of attempting your dream. All the best!

Oh my!! You're really past your limit of keeping calm, and trust me I understand your frustration. First thing you need to do is go to the park with your laptop. Leave your home for like 2 hours. Once you're at the park, enjoy your surroundings. Really, take in nature, to help calm you down. Now, most important, figure out a budget and decide whether you can afford to live on your own. Living by yourself is completely different. You have the rent to pay, utilities, cable. If you have pets, then a pet fee will be asked upon move in. Next you have your phone bill, your car note (if you have a car), your car insurance, health insurance (if you have to pay for it). Then you have to buy groceries, personal items, etc. That list is priority in that order (or something like it). Once you've made out your list, and your income can withstand what will be going out, then you should be ok. But from what it sounds like, you're really hard in your feelings. So don't make any rash decisions just yet, calm down first, because when emotions are high, logic is low, and we humans do stupid things when emotions are high.

Then I highly suggest that you talk to someone else… now. Your feelings of wanting to die are strong warning signs. I know, as I've been there too.Here are numbers you can call and talk to someone who can help. Please call at least one of them!!TEEN LINE | Teens Helping Teens - Connect, talk, get help!TEEN LINE | Teens Helping Teens - Connect, talk, get help!National Suicide Prevention Lifeline1-800-273-8255The Trevor Project — Saving Young LGBTQ LivesThe Trevor Project — Saving Young LGBTQ Lives